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As part of the women's liberation movement of the 60s came the fat acceptance movement once processed foods started becoming the norm in the US of Gay. So nowadays, American women can be 300 lbs and do absolutely nothing to get a date. And these feminists call them "big beautiful women" (more like "big bloated whales"). At the same time, a man has to put in a lot of work to even get an average looking woman, while getting nothing in return. Add this, there's a double standard regarding telling people to shape up. It's OK for a woman to tell a guy to lose weight but it's not OK for a man to tell a woman to get in shape. Last year when my c*** sister shamed me for going to Mexico and told me I'll be happier in the US, I told her "the women here are fat", and then she said "you're fat". Ever since then, I did my best to ghost from her, but sometimes, even ghosting from American women can be an uphill battle, especially if you happen to have a skank in your own family . Anyways, this is one of SEVERAL examples of this double standard I'm talking about. But yeah, I did start ghosting from her after that because feminist double standards were unbearable and I didn't want to put up with that shit anymore.

Why does your sister calling you fat bother you so much? If you are fat, then you should lose weight. Otherwise, just yell at her and put her in her place.

gnosis wrote:Why does your sister calling you fat bother you so much? If you are fat, then you should lose weight. Otherwise, just yell at her and put her in her place.

Ha ha ha, she'd get really mad if I did that, and she said that I won't ever get a girlfriend if I tried putting women in their places.

And what bothered me was not so much her calling me fat but the double standard where it's OK for women to be picky about who they date but men being picky is not OK.

Matt, the solution is to simply stop caring what women think. In fact, you should openly defy them and show them that you can get what you want despite any category they want to put you in.

Some American women are evil like that, particularly the manipulative ones who want you to conform directly in a way that benefits them. For example, I got told something very similar years ago by an adulteress married woman who was overweight and a mother of one son. You see, she thought she should be able to compete with women younger and fitter than herself. The solution was easy for her too. She could not turn back time to become younger and she couldn't become any sexier, but she could try to manipulate me in such a way as to try to force me to overlook that she is married, a mother of one, and not that sexy compared to other women who were around there. What did she do? She told me of a "rumor" (which she probably made up herself), saying that PEOPLE (who she would not name) were saying that I was a hypocrite for going for young, attractive women when I am bad shape myself (paraphrasing). Basically she was saying that I had no business going for beautiful women. Instead I ought to lower my standards. And guess who would benefit from me lowering my standards? Adulteress women like her.

So it is just a manipulative strategy to get men to behave in ways that benefit women. You have a choice. Don't do it. In fact, do the opposite of what they suggest, and live your life successfully based upon your standards, and show them your happiness.

I also try to avoid having REAL conversations with women, if possible. I never discuss my life goals, ambitions, dreams, hopes, wishes, plans or anything like that with ANYONE. Absolutely no one. Why? Because there is about a 100% chance that whoever you tell will immediately take a crap all over you, your hopes, your wishes, your dreams, your desires, your ambitions, and your plans. Many Americans, both men and women, are absolutely miserable people who don't want anyone to have a chance at happiness if it is more than they could have. So if your dream seems BETTER than the ones they feel they could obtain for themselves, they will knock it down. And if your life goal is different for any reason, just like if you have a different political belief, many people will simply HATE you simply for not having the same desire as them (because it disagrees with their own desires), just as if you were a member of an opposing team.

Maybe just fantasize about Mexican girls when your sister opens her mouth.

If you are fat it is a bit much to bitch about girls being fat. Speaking as a fatty mcfatfat who isn't attracted to land whales. It is a legitimate counter to a fat guy who complains about fat chicks. There is a fine line between not being attracted to land whales even though you are one yourself, and complaining that women let themselves turn into Manatees when you have done the same thing.

As for the other point, I suspect if fat put on the inches to dick size the way it does to tit and ass size, us male fatties would be just as popular with the ladies as the reverse.

I don't know about fat shaming for men. I think with guys it's more about height. If your a guy and short or too wimpy looking there is something wrong with you. It's better to be big and burly looking than a short little guy.

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On one hand, I do agree you should be skinny if you want a skinny girl. And to some extent, I see more girls moving up and being gigantic with a skinny guy, but I do see the reverse as well, sometimes even without money/etc being an obvious factor in it. And yeah, girls are coddled with this sort of thing more than guys are. One thing I will say, going from fat to American skinny (not quite Asian skinny yet, but by American standards skinny and fitting size small clothes here...) is that a lot of your friends/family/whatever even after you get skinny will still try and either suggest you date heavier people, or possibly try to hook you up with their fat friends. It's sort of just a matter of statistics here, one in three people you meet are obese statistically, and 2/3 are overweight or obese. So that realistically as far as attractiveness leaves out about half of the whole population (as some girls do look good with a little extra, but almost no girl looks good at obese numbers...) as people you'd think are attractive.

