Good post!publicduende wrote: ↑October 15th, 2021, 4:35 pmIt happened to me at least twice. Unfortunately, it was with girls who were hotter than average and much better than average at the sex craft. With one of them, we had a very steam Sunday doing it all day, to which she said she would meet me the following Friday at the mall. On the day, she texted me instructions to meet her in front of a particular corridor kiosk selling Timex watches. While waiting, I wondered why that specific place, but only until she promptly told me she really loved Timex and she was interested in a particular timepiece, costing around P5,000.Shemp wrote: ↑October 15th, 2021, 4:53 amIMO, whenever there are big wealth or age differences, but especially if both, then best get the relationship on a sugar baby basis ASAP, to avoid miscommunication. It may or may not be cheaper this way, but at least there are no big surprises in the negative direction.
Lost the grace, lost the irony, I thanked her for the big boobs and the sex and told her that I didn't consider a single day of sex with her worth P5,000. The very fact that she had been making excuses not to meet me until the following Friday only meant one thing: she had a bf and was doing the side gigs in the hope of getting some quick material rewards out of it.
Could I have kept her as a sugar babe? Maybe so. But if, in her mind, a single one-day session commanded 5K, it was anybody's guess how much in gifts (or cash equivalent) she would have wanted for 5 or 6 days of her undivided company a month.
The miscommunication is all in the man's head. Even the absolutely dumbest of the Filipinas I met, like the one above, made it abundantly clear if and when they were expecting money or gift back to me. Sure, it hurts a man's pride to have the reality been slapped on our faces, the reality being that you need to look like George Clooney or Brad Pitt to be in your late 40s or early 50s and have a girl half your age being genuinely attracted to your physique.
I mean, there are lottery-thin chances that the girl may have a massive daddy fetish or may be attracted to older bodies (and minds!). By experience, this almost never happens in the Philippines. Girls naturally like the young, fresh, naturally muscular body of a young man of the same age, maybe 5 years older max. Being with a foreign man in their late 50s is, for them, a means to an end. This doesn't mean affection won't develop, and that affection will turn into love. Yet, the premises are less than natural, less than obvious.
As documented on these very pages, which some members might still recall, the nasty bundle of pride that is me took a long time to come to terms with this simple reality. I am happily married with a wonderful, youthful-looking and incredibly smart girl 19 years younger than me. She keeps saying I am a "manly man" and she finds me hot. Beyond the flattering, the thought of whether she likes the likes of me because she lost her dad at an early age and never had a chance to fully enjoy his paternal embrace, grazes me from time to time. Again, up until 2 years ago it used to concern me. Now, significantly less f*cks are given.
Not necessarily, @Shemp. At least not necessarily here in the Philippines, where people are often inconsequential and lazy. She might get tired of having her bits stretched by a horny man in his 40s and maybe opt for a much older Korean or Japanese, with more propensity for gift-giving than sexual appetite. She might entertain multiple men and naturally build a pecking order where, once again, it's the one with the least to demand and the more to offer who wins. And so on...Shemp wrote: ↑October 15th, 2021, 4:53 amIt is almost always cheaper and safer for a man who is wealthier than the girl to pay per meet than to marry. Paying per meet turns you into a milk cow, who is carefully kept alive and happy so it keeps producing milk as long as possible. Mistreat the cow and the milk supply instantly stops. Marrying turns you into a meat cow: lots of trouble to keep you alive but big payoff when you finally die, thus incentive to accelerate time of death.
I have taught thousands of Asian girls - Chinese and Korean girls - teenagers and girls barely in their twenties and more or less every single one of them apart from about twenty or thirty of them have Chinese and Korean pop stars/actors on their wall and on their phones.
They're not as interested in white guys as white guys think they are - I remember some white guy going on about his 'blue eyes' being a factor when it isn't a factor at all! I am sure it is the same for Filipinas and the classier ones are probably more rigid regards this.
It's good in a way because it's your money and you're in charge! Of course male ego and pride gets in the way and it is a dent in that pride and ego when the realisation that you have to pay for it in one way or another and if the funds stopped so will access to her pert body but this is a half glass full/empty scenario.
There are always going to be exceptions but I don't think most Asian girls in any country within that continent find white, western guys more attractive than their own men - they might find your wallet attractive, but from my knowledge of teaching young Chinese women they are not particulary enamoured with white westerners and quadruple that lack of interest about men 20-30 years older than them! That's a big no-no - even if they actually find you attractive!