Shemp wrote: ↑March 16th, 2024, 4:38 am
It depends what you mean by serious wealth. I have about $6 million, which doesn't even put me in top 1% of Americans age 55 or above (I'm 63). On the other hand, my spending has been under $24000/year for past 10 years, not including spending on whores and sugar baby, or under $30K including money given to girls. Plus I'll get another $30K/year social security when I turn 30. So I have more money than I can possibly spend and zero money worries, which is my definition of serious wealth.
My experience is that spending too much money creates problems. Even that $6K/year I have the sugar baby (for 3 months each summer) was enough to cause her to begin to act entitled. And I would never give a whore more than$200 or she would be impossibly uppity. If I stay in an expensive hotel here in Spain, the people get all obsequious and secretly hate me for being a rich American. Much better to act poor. Everyone leaves you alone when you look and act poor.
I didn't do anything special to get rich, other than starting my own software business. But that was no big risk. It started aa hobby to distract from my boring corporate day job as a computer programmer, then began to make serious money, so i quit the corporate job and quickly piled up a couple million from the software business before competition from a big corporation put me out of business, then gradual stock and bond investment growth did the rest.
I would ascribe 100% of my success to luck: lucky to have a personality suited to computer programming, which is the easiest way to get rich for past 40 years, wrote that hobby program at the right time, born in USA at right time to catch stock market boom (which is coming to an end soon), never married or had children so didn't need to share my wealth, good bodily and mental health, etc. In fact, the older I get, the less i believe in free will and more I believe everything is luck/fate. We feel like we have free will, but it's an illusion. Our subconscious makes all the important decisions and the subconscious is determined by random previous influences that shape our personality. But even though my wealth is due to luck, i still deserve it in a sense, in the same way I deserve all the bad things in my life . If there is no free will, everything happens because of luck, so everything is deserved, in a sense, though maybe not the sense most people use the word deserve.
Quite a bit of wisdom here
@Shemp. Some of those lessons, I learned relatively late in my life.
1) Working as a software developer for an employer, no matter how prestigious the employer (e.g. a tier-1 investment bank) and how lucrative the job (front-office, $200K/year), is never even comparable to running one's own software business. Running my own software company and working for a Philippine client (albeit a large one), I make 5-8 times what I ever made in the City of London building tools for legendary FX options trading desks. Sure, my Clients don't carry the same wow factor as Nomura, Barclays or BNP Paribas, but they bring a multiple of the profit, and in a locale that costs less than half of London, all things considered.
2) Set your spending level at about the beginning of the plateau of the experience utility function. Most human experiences, from hotels to advanced hi-fi equipment, to sex with girls, follow a similar utility function, where the value you get is roughly proportional to the money you spend. After a certain threshold is reached, splurging more money will result in smaller and smaller increments of value. That's the plateau. Pouring cash on a $500 meal won't give you 5 times the pleasure of a $100 meal: there's only so many ways a f***ing wagyu fillet can be grilled to perfection. Sweating in bed with a 19-yo Filipina for the price of a Jollibee burger is such great value, that one won't even wonder what the same experience would be with a girl who looks just slightly hotter, but has more of an attitude and perhaps will cost you $300 for the night.
3) Be cynical about receiving and giving. This is the hardest lesson to be learned, for a softie like me. It took me several years, as an entrepreneur, to understand how to pay people fairly, how to make them work for you and not vice-versa, and how to choose people who won't simply trash your trust at the first occasion. The Philippines are a fertile ground for Captain-save-a-hoes and Westerners ready to open their wallet at every routine sob story. As a famous local song said, I had to grow a "pusong bato", a heart of stone, to survive and then thrive over here.
All this said, good for you
@Shemp. The only thing I would not entirely agree on is the role of "luck", or "fate", and the role of free will in making decisions that ultimately lead to an existence of freedom, wealth and individualistic pleasures. I think every person's life throws a flurry of opportunities of all shapes and forms. Some of such opportunities may seem "no brainers" but end up yielding nothing, or not as much as one expected. Some others may look like crazy mistakes from the onset but, when embraced with a dose of adventurous spirit, may turn out as triggers for something big, perhaps bigger than one would have expected.
I do not believe in pure fate. I believe in exercising that mix of rational and crazy decisions which outcomes may only be entirely known, let alone judged, much farther in the future.
I think you should give yourself some more credit.