Why do older single women see imaginary faults in everyone?

[Winston]

Have any of you noticed this?

I notice that older single women, such as those over 30, tend to constantly find fault with everyone and everything, yet will never accept any criticism of themselves. Anyone notice that about them? They often see faults in others where there are none, as though they are imagining things or seeing things that aren't there. This especially seems to be true of women over 30 who are still single. They see faults in everything, even if they aren't really there.

Why is that? Are they seeing something that I am missing, or are they delusional? What do you think?

Furthermore, I've also noticed that whenever there is a misunderstanding with them, (usually due to their bad communication skills) they later cite it as a "major character flaw" on your part, while holding themselves blameless. And if you explain to them why they are wrong or are in error, they use that against you and add that another of your character flaws is "being too argumentative and unable to face your true self" etc. You just can't win. I've experienced this a number of times.

Also, they like to start arguments and then when you react to it, they blame it on you, forgetting that they are the one who started it. They also seem to take every little thing personally, even if there was nothing personal in it. Any of you experience that?

Furthermore, rather than making themselves clear with articulate communication, they prefer to claim that there is something wrong with you if you can't read their mind! WTF? Instead of explaining themselves more clearly, they prefer to just tell you that "You just don't understand women" as though the fault were with you, rather than their terrible communication skills. Their statements don't even add up and aren't consistent. Why do they do that? It's weird and illogical. And it's unreasonable to demand that another person be able to read your mind, yet they seem to do just that. Why? Why can't they just use better and clearer communication skills to avoid misunderstandings? What is the problem?

[Blue Murder]

Most of the time, it's pessimism mixed with bitterness. They blame everyone and their mums for THEIR poor decisions, refusing to take responsibility for them. Maybe their brains are then tuned to see the faults in everything -- even where no fault(s) exist.

Women have a shelf life, and they know this. So when the looks fade, so does their positive demeanour(s). But it's not limited to just older women now -- though they seem to be the great majority.

[Repatriate]

Most of the time, it's pessimism mixed with bitterness. They blame everyone and their mums for THEIR poor decisions, refusing to take responsibility for them. Maybe their brains are then tuned to see the faults in everything -- even where no fault(s) exist.

Women have a shelf life, and they know this. So when the looks fade, so does their positive demeanour(s). But it's not limited to just older women now -- though they seem to be the great majority.

Wow Blue Murder finally made 1 decent post!

It's true though, women handle age differently. If a woman is still attractive and in a happy marriage they tend to be very positive. However if they're single and average then they become much more negative. Youth is everything to a woman.

Most men don't age like fine wine either but men's social status tends to scale upward with time and peak in their 30's and 40's. Women's social status is high in their 20's and early 30's then plummets after that. It's a diverging graph.

[Winston]

Furthermore, I've also noticed that whenever there is a misunderstanding with single older women, (due to their bad communication skills and indirect manner) they later cite it as a "major character flaw" on your part, while holding themselves blameless. I've experienced this a number of times. They also seem to take every little thing personally, even if there was nothing personal in it. Any of you experience that?

Also, rather than making themselves clear with articulate communication, they prefer to claim that there is something wrong with you if you can't read their mind! WTF? Instead of explaining themselves more clearly, they prefer to just tell you that "You just don't understand women" as though the fault were with you, rather than their terrible communication skills. Their statements don't even add up and aren't consistent. Why do they do that? It's weird and illogical. And it's unreasonable to demand that another person be able to read your mind, yet they seem to do just that. Why? Why can't they just use better and clearer communication skills to avoid misunderstandings? What is the problem?

[Repatriate]

Furthermore, I've also noticed that when there is a misunderstanding with them, they later cite it as a "major character flaw" on my part, while holding themselves blameless. They also seem to take every little thing personally, even if there was nothing personal in it. Any of you experience that?

Yes women like this are bitter, vindicative, and venal. The way to combat this is to kill them with niceness and always play the hurt victim. If you confront them or try to get logical they will just get nastier because it justifies their world view. They thrive on being argumentative bitches. They already have a grudge against men so do nothing to encourage their behavior.

However, if you turn it around on them and act super nice and downplay their negativity it shames them without shaming them with words.

Try it, I promise you it works.

[PeterAndrewNolan]

Hi Winston,
not just single older women....married older women are just as bad.

Women are just very unhappy people in the west, especially single women. Note the woman who married herself! I mean how unhappy and self centered can a woman be?

They just bitch and moan and complain about everything. They are never happy. They like to provoke men until the men respond so that they can then play victim to the response. The whole thing is just a bag of crap at the moment in the west. Western civilisation is collapsing and not a moment too soon.

[OutsideoftheBox]

Hi Winston,
not just single older women....married older women are just as bad.

Women are just very unhappy people in the west, especially single women. Note the woman who married herself! I mean how unhappy and self centered can a woman be?

They just bitch and moan and complain about everything. They are never happy. They like to provoke men until the men respond so that they can then play victim to the response. The whole thing is just a bag of crap at the moment in the west. Western civilisation is collapsing and not a moment too soon.

What an excellent post by Peter Andrew Nolan.

[Voice of Reason]

Have any of you noticed this?

I notice that older single women, such as those over 30, tend to constantly find fault with everyone and everything, yet will never accept any criticism of themselves. Anyone notice that about them? They often see faults in others where there are none, as though they are imagining things or seeing things that aren't there. This especially seems to be true of women over 30 who are still single. They see faults in everything, even if they aren't really there.

They expect to get their way all the time just because they are women. But when they get older and their looks fade, this doesn't happen anymore. Yet, they still think they are entitled to everything because they are women...so instead of blaming themselves for their attitude they blame everyone else because the are taught by feminism that nothing is ever their fault.

They start to become unhappy, and this only makes it worse.

Just my two cents.

[Banano]

once women gets into 30s they are no longer young.
Youth is gone, many relationships, one night stands took toll on her, if you think abt it she started dating/havin sex at the age of 15 that means 15 years on the market is not short period of time.
I wouldnt advise any men to date women over 30, they are pain, fuked up personalities, difficult to get along.
avoid them like plague unless its quick 1 night stand, both foreign and western.

[PeterAndrewNolan]

What an excellent post by Peter Andrew Nolan.

Well thank you kind Sir.

[All_That_Is_Man]

Have any of you noticed this?

I notice that older single women, such as those over 30, tend to constantly find fault with everyone and everything, yet will never accept any criticism of themselves. Anyone notice that about them? They often see faults in others where there are none, as though they are imagining things or seeing things that aren't there. This especially seems to be true of women over 30 who are still single. They see faults in everything, even if they aren't really there.

Why is that? Are they seeing something that I am missing, or are they delusional? What do you think?

Furthermore, I've also noticed that whenever there is a misunderstanding with single older women, (due to their bad communication skills and indirect manