Pain of Separation or Pain of Destructive Marriage
Posted: August 11th, 2009, 6:50 pm
Some of you may have read my accounts from a few months ago when I was booted from my house by my wife:
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/vie ... php?t=4964
Upon being kicked out, I set a goal to visit several countries in hopes of pursuing an active social/dating life abroad. I had decided to visit Brazil, Colombia and the Dominican Republic. I also wanted to visit Germany and the Philippines. But this never came to pass, which I'll explain below.
Why did I move back in with my wife? Well, it was the pain of separation and loneliness that overwhelmed me, and I pleaded and begged my wife to give me another chance - as if I were the sole cause for the rupture in our relationship. Also, my desperate feelings were in large part due to jealousy: I had discovered my wife's facebook account and witnessed the many men flirting with her. Yes, my wife treated me like sh$%, but the passage of time began to erase my nightmarish memories associated with her, replaced instead by what few positive characteristics I liked about her (they were actually dating facades and not inherent in her character). What sealed the deal to reunite with the "Queen" was a company's extension of a job offer back in NYC, which I gleefully accepted. I assured my wife I would become a "better man" and that our marriage would no longer be what it was.
Skipping a few months ahead after moving back in, and the living hell our marriage once was has returned. My wife talks to other men (she locks her phone now so I can't check), parties all night without telling me where she's been while leving me or my mother-in-law with my son, flat out lies to me over just about everything, steals, smokes weed everyday, and doesn't do jack-shit as a "wife". Oh, and she told me to get a higher paying job, yet she blows through her money on herself. Whenever I try to have a serious talk with her, I'm greeted with threats.
I am not sure what is worse: experiencing the pain of separation or being tortured in an abusive, destructive marriage. In the meantime, I will continue to live with her while I save my money to get the $%#^ out of here and go overseas.
I did sort of get revenge on my wife, btw. I'll save that for a different post!
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/vie ... php?t=4964
Upon being kicked out, I set a goal to visit several countries in hopes of pursuing an active social/dating life abroad. I had decided to visit Brazil, Colombia and the Dominican Republic. I also wanted to visit Germany and the Philippines. But this never came to pass, which I'll explain below.
Why did I move back in with my wife? Well, it was the pain of separation and loneliness that overwhelmed me, and I pleaded and begged my wife to give me another chance - as if I were the sole cause for the rupture in our relationship. Also, my desperate feelings were in large part due to jealousy: I had discovered my wife's facebook account and witnessed the many men flirting with her. Yes, my wife treated me like sh$%, but the passage of time began to erase my nightmarish memories associated with her, replaced instead by what few positive characteristics I liked about her (they were actually dating facades and not inherent in her character). What sealed the deal to reunite with the "Queen" was a company's extension of a job offer back in NYC, which I gleefully accepted. I assured my wife I would become a "better man" and that our marriage would no longer be what it was.
Skipping a few months ahead after moving back in, and the living hell our marriage once was has returned. My wife talks to other men (she locks her phone now so I can't check), parties all night without telling me where she's been while leving me or my mother-in-law with my son, flat out lies to me over just about everything, steals, smokes weed everyday, and doesn't do jack-shit as a "wife". Oh, and she told me to get a higher paying job, yet she blows through her money on herself. Whenever I try to have a serious talk with her, I'm greeted with threats.
I am not sure what is worse: experiencing the pain of separation or being tortured in an abusive, destructive marriage. In the meantime, I will continue to live with her while I save my money to get the $%#^ out of here and go overseas.
I did sort of get revenge on my wife, btw. I'll save that for a different post!