Winston wrote: ↑July 28th, 2020, 5:19 am
1. Your observations of Europe don't seem to be anything new. Just common sense, but with a negative/downward slant of course. You can't deny that. It's obvious right? I mean, everyone knows that making a living is hard work, and that living vs. traveling in a country are different. That's nothing new. Everyone here already knows that. So what additional insights are you contributing when you pontificate about Europe?
Well, that was my point exactly, see?
There is nothing incredibly insightful about what I told you about Europe. It's just pure common sense. The negative slant is also the common sense answer that comes from living in Europe for most of my life. There is nothing magical, mythical or romantic about living in a European city, as a tourist, in 2020. The overly positive, romantic/nostalgic pixie dust is due to your good memories of your trips in Russia and Poland (and maybe other places). If you paid those trips in, say, Chile and Argentina, you would now praise those countries as the best place for you to be.
It also largely depends on what you expect: how much free time you have to have your walks in the old town centre, wake up late in the morning after a night of drinking and partying, where you live, how much you can afford to spend, who you end up hanging out with, how quick you are at moving to another city if you don't like what you see, etc.
If you are in a happy, relaxed state of mind, of course you'll feel more "in your element", happier to find people who are in the mood for fun and share that fun with them, whether it's a good chat, a few beers or sex. But that applies to any place.
I am sorry if my opinion might lack "wow factor" and be slightly on the negative side but you asked for it, so here it is. Dismissing it as useless "pontificating" is not really a big incentive for me to give you any sort of opinion in the future...you know... It just makes you sound like ungrateful and immature, as you are clearly only prepared to accept what you like to hear.
No offense here, but hopefully you know where I am coming from.
You are free to listen to CE's bombastic adventures with gorgeous 20 year old college students at your fingertips and people giving him the 5-star treatment left right and center. How much of that is true, or even credible, I wouldn't put my finger on.
Winston wrote: ↑July 28th, 2020, 5:19 am
We also all know that most people we meet in life are just going to be friendly acquaintances, or nothing at all. Only a small percentage of people turn into friends. That's true of everyone, even of celebrities. Nothing new there. So why bring it up? Not even CE denies something so common sense.
But what you miss is that it's about percentages too. For example, if 5 percent of people I meet turn into friends that like me and I like them, then the more people I meet, the more friends I will have right? So for example, if I meet 400 people in one year, and 5 percent of them become my friends, then that's a fair amount.
Again, it all depends on what you are looking for, of what you call a friend. When you told me about your desire for deep connections, I thought you were referring to "deep friendships" and maybe a relationship with a decent woman. If you are happy with random people you can party with in a city before you move to the next city and the next group of people, be my guest. You can have that anywhere in the world, so long you keep yourself in the relaxed, happy-go-lucky state of mind. So nothing new under the sun there, either.
When it comes to friendships, I have never reasoned in terms of percentages. It surely is an interesting point, but I don't think it would apply to me. Pursuing a good friendship means giving them as much, if not more than, you receive from them. It's an investment, a bit like a relationship, that requires time, attention, energy. No man has such a large amount of energy that he wants to build "great" friendships with more than, maybe, 2 or 3 people at any given time.
This doesn't mean you won't find a lot of friendly men and women in your journey, people you can have fun with in the moment and then keep in touch online, until there's a chance of meeting again.
Winston wrote: ↑July 28th, 2020, 5:19 am
But if you meet little to no people, like I do in USA and Taiwan, then those percentages are all zeros and don't matter. But in Europe, if you meet a lot of friendly people, even though most of them are superficial, the more you meet, the more friends you make, even if only 5 percent of them want to be your friend, and 95 percent are just nice one day or become acquaintances.
Do you see what I mean? That has a little bit of a more positive spin on it. Why don't you cite stuff like that and sound a little more optimistic?
Simply because
I don't believe it's just a number game. Finding a good friend, someone who goes beyond the "nice meeting you, let's do it again soon" kind of acquaintance, takes time and a good amount of luck. Serendipity, if you will. You might hit a single city, say Prague, and find a brother and sister, where the brother becomes your best friend and her sister becomes your girlfriend. Or you might pass dozens of places and have thousands of people on your Facebook friends list and feel that you have never made a real friend.
Again, wanting to state the bleeding obvious. Your attitude will make all the difference between those two scenarios. If you are relaxed, a good communicator and a better listener, you move with confidence and you know what to expect from everyone you meet, then you will have a great chance to meet special people, be them friends or romantic relationship.
But again, that applies to any place in the world! The reason why it never happened in the US is perhaps because you were never allowed to be yourself in those environments. I don't know why that happened but I can imagine that being bullied or sidelined during some of those years dented your confidence quite a bit.
Not making armchair psychology here. I think you know what I am trying to say.
Winston wrote: ↑July 28th, 2020, 5:19 am
2. You know that everywhere has pros and cons right? Why don't you list the pros and cons of Europe? You seem to list only cons, as if there are only cons in Europe and no pros. We know that's not true. So why don't you try to be more balanced and list both pros and cons? I'm not asking you to be fake positive like Americans are. Just asking you to be more balanced, because your slant toward the negative and cons is too apparent. Do you get what I mean?
There are lots of nice things to see and do in Europe, and they're the one you know and you have even seen: the amazing diversity of people, culture, language, architecture and art, food, etc. But those things are not guaranteed to make you happy. It's more, if not all, about your state of mind, your attitude towards people.
