10 years in Thailand and still single

[drronnie]

Guess if someone has awkward social skills then he would be ignored whether in the West or in Asian countries.

Agreed. The only cure is to either improve your social skills signficantly through interaction

Both very true, an awkward dude can ALWAYS shoot himself in the foot. But at least it's easier/worthy to improve where people are more authentic.

Well I am going to start experimenting with online dating since I do have trouble approaching girls directly. At least in Thailand there is the advantage that one does not get so brutally shot down like in the West

[droid]

Well I am going to start experimenting with online dating since I do have trouble approaching girls directly.

That's nice but don't quit the approach thing. it's important as a personal development stage.
i wouldn't forgive myself if i don't fully overcome this challenge. In my current location i'm at least once in a while pulling a girl out to dance a song. I'm very lucky though since i met a local dude that's now kind of coaching me.
My goal is to get some college girl by my own device, without help/introduction. i know, call me a masochyst.
But anyways, keep trying man.

[drronnie]

Well I am going to start experimenting with online dating since I do have trouble approaching girls directly.

You really should, and I'm amazed you haven't tried it already after being single for ten years.

I guess better now then never at all

[Jester]

But do me a favor, and really do it; don't just say you'll do it, then don't.

+1

[drronnie]

I guess better now then never at all

True.

But do me a favor, and really do it; don't just say you'll do it, then don't. Try to make your next thread(s) not about "being single in Thailand", but about your adventures in online dating and the women you met through it. Let it be a lesson in positive thinking!

It's already happening thanks to Tinder

[drronnie]

No success story yet but I am talking to two girls at the moment.

[drronnie]

And that went fast already went to the movies with a girl. Daring is definitely more fun in Thailand because the women are not so demanding or bellicose as their Western counterparts. No surprise why there are so many TFL in the West

[droid]

Good stuff dronnie. Do please give us more details.

+1 Marcos for inspiring this guy.
You and hammanta have inspired me as well and I'm seeing results too (direct approaches though not online).

Well I am going to start experimenting with online dating since I do have trouble approaching girls directly. At least in Thailand there is the advantage that one does not get so brutally shot down like in the West

I'm not in Thailand, but i would guess they're nice enough where you could try being just friendly without it meaning 'loser', and build your confidence from there. Sometimes it's the expectation that you have to "pull" that can give anxiety.

[drronnie]

First I was very skeptic myself. But I just do not take things too seriously at the this point. Dating and going to the movies with girls is fun but I watch that I am not becoming an ATM either.

[chanta76]

Can't help to think the sex tourism and the spending habits of the "ATM" expats in Thailand created this problem in Thailand where the girl ask for money if you want to date her. I'm for happierabroad but there are consequences ..and from looking at the long pictures expats that go overseas sometimes DO ruin it.

[drronnie]

Having fun dates lately however have not scored anything. However there is p4p so I am not desperate at all.

[Yohan]

Can't help to think the sex tourism and the spending habits of the "ATM" expats in Thailand created this problem in Thailand where the girl ask for money if you want to date her. I'm for happierabroad but there are consequences ..and from looking at the long pictures expats that go overseas sometimes DO ruin it.

No, surely not true in Thailand - the largest customer group for prostitution is the Thai customer himself, not the foreigner.
Thailand is not only a supplier, but also a large consumer of sex-related services of any kind.

Further, among the foreigners, you have to see the Western tourist but also the Asian tourist.

As a fact, Western foreigners are only a small part of the business.

[drronnie]

Seconded Yohan. Money and Status are very important to Thai women. Looks do not matter that much. That is the reason why many Thai women have no problems marrying men of Chinese ethnicity who are at least 30 years older. But everybody is talking about the women marrying Westerners, but the truth is that most Thai women dream of a Chinese guy with lots of money.

[Yohan]

Drronnie, as I often said in this and other forums, Thai women are really something 'special'. - I never met a Thai woman in my life, who did not immediately ask me for money, not even one. Regardless her age, regardless her income, regardless the place I met her, regardless her education. It's already something like a kind of Thai life-style I guess.

My second home is in Pattaya and I will be soon there again for a 3 weeks summer vacation with my Japanese wife. However I have been in all provinces in Thailand and I can assure you it is everywhere the same. Thai women I never met before were asking me for money even in an elevator of a high-rise condominium building, they were calling me by phone in my hotel room a few minutes after my arrival, while using a swimming pool or while filling up petrol for my motorcycle, while stopping my car in front of a convenience store where I was buying some drinks etc....

Thai men are telling me the same stories, so it's not only me. Most Thai women are dreaming of a rich Asian guy for a long term relationship, not really about a Western man I think. Many Western men are merely a target for rather low educated Thai women to extort money, offering a big promise of 'love' in return of cash and cheating them with a Thai boyfriend next door.

Thai men are frequently cheated with marriage promises and sin-sot (bride price) demands, often not from her, but from her parents and other relatives - after the money is paid it takes only a few months and the new wife is gone and the money too.

It's not only the Western foreign tourists, who thinks prostitution is cheaper than marriage. Many Asian men are also thinking the same. It's a bit sad, but I think it's not fair to blame only men for that.

[Seeker]

If you can't get laid in Thailand for 10 years, you really may as well give up. Thailand is one of the few countries with a surplus of young women (due in no small part to many Thai men becoming ladybodys(!)). If you haven't lucked out in all this time then you probably are hopeless, at least with Thai women. Did you ever have girlfriends back in the West?

Yohan in my experience and understanding Thai women who ask money from men are prostitutes or semi-pros not normal women. Not one normal Thai girl ever asked me for money.