Why are guys asked "What do you have to offer?"

[MattHanson1990]

I've been asked "what do you have to offer?" countless times, mostly when I was wanting to date girls domestically. Last night, I was asked that exact question by one of my male friends from Ciudad Juarez (he now lives in Mexico city) when I told him that I wanted to have OPTIONS in the dating scene and get any girl I wanted anytime. I told him I would offer the girl a sweet charming personality, and he told me that I would have to take care of myself and improve myself; I am taking care of myself (I have deodorant). And then he told me women are the same worldwide and that this site was just bullshit. I don't get it. Perhaps he was somewhat brainwashed by American culture since the American TV stations are also available in Juarez but only on some televisions, not all.

I really don't understand the meaning of "What do you have to offer?" is. Is it just some tactic to keep you shut out of the dating scene? Is it a cover-up to hide the fact that if you date an American woman that you're expected to put her on a pedestal? I never thought I would get asked that when it comes to dating foreign women since most of them CLEARLY are like night-and-day in contrast with AW when it comes to being humble down to earth vs. being stuck up, narcissistic, and unapproachable.

[MrMan]

Men also look for women who have something to offer, at the least, she should be around his level of a standard for attractiveness.

In some other countries, women expect men to provide for them, so that's something to 'offer' if they have marriage in mind. In some countries, some women are looking toward marriage rather than temporary pleasures from dating alone.

[Moretorque]

What do women have to offer ? I realize now just how cookie cutter they are compared to men. Most people are cookie cutter but women much more so.

[drealm]

Matt,

If I like pizza and you don't, should I force you to eat pizza, or should I ask what you like instead?

[The_Adventurer]

If you get asked that question you've already lost. They already look down on you and it is very unlikely you have a shot. This goes for business or pleasure. If someone asks me that question it is because they were likely never going to be my customer. If they were, then they already know what I have to offer and it is just a matter of me getting their money from them.

When it comes to women, though, IT IS I who ask the question. "With so many to choose from, why should i choose you?" In all my time out here I have never chased a woman. I don't go to bars and clubs, except with a group of friends I already know, and I don't cold approach, unless I really need directions or information.

Women come to me. Is it because I am rich, handsome,dashing and all that? No. It is because I get out there and do my thing. I put myself on display. I go places, interact with people and try to accomplish things. None of this is for the purpose of attracting women. It is for the purpose of living life. If you're really living life, and it is a good life, there will always, always be someone who wants to join you and be a part of that life. That also goes for business or pleasure.

[Ghost]

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[MattHanson1990]

If you get asked that question you've already lost. They already look down on you and it is very unlikely you have a shot. This goes for business or pleasure. If someone asks me that question it is because they were likely never going to be my customer. If they were, then they already know what I have to offer and it is just a matter of me getting their money from them.

When it comes to women, though, IT IS I who ask the question. "With so many to choose from, why should i choose you?" In all my time out here I have never chased a woman. I don't go to bars and clubs, except with a group of friends I already know, and I don't cold approach, unless I really need directions or information.

Women come to me. Is it because I am rich, handsome,dashing and all that? No. It is because I get out there and do my thing. I put myself on display. I go places, interact with people and try to accomplish things. None of this is for the purpose of attracting women. It is for the purpose of living life. If you're really living life, and it is a good life, there will always, always be someone who wants to join you and be a part of that life. That also goes for business or pleasure.

My problem is that I have been on a dry spell my WHOLE life, until I set foot in Mexico. And I have simply been desperate for female companionship ever since my mom passed away nearly 3 years ago. In the States I was completely shut out of the dating scene, and some hot girls didn't even want to be friends with me. As I mentioned in one of my other posts, I lowered my options to 18 year old girls because most of the girls my age were already taken; but still it was a zero-sum game.

I think this next time I go to Ciudad Juarez, I am wanting to do things differently and also spend at least a month down there. I think I'll take my violin there and play it on the streets (I'll also ask locals where the best place in Juarez musicians go).

[droid]

If you get asked that question you've already lost. They already look down on you and it is very unlikely you have a shot. This goes for business or pleasure. If someone asks me that question it is because they were likely never going to be my customer. If they were, then they already know what I have to offer and it is just a matter of me getting their money from them.

When it comes to women, though, IT IS I who ask the question. "With so many to choose from, why should i choose you?" In all my time out here I have never chased a woman. I don't go to bars and clubs, except with a group of friends I already know, and I don't cold approach, unless I really need directions or information.

Women come to me. Is it because I am rich, handsome,dashing and all that? No. It is because I get out there and do my thing. I put myself on display. I go places, interact with people and try to accomplish things. None of this is for the purpose of attracting women. It is for the purpose of living life. If you're really living life, and it is a good life, there will always, always be someone who wants to join you and be a part of that life. That also goes for business or pleasure.

Another great post TA. No homo but i'm your #1 fan dude.
But remember, this is tied to location. You could be 'exposed' and 'out there' all you wanted in the wrong location and 'quality' women WON'T come to you.

[Jester]

As I mentioned in one of my other posts, I lowered my options to 18 year old girls because most of the girls my age were already taken; but still it was a zero-sum game.

I think this next time I go to Ciudad Juarez, I am wanting to do things differently and also spend at least a month down there. I think I'll take my violin there and play it on the streets (I'll also ask locals where the best place in Juarez musicians go).

This will absolutely work.

Play near the a good high school.

I'm serious.