But I don't buy into that belief that it's about control. That's nonsense, that's like saying I pursued older women when I was a teen because I wanted a woman to mother me or be my mother figure. I don't buy into stuff like that. Most men want a younger female because they want a girl to be young for as long as possible. Youth is a very attractive feature, no one can deny this. Why do you think so many old women are constantly trying to stay young? Or use youth creams and shit...It's because they hate having to compete with younger females that a vast majority of both older and younger males go for over them. A lot of guys can't even stand older women. Which is why they avoid the shit out of them. And this even goes for men who have lots of money, power and influence.Pixel--Dude wrote: ↑January 22nd, 2024, 2:35 amWanderingProtagonist wrote: ↑January 22nd, 2024, 12:02 amWell I strongly disagree with this. If a man wants a date slightly under 18 and if he's legally allowed to then I don't see how that constitute as problematic. I don't see how it makes him less mature and not everyone wants someone their own age either, I don't want a damn 37 year old woman. Telling a man he shouldn't be messing around with 18 year olds is laughable. The only reason other nations are saying 18 and up it's because they do what America sorry ass tells them to.
It's problematic because even though these girls may be biologically developed they still act and think like kids or young teens. I've been to my friend's house before and her 18 year old daughter wad there. She's physically attractive, I won't lie. But when she starts talking and her mannerisms, mentality and personality and all the rest of it resemble someone closer to childhood than adulthood. I don't see what a grown man in his 30s or above would get out of such a relationship to be honest.
As a father to a little girl, if my daughter came home at 18 with a boyfriend in his 30s or 40s I would probably break his f***ing jaw. If my daughter had a boyfriend at that age at 14 or younger I would murder him. I'd strangle him to death with my bare hands.
I think there's more to it than just dismissing it as "because America tells them to!" Personally I don't give a f**k about America and what they say and I STILL think someone who wants to date a girl under the age of 18 is either a narcissistic control freak or someone with a young person mentality or otherwise someone who is a bit dodgy![]()
Throughout history people haven't always been the brightest bunch, have they? Besides which people throughout history were lucky to live to 40 years old. I don't see what them being able to kick my ass has anything to do with anything.But throughout history men have always chose younger females over older ones and this include men that can kick your ass too. Choosing a younger female doesn't disqualify a man as being someone who "needs to grow up." I call false on that under 18 means a person is still a child too. This is why Africans and Muslims are running wild all over Europe. They don't think this way in their society. And these men will go after younger girls, but who's ballsey enough to tell them they can't? Sure as hell isn't the white boys who are getting colonized like a bunch of stupid bitches fearing the word "You're racist."
Choosing a girl under 18 for a meaningful relationship probably does mean the man needs to grow up himself. What the hell does a girl that age have to offer a man other than a quick f**k followed by a petulant tantrum about something or other? You can call false on girls under 18 being children all you want. This may be true on a physical and biological level, but the reality is much more nuanced than that. A woman's prefrontal cortex doesn't develop fully until she's at least 25 years old. So when she's in adolescence she's nowhere near matured mentally in spite of the fact that biologically she might look in her prime physically.
What do you mean this is why Muslims and Africans are running all over Europe? What has that got to do with adolescence and mental maturity? You're just throwing in personal bias into a totally unrelated discussion.
Learning to survive in hostile environments or in situations such as an invasion do not constitute mental maturity or adulthood. That is something that is a natural process within the brain, that process isn't hastened by living a hard life.By 13 you are considered a grown man in Africa, not a child. And it's because of that mentality they come from a tougher environment than all these coddled ass mutha fuckers in White countries who can't even see that they are being invaded and shit by Islamic males and Africans because they don't have the foresight to defend their territory against men who were taught these things much younger. Even Vietnamese kids are smart enough to pick up a rifle and fight an invader trying to colonize them.
That's impressive! But again, military tactics and strategy doesn't mean someone is an adult or a child. Let's look at it like this: if we had a child chess prodigy who was an expert and beat absolutely everyone, even people double her age, but she was 10. Would it be acceptable to date her? Of course it wouldn't. You can't say someone is an adult based on how smart or adaptable they are. Its a biological and mental developmental process.You know how old Dante Masemune was in Japan when he lead his fathers army to battle and whooped ass everywhere he went? He was only 14 years old dude, not 20, not 30, 14 years old commanding a military and winning all over Japan. That "they are still kids" stuff is a bunch of nonsense. People are only kids because the Gov have kept people stuck in that mindset that they are children until they tell you when you can finally be a grown up. But you have "kids" who can build stuff now, owning their own businesses, and everything. I've known 16 year olds who live on their own. In China most kids are way ahead of kids in every other country because their parents teach them EVERYTHING at an early age. That is why they have such an advantage because they aren't coddled even in a communist country.
There is no green light from nature saying its okay to bang this girl because she's an adult or its not okay to bang this girl because she's not an adult etc, these are principles we've collectively agreed upon as a modern society. For a woman to be considered a woman who is fully developed that includes both physical biological maturity and also mental development.
