retiredfrank wrote:I've probably said this somewhere before in these discussions with PD, but I fully support sticking to his standards for intelligence in a woman. A woman who is boring to talk to is worse than being alone. It's standards for physical appearance where I would compromise, which rapidly fades in importance once you get to know a woman, at least in my experience. However, I don't think he has to compromise here. Just make the business succeed, then arrange to take regular trips to Manila where he comes into contact with intelligent AND beautiful single filipina career women age 30 or so, who are unable to find a quality husband due combination of age (they missed the boat) and hypergamy issue (women must marry up to feel comfortable). I continue to believe PD would be top 10% or even higher in sexual market value to such women, provided his business is successful.
At one time I suggested looking in Tokyo/Singapore/etc, but that was only because PD said Manila was as provincial as the rest of the Philippines. Now that PD is backtracking and admits Manila is not totally provincial, that's the obvious place to look.
It frustrates and disappoints me to see that age is cutting me off from, say, the better 80% of the young, smart and pretty single Filipinas I would love to be able to approach.
The question then is, how I can possibly be noticed by the part of the remaining 20% who might take an interest in me and/or reciprocate my interest for them. I don't think my company succeeding would make an ocean of difference. I will never be Bill Gates and it might be several years before I can make so much as $200K a year from dividends, with the high costs and uncertain client pipeline of my line of business.
Hotties looking for the aphrodisiac combo of professional success + cash have plenty of rich men in Metro Manila and Cebu to look forward to. And that's even without counting the rich Korean, Japanese and Chinese who target the same territory looking for girlfriends, mistresses and the occasional wife.
I actually do take regular trips to Manila and come in contact with good looking and intelligent career women in their 30s. Last one just two weeks ago on my last trip: V, 32, very pretty face, a bit chubby but the right kind of chubby (yummy breasts, at least a D). She works at a major accountancy firm and in charge with one of the fintech groups I have been introduced to. I start talking with her avidly and find out she lived in London for a few months, seconded by her mother company. Great, something in common that spawns another good 15 minutes extra of great tongue-in-cheek conversation.
Until she has to go: her
boyfriend has come pick her up. Fall from grace: I mumble something semi-sarcastic about whether I could pick her up too, in another moment. I will certainly see her again in the next few weeks and months and I doubt her love life will have changed significantly.
And it's always the same story...ALL the women who have any appreciable looks and brain value, in Manila like Milan, Turkey to Tanzania, Canberra to Cape Town, are inevitably taken, married up, engaged, involved, wrapped up.
One can only be so lucky to find himself in the right place at the right time, in that tiny 1 or 2 month time window between break-ups.
Believe me, as Rock said, Metro Manila is huge and there are a lot more dateable girls. And yet, the top of the crop, or even the middle of the crop, are too few to accommodate all the men, foreigners and locals alike, who, tired of jumping from horse to horse on the p***y merry-go-round, want to find a quality young woman to settle with.
To summarise: my age is against me, I am not that handsome and not that successful and wealthy (yet), even compared to other foreigners. Metro Manila has more opportunities than Davao but also a lot more foreigners who have less years on their passport, and/or an actual career or expat position in Makati or BGC, and/or are far more stud like than me. No chance in hell.
The only girls I managed to hook up with or date in Manila are the same poor girls from Mindanao who try their luck with a foreigner to escape the boredom or utter desperation of their toxic life routines. Only one was very decent, physically attractive (albeit with deformed hands), but killed my interest when she revealed me her toxic mix of religious fanaticism and the only career choice that I hate with all my guts: network marketing, or MLM to use a more appropriate acronym.
