Thoughts on Dating A Filipina for expats

[mguy]

From a Filipino American perspective.

The best way is through organic means involving actually staying in the Philippines and interacting with the locals on a daily basis. The longer a person stays the more interactions he will receive as he slowly gains the trust of the locals. Foreigners will often find that because their intentions are not just finding a wife, the locals will be more accommodating and the selection will contain quality as proofed by local sources. It will not be uncommon for a local to suggest someone who is looking for a husband. However, do not be eager to ask to be hooked-up. Just casually mention that you are single, in a good income position, and looking for a viable relationship. Make sure to build trust first. Remember a Filipina who goes the foreigner route will often have stigma attached to her image -- it is much a risk for her than it is for you.

The downside is that you will have to stay in the Philippines for an extended period of time. If you are a career guy you should focus on generating local income instead of searching through dating platforms. If you are able to land an office job and sustain yourself, then it will follow to get hooked up through co-workers which is how most hookups are formed or through community involvement. The leverage in going through positioning yourself as a working expat will offset any dating platform costs or time spent or plane ticket purchases and repurchased or dating services IMO. This way, Filipinas will naturally go to you instead of the other way.

In terms of the dating platforms, I am not attacking the efficacy of this route, but like anything, it has downside. First are the pool of Filipinos contained within these dating platforms. Remember okcupid style dating is not prevalent in this traditional society. The Filipinas in here are mostly looking for transactional type relationships -- no matter what the owners suggests. This is all fine if this is what you want. But these girls are not an average representation of the average Filipina .. an average Filipina will shy away from these things due to their traditional nature. Maybe if they were desperate? I often overhear Filipinas in these sites discussing juggling "the mechanic" "the computer guy" as if they were interchangeable parts. IMO, these are corrupted girls. Most of the time, not all the time. I don't recommend this route but many will disagree with me here. If you were to go to these sites though, try to be very suspicious. Instead of dating platforms, why not try to meet Filipinas in online discussion boards (emphatically not happier-abroad). There's a rise in social internet usage in the Philippines so try to get a conversation started there.

In the end, it boils down to the method you are most comfortable with and what you are looking for. Happy hunting!

[xiongmao]

There are good girls on dating sites, but it's harder to meet good Thai or Filipina ladies online. It was easier in China - I guess in part because it's so darned hard to send money to scammers in China.

If a woman spends too long on a dating site then she gets ruined and it just becomes a quest for Mr 100%.

As far as social media, WeChat is fun but it's also popular with hookers and ladyboys.

WhatsApp is good for chatting to a girl and getting to know her - useful for countries where QQ isn't widely used.

Living in Asia is recommended but just have a backstory ready to explain your lack of job!