American women want nothing to do with you if you are single

[Yohan]

I disagree. I bet lonely single guys would tip better if the waitresses would give them good service and act friendly. Single guys have no women and thus more extra cash. Ever think about it from that angle?

Luckily I am living in a country, Japan, where tips do not exist.
You pay exactly the bill to the cashier next to the door when leaving and exact change will be given up to the 1-yen coin but now many Japanese are using a credit card.

[Adama]

According to Winston's "Happier Abroad" E-book, there is no stigma against eating out alone and you will have an easier time meeting/socializing with new people (particularly with young women) than in paranoid, cliquish America!!!

I have heard guys who have visited Germany say that, you will see women by themselves eating at restaurants on Friday and Saturday nights. You will also see single guys by themselves eating alone at restaurants. Also, single people go out by themselves to movie theaters on the weekends in Germany because there is no stigma there of being a 'loser' if you are out by yourself.

In the US there is this stigma of being seen as 'loser' if you are out by yourself on a Friday or Saturday night. No wonder why so many single people stay home on the weekends in America!

In my country Colombia is also a big stigma going out alone.. people are very clickish... and women hates looser (loners) .. i guess the females are the same in the west.. i live in the United States,, and its easier to be a loner here than there.. i am 42 single with not kids.. and every time i get asked about my wife and kids i just say they are in Colombia.. i learned to lie due to the humiliation and teasing that i got from saying the truth... i am just being honest.. good luck guys... !!

I hear ya, jfk, easier just to say that. Women do not like single men especially as they hit their 40s.

I disagree with that. The fact is, you choose to believe that. Maybe you have a couple of instances to support that. There are also countless examples in daily life which disprove it, but you are either unaware, choose to ignore it (write it off), or do not recognize it as such.

Your focus determines your reality. So if you have already determined that women are only XYZ, then your mind will only search out to prove that theory correct. Even if women are ABCD, you won't even notice them. Instead your focus will only be on XYZ.

And chances are there are just as many if not more women out there who believe that men don't like women who hit their 40s, when in reality there are a ton of suckers who are willing. Just they have convinced themselves that they are already ineligible from the outset. So they don't even give the other person the opportunity.

It's amazing how our belief systems can work against us, but not everything is as negative as it is presented on forums like this.

[mattyman]

@ OP,

please don't be too quick to read-into the outcome of such isolated incidents so personally and draw such conclusions. It's probably not that women don't like single guys, it's all the other reasons that have already been raised here.

Your focus determines your reality. So if you have already determined that women are only XYZ, then your mind will only search out to prove that theory correct. Even if women are ABCD, you won't even notice them. Instead your focus will only be on XYZ.

And chances are there are just as many if not more women out there who believe that men don't like women who hit their 40s, when in reality there are a ton of suckers who are willing. Just they have convinced themselves that they are already ineligible from the outset. So they don't even give the other person the opportunity.

Totally agree. Isn't this what they call confirmation bias? This pattern of thinking is very common amongst those are feeling insecure or have anxious tendencies.

Young women don't necessarily despise single men. Many more helpful explanations regarding that experience have already been given.

Regarding 'women only want the popular/alpha guy' naratives;

I would be careful about buying into that too. It's common for some people to project their frustrations with their interactions with women, or their single status onto this, and to identify with this narrative. A lot of the PUA evo-psych drivel is doing nothing more than capitalising on this. It's not as simple as 'women want the most popular, most powerful'. This sort of thinking can be pretty destructive thing to dwell on.

Regarding fear of being judged for being a loner;

Can't think of any logical reason, apart from the fear that the loner might try coming onto you, but even so, there's rarely any grounds in reality. Still, I don't think it's worth dwelling and ruminating over whether people dislike loners or not. If people are like that, are they really worth knowing anyway?

[AW Warning]

If you go into any restaurant in America you'll notice that the female waitresses will ignore tables with single men and linger at tables with man/woman couples .

What if you went to a restaurant like Hooters and/or Tilted Kilt? At Hooters and Tilted Kilt, there are no male waiters; every single server/waitress is all female. At Hooters/Tilted Kilt, you either get served by a young hot woman, or you don't get served at all.

You're lucky there's laws against discrimination in the workplace, including against singles. And you're lucky that even restaurants can get sued if they discriminate against singles. Otherwise, a single guy would not only get refused service at Hooters/Tilted Kilt, he'd get kicked right out of the restaurant, or even outright denied entry! If no laws existed that prohibit discrimination, I wouldn't be a single bit surprised if every Hooters/Tilted Kilt restaurant even had signs at the entrance doors that said; "No Single Male Customers, please!" and even if the majority of Hooters and Tilted Kilt restaurants, even those in safe and quiet neighborhoods, even had armed security guards even with loaded AK-47s, guarding the restaurant against single guys like military soldiers guarding the entrance to Area 51, and "Security will use deadly force without warning" signs near the entrance areas. And then getting kicked out or even denied entry would be the least of a single man's worries; just approaching within less than 30 feet of the entrance of a Hooters or Tilted Kilt restaurant would carry a critical risk of the single guy getting blasted flat to the ground by an unstoppable barrage of AK-47 bullets.

[Adama]

Don't fall for the fear-mongering of the MRA/MGTOW crowd. That is nonsense.