You might have known what sex was at age 11, so what? I knew what murder was at the age of 12, does that mean it's okay to go out and kill someone? Why isn't it okay for me to go out and kill someone? Because we have collectively agreed as a species that murder is morally wrong. Is it okay to sleep with a child? Of course not! Because that is morally wrong. It's abuse. When does a child become an adult? This is the problematic question for which there is no right answer, but what is a certainty is that this isn't purely based on physical attributes its also a process of mental development. Yet another thing that we have agreed in modern society is that a woman is a child until age 18.In actuality age really don't mean shit. Unless you really are a child and or act like one. But by the time most people are 12 years of age, they aren't all nearly as stupid, fragile, confused or incapable of understanding as people paint them out to be. I knew what sex was at age 11 because my uncle always sat us down and had the talk about it. We didn't need the gov permission to learn about this shit, that was up to the men in my family to teach us how important it was and I grew up very smart about it which is why I don't have kids out of wedlock or anything. Some people learn faster than others do. When I was about 16 or 17 I chased women in their 30s for marriage because I felt that I was responsible enough to have a wife much older than myself. My attitude was, f**k what society thought. Adult women in their 30s was sexy to me. But I would never pursue a 37 or 40+ year old in my late 30s...I'd prefer a 20 or whatever the legal age I'm allowed to have. But since I don't care about dating or pursuing anymore...I'm on the fence. I haven't dated since I was 17 years old. I'm going to die old and alone. And I had three cats before, so I guess that makes me the male version of a Cat lady.
I think it's very convenient for people like @dancilley to totally overlook the mental aspect of human development when he's looking for his ideal bride. Someone who is easy to control? Right? Such a relationship could never be based on authentic love since the balance of mental wavelengths would be so out of whack! Unless you have the same mindset there is absolutely nothing a girlfriend of that age could offer you other than just being there as something to stick your dick into.
So I would put it to you all that this is the kind of relationship dancilley is really looking for. Because any man in his right mind who wanted a relationship based on mutual respect and authentic love would never have anything in common with a f***ing adolescent! It's either some form of control they truly want, because it's clear he has none on the dating scene, or some delusional ideal based on pure fantasy. Something he'd come to realise was a mistake when his "youthful" virgin wife inevitably starts doing his f***ing head in after a couple of months.
Get a f***ing grip, man.
Hell Putin dumped a old bitch for a younger one. What does that say about him? Plus most men that lack control get dissed by their women all the time. A man has to display some form of control in his relationship regardless of age, not saying he have to beat her up, lock her in a closet and tell her she can't go out unless she put on a hijab

Should it come down to this, well he at least had people here telling him the consequences of what he's doing. Some people can't be helped and yes I'll agree with @MarcosZeitola on this part. Some people can't be helped. Dan has to realize that what he wants is not possible. But I still don't believe a man should restrict himself to not dating a girl just because of some shit about her not being mentally developed enough. If he fancy an 18 year old woman, it's perfectly legal. He can have himself one. Personally I think the only people who throw rocks at someone who goes for 18 year olds is just jealous because they aren't that young anymore and this is true among women. Not too many men are going to attack a guy for having a young 18 year old girlfriend. I mean hell my cousin had a kid with a 40 year old when she was just 20.
Most wealthy men prefer younger females and it's always been like this. Throughout history there have been numerous 14 year old girls getting married where it's been legally permitted within certain cultures, but this is mostly common among royalty. Just giving my two cents on all of this. I'm not encouraging @Dancilly to go out and talk to these younger girls. Just stating the facts, if you are 40 years old, wealthy and well off you would be a stupid dumb f**k to date a woman of the same age vs getting one that's 18, highly fertile (if you want kids), and healthier instead This clearly sends the wrong message that you are going to shack up with some used up old loser that spent her entire youth skanking it up. That's not to say that 18 year olds are entirely purer because they really aren't but it also depends on the culture and where she's from. 18 year olds in America are damaged, and so are all the girls under 18 who are having sex earlier so teenage boys have to settle with damaged goods.
Quite frankly, most well off men have younger wives or girlfriends. If not that a young mistress on the side because they can't stand sex with their old ass wives. If the husband is 60 his wife might be at least 30 or 25. Most men who have options won't waste their time on someone who is equally or greater than they are age wise. They will pick out the youngest female they can legally possibly get. But @dancilley don't have options. He's not attractive enough for one, and yes he does look strange (not bullying him of course), and I do believe he's way over his head and won't get what he's looking for and need to give up on these wild fantasies of his that will not go anywhere and will only lead him toward ruining his life worse than he already has had it.
Him posting that post about pedophilia was rather strange and random, when I saw it I thought it was random and was trying to figure out why would he even post something suggesting it will save the world. And I just assumed he was either drinking too much or seeking some attention and that was the way to get people to notice he posted it. I don't know, if you think he's a threat to the platform you can always just pull the plug.
Is he delusional about his desires? To some degree yes he is. But there's nothing we can do about it except leave him be. He doesn't seem like he's going to ever let it go and give up anyway. Most people with such tendencies generally don't give up because they are motivated by their delusions to pursue what they can't have....
He's honestly worse pff than an incel mentally because even incels know when to give up. There are the few who go ballistic like Elliot Rodgers did, but they don't all end up like that. I think he just lacks self control, most men in Dancilly's situation rarely ever use critical thinking. They wake up thinking "My pursuits and desires are not wrong, society is wrong." But no matter what he has to use common sense and good judgement...No matter how he feel society has it's mind made up, he has to accept this and move forward or continue destroying himself thinking he's going to change people's minds about it, which he won't.