It's also very subjective, what is a pro for me might be a con for you. For one, I love warm, Mediterranean weather and I would list Greece, Malta and Cyprus, Israel and Lebanon as right on top of my list. You said you don't like when it's too hot and might not be of the same opinion. I prefer kind and polite people who are genuine with their feelings, smile when they are happy and become distant when they are not in the mood, to loud "soul of the party" people who have to look happy all the time. This means I like being around French, Slavic and Greek people more than, say, some of us Italians, Spaniards/Portuguese, Egyptians and some Americans.
Again, if you are asking me to compare Europe with the US, I don't know the US well enough to make a judgment.
Winston wrote: ↑July 28th, 2020, 5:19 am
3. You keep saying that I'm not 25 anymore. I keep telling you that doesn't matter, because white women in general do not find me sexually attractive and do not see me as a romantic interest. They are only curious about me because I look different and a novelty and maybe exotic. Even in Europe or Russia this is true. One girl in Russia even told me with brutal honesty that men like me "lack sexuality" meaning that I do not incite sexual interest in women, because I am an asexual type. It's not because I'm not handsome, just asexual.
So you see, age never made a difference. Whether young or old, women tend to see me as asexual. That's why I often don't get laid for free. Once in a while I do, but not often. Thus age is not an issue in my case. I keep telling you that but you keep forgetting it.
Well, that's where I think you're wrong. Surely 22 year old college students won't find any immediate connection with you and ignore you. Striking a playful conversation with a girl 25 years younger than you knowing that there's a good chance that she will like you for a one-night stand or a relationship is something I have only seen in the Philippines. We all know that LOL It's a mix, the "right" mix of culture and need.
On the opposite side, if you are in your mid to late 40s and behave like the deep, mature, intellectual person you actually already are, then sooner or later a woman who likes you for those qualities may pop by. You may not like her because she is 40 and not 20, she is no longer hot stuff and has a kid or two to take care of, but you will find her. Can you see? You seem to be overly pessimistic, or a fatalist, on something where there's no need to be, and put a romantic lining on something that, at least to me, look quite ordinary.
One thing your Russian friend is right on is that most Asians don't have masculinity "built-in"
You may need to work a bit to develop that "yummy factor" that will keep women intrigued and then attracted on the physical side. Again, that is not something that can be improvised or learned in "5 easy steps", it's more of a gradual process: dressing up with the right clothes, having a classic hairstyle with a twist, moving confidently, using your voice and touch when appropriate, keeping your date surprised by taking initiative, etc.
At my work I see a lot of hopeless Asian old men dragging their sorry selves and their (less than enthusiastic) Filipina date from the casino to the restaurant, to the bar/lounge, to their bedrooms. I also occasionally see some men, well into their 50s, who are absolutely killing it with the ladies and it's easy to see why: they can dance salsa or even tango, they are slender and dress impeccably, they know how to keep the people at their table entertained, intrigued and excited without ever overdoing, showing off.
Some of them look like a serious version of Psy in his prime
Winston wrote: ↑July 28th, 2020, 5:19 am
4. Yes I do have nostalgic feelings for Europe like you said. But I also feel more positive energy and connection and resonance there, from my core being. Remember? It could be that the oversouls (deities or entities that govern that area) see that I have an Aryan soul and so they welcome me more and give me more positive energy, because I am an "old friend" to the European lands. Who knows. Anything is possible. You can't discount that.
Or it could be
imprinting, Winston, the feeling that you belong to the first place where you could feel free and be yourself, where you had your first extraordinary experiences, be them extraordinarily positive or extraordinarily negative. I am no psychologist but it's easy to imagine that, if you had those experiences in Mexico or Argentina, those would be the places you would call your ultimate happier abroad destinations.
Winston wrote: ↑July 28th, 2020, 5:19 am
Starchild5 once said that my soul is not only ancient European, but from an advanced white race long preceding Atlantis. Remember? lol. See here:
viewtopic.php?p=273009#p273009
Interesting theory...don't know what to say
Winston wrote: ↑July 28th, 2020, 5:19 am
I also told you many times I feel like I have past lives connected to Europe. You don't seem to believe me. But you never explained the evidence for reincarnation? For example, how do you explain this documentary about four Australian women who went to Europe to find their past lives and verify their past life memories and found them to be stunningly accurate? Again, see this documentary below.
So if these women can have past lives in Europe, then why can't I? You never addressed this.
Video description:
1981 documentary with australian hypnotherapist Peter Ramster. Filmed live as the research was undertaken. -with a bonus update for Gwen McDonald!-
Four women are regressed to their past lives and then seek out the places they remembered under hypnosis and find the evidence beyond the extent they had imagined.
Cynthia Henderson: Amélie de Cheville whose manor house was Château Cerisy Belle Etoille (now Château Cerisy-Belle-Étoile) in Normandy, France, about two hundred years earlier (died 1763).
Helen Pickering: Doctor James (Archibald) Burns, born in 1807, who studied medicine at Marischal College, Aberdeen then had his own practice in Blairgowrie, Scotland.
Jenny Green: Dorothe Halman, of Düsseldorf, jewish teen girl in nazi Germany during the Holocaust.
Gwen McDonald: Rose Duncan, born in 1765, whose house was Rose Cottage in Somerset, England.
The evidence is extraordinary. The full details of the expedition were written up in the book 'The Search For Lives Past' by Peter Ramster.
Interesting stuff, I will check it out soon. To be a bit ironic, you have connections with Europe in your present life, even without mentioning your past lives. You had some of your best experiences there and it's only natural you want to repeat them by being back there.
So the million dollar question continues to be: when will you try to win those forces, already, and book that flight!