My ex-girlfriend was actually a former stripper. She wasn't dancing anymore by the time I started dating her, but she was a dancer for two years.WilliamSmith wrote: ↑May 9th, 2022, 6:13 pm
Some supposed traditionalists actually argue in favor of legalized prostitution, whining that they want an "outlet," but I don't think there should be legalized sex industries potentially luring or trapping our daughters, sisters, or other women and girls into a degrading industry like this, which is also subject to rampant abuses. (For example, I wrote something about a case I'd read about where Thai girls were trapped in a criminal brothel operation by a madam who tortured them with electroshock devices in a dungeon if they didn't bring back enough money, but the "johns" they approached on the streets at the orders of the operation didn't know the difference, and thought they were just getting schmoozed by good looking ladies of the night who might not even have minded being in the profession.)
That example is rather extreme, but even more common is some woman like a single mother who doesn't want to get involved in the adult film or soap parlor industry (latter being a Japan example again), but doesn't see a lot of better options to earn money to support her kid.
At minimum bullshit like brothels would need to be very closely regulated to make sure abuses weren't going on, but unless there's a plunge back into a new dark age technologically, the Japanese and other roboticists are making android sex companions for people who are frustrated, so that prostitution should get phased out completely.![]()
If people inclined toward some sort of fetishism insist on practicing it in secret, *shrugs*, it can't be stopped, but the difference if this kind of thing is outlawed vs allowed to be normalized through widespread commercialization is vast, in terms of how much it poisons a previously healthy society. Like the difference between legal recreational opium use at opium dens that anyone could walk right into off the streets, vs outlawing opium even if some comparatively tiny number of determined users still insist on secretly cultivating it or getting it illegally after it's outlawed.
We had a lot of conversations about this. She told she didn't think it was abusive or exploitative. She did tell me she enjoyed it a lot and wanted the opportunity to be available for other girls. She also told me she thought it should be legal because rape, adultery, or violent crime would get a lot worse if men are too sexually frustrated. She told me it basically didn't feel like work for her and she made a lot of money. In my experience with her, I can say I do not believe she was traumatized by it or became jaded. There were certainly some things she saw that were morally wrong, but she has a good head on her shoulders and it seems like she knew who to avoid and never encountered anybody who was aggressive or just a sickening person in general. I do think dancing fueled her vice in terms of having an outrageous desire for money. But I don't think it mentally scarred her at all. As far as drugs and alcohol go, she was shockingly abstinent. I never saw her even finish a glass of wine while we were together. She had no tattoos. Her entire history had been in long term relationships. Even when she was dancing she was in relationships with guys who were tolerating it. I did tell her I would not be able to tolerate her dancing while we were together and she said she was fine with that and that it was an issue with her last boyfriend because him tolerating it made her feel like she wasn't valued enough.
I decided that if I did believe some form of sex work should be legal that I am honor/duty bound to date and potentially marry a girl who participated in that industry if she was agreeable to all my other values. For the most part, I would say that our values were 95% in alignment with one another. The only difference really was how much she lusted after money (probably why she was a dancer). She was very affectionate and loved cuddling though. There were some nights where she refused to let go of me and I got overheated and had trouble falling asleep but I was fine with it because she was adorable and looked like an angel when she slept. She despised violent sex almost as much as I do and I really liked how much she craved affection. I loved the hell out of that woman, and I still love her. I just wish she didn't have so many issues with money.
As far as the prostitution issue goes though, I am open to the idea that the services sold should be limited to things like lap dances, cuddling, kissing, mutual masturbation and possibly oral sex (definitely oral sex performed on the girl) but not extend to vaginal intercourse itself and certainly not anything other then that so that the brothels are more similar to strip clubs then they are to brothels. I have brought up this idea with other people and they tend not to like the idea so I don't know how popular it would be. I do think that part of why my ex girlfriend was okay with strip clubs was because it did not require intercourse.
I would also recommend that everybody involved in the industry get registered with the government so that it can be very closely regulated.