People Who Have a House in a Good Location Who Don't Invite Extended Family Over
Posted: January 21st, 2024, 12:07 am
I just thought of something: Why don't people who live in a good location and have a house invite people over? I was thinking about why my extended family has almost never invited me over. They have, but it's very, very few times in my entire life.
The reason why I don't invite them over is because I have been a super non-social person. I have suffered from poor health which has caused me to not crave to be social (but now my health is getting better, so I am writing more posts and thinking about connecting with people I've known via email or phone). So, when my uncles or aunts got married, I declined to go (if I was actually invited...which may have not been the case).
I also literally live in Skid Row, in downtown Los Angeles, in a one-room residence. It is dangerous to be here. If you are not physically violated, you will at least be afraid that something violent will happen to you, or you will be harassed or insulted or offered drugs by someone, or will be at least annoyed by crazy homeless people shouting, trash in the streets, the smell of urine, walking over feces, rats, etc.
But if you have a house in a good location, why would you never invite your extended family over? Only if someone gets married maybe, or dies?
It's insane to me how non-social people are. But I know they live in a decent location. They don't live in a ghetto. So, I ask myself...is there something wrong with me?
But I know that people are extremely non-social these days. Before the internet, people were more social in person. My dad was a very social person naturally, but my mom was not social, so I think that's why we didn't invite people over to our home. We also lived in a mobile home, but the mobile home was on 2.25 acres of land in Sonoma County, CA, so that should have been good enough for people to come over. We were there for 11 years and only one time did my dad's college roommate come over with his six kids. My uncle came over like two or three times, and my grandparents came over a few times. My aunt came over once with her husband and one-year-old. My auntie (my grandmother's sister) came over once. And this was mostly before the internet (my parents didn't use the internet at all at the time), so it's weird how this works. What do you think? A lot of my dad's side of the family lives in Arizona, but I only went there one time when my cousin got married I think.
I think people may feel embarrassed about their current standard of living, so they feel embarrassed about where they live and what they have, and think they should be in a better situation than they are...or, if you invite someone over, they may criticize your situation.
If you contrast that with people from other countries, say, in the Philippines, they probably don't focus on that. They don't focus on what they have materially. They don't focus on the material. They focus on the people. And they probably are way more socially connected; they invite people over to their home way more often. If you have been to the Philippines, or abroad, is this what they do?
The reason why I don't invite them over is because I have been a super non-social person. I have suffered from poor health which has caused me to not crave to be social (but now my health is getting better, so I am writing more posts and thinking about connecting with people I've known via email or phone). So, when my uncles or aunts got married, I declined to go (if I was actually invited...which may have not been the case).
I also literally live in Skid Row, in downtown Los Angeles, in a one-room residence. It is dangerous to be here. If you are not physically violated, you will at least be afraid that something violent will happen to you, or you will be harassed or insulted or offered drugs by someone, or will be at least annoyed by crazy homeless people shouting, trash in the streets, the smell of urine, walking over feces, rats, etc.
But if you have a house in a good location, why would you never invite your extended family over? Only if someone gets married maybe, or dies?
It's insane to me how non-social people are. But I know they live in a decent location. They don't live in a ghetto. So, I ask myself...is there something wrong with me?
But I know that people are extremely non-social these days. Before the internet, people were more social in person. My dad was a very social person naturally, but my mom was not social, so I think that's why we didn't invite people over to our home. We also lived in a mobile home, but the mobile home was on 2.25 acres of land in Sonoma County, CA, so that should have been good enough for people to come over. We were there for 11 years and only one time did my dad's college roommate come over with his six kids. My uncle came over like two or three times, and my grandparents came over a few times. My aunt came over once with her husband and one-year-old. My auntie (my grandmother's sister) came over once. And this was mostly before the internet (my parents didn't use the internet at all at the time), so it's weird how this works. What do you think? A lot of my dad's side of the family lives in Arizona, but I only went there one time when my cousin got married I think.
I think people may feel embarrassed about their current standard of living, so they feel embarrassed about where they live and what they have, and think they should be in a better situation than they are...or, if you invite someone over, they may criticize your situation.
If you contrast that with people from other countries, say, in the Philippines, they probably don't focus on that. They don't focus on what they have materially. They don't focus on the material. They focus on the people. And they probably are way more socially connected; they invite people over to their home way more often. If you have been to the Philippines, or abroad, is this what they do?