If you do stay in USA, or Mexico for that matter (as they have a statistically high obesity issue as well, though I get the impression less of them get to monstrosity level you see here, 300-400lbs/etc....) it's just gonna be something you deal with as far as dating goes. I'm not saying your sister is right, but it's becoming increasingly accepted to be fat, and there's a "new normal" as far as who is skinny and who is not, and what the standards are. For example, I have some older Adidas sweat pants, maybe from the late 90s or early 2000s. They're size large, the year before last I ordered "medium" Adidas sweatpants and they fit much more loosely than my "large" ones from back then. It's just (negatively) changing times in that way. Frankly I find it all incredibly frightening, but it's almost like a biological change or shift in evolution is happening or something.

Anyway, get in shape, and find a way to stay in Mexico and be happy and ignore your family.

onethousandknives wrote:On one hand, I do agree you should be skinny if you want a skinny girl. And to some extent, I see more girls moving up and being gigantic with a skinny guy, but I do see the reverse as well, sometimes even without money/etc being an obvious factor in it. And yeah, girls are coddled with this sort of thing more than guys are. One thing I will say, going from fat to American skinny (not quite Asian skinny yet, but by American standards skinny and fitting size small clothes here...) is that a lot of your friends/family/whatever even after you get skinny will still try and either suggest you date heavier people, or possibly try to hook you up with their fat friends. It's sort of just a matter of statistics here, one in three people you meet are obese statistically, and 2/3 are overweight or obese. So that realistically as far as attractiveness leaves out about half of the whole population (as some girls do look good with a little extra, but almost no girl looks good at obese numbers...) as people you'd think are attractive.

If you do stay in USA, or Mexico for that matter (as they have a statistically high obesity issue as well, though I get the impression less of them get to monstrosity level you see here, 300-400lbs/etc....) it's just gonna be something you deal with as far as dating goes. I'm not saying your sister is right, but it's becoming increasingly accepted to be fat, and there's a "new normal" as far as who is skinny and who is not, and what the standards are. For example, I have some older Adidas sweat pants, maybe from the late 90s or early 2000s. They're size large, the year before last I ordered "medium" Adidas sweatpants and they fit much more loosely than my "large" ones from back then. It's just (negatively) changing times in that way. Frankly I find it all incredibly frightening, but it's almost like a biological change or shift in evolution is happening or something.

Anyway, get in shape, and find a way to stay in Mexico and be happy and ignore your family.

Regarding the obesity issue in Mexico, I noticed that it's only bad in certain parts of the country. Northern Mexico is quite bad due to ubiquitous American fast food restaurants. And a lot of northern cities such as Ciudad Juarez are more automobile dependent. The further away from the border, the fewer land whales you'll see. But you will find a lot of girls who are technically fat but have their body fat much better distributed. However, girls weighing 300-400lbs were a rare sight in the interior of Mexico.

MattHanson1990 wrote:As part of the women's liberation movement of the 60s came the fat acceptance movement once processed foods started becoming the norm in the US of Gay. So nowadays, American women can be 300 lbs and do absolutely nothing to get a date. And these feminists call them "big beautiful women" (more like "big bloated whales"). At the same time, a man has to put in a lot of work to even get an average looking woman, while getting nothing in return. Add this, there's a double standard regarding telling people to shape up. It's OK for a woman to tell a guy to lose weight but it's not OK for a man to tell a woman to get in shape. Last year when my c*** sister shamed me for going to Mexico and told me I'll be happier in the US, I told her "the women here are fat", and then she said "you're fat". Ever since then, I did my best to ghost from her, but sometimes, even ghosting from American women can be an uphill battle, especially if you happen to have a skank in your own family . Anyways, this is one of SEVERAL examples of this double standard I'm talking about. But yeah, I did start ghosting from her after that because feminist double standards were unbearable and I didn't want to put up with that shit anymore.

I hear you! It's especially frusterating when there is a large percentage of visibly obese women in tropical states like Florida, Hawaii, and extreme southern California, and cities like Miami, Fort Lauderdale, Fort Myers, Key West, Los Angeles, San Diego, Honolulu, and even American territories that are tropical such as Puerto Rico and American Samoa. It like makes me want to hold up signs saying that obesity has absolutely zero excuse in tropical paradise. In fact, obesity really shouldn't be a visible problem in any area where palm trees grow and thrive happily planted in the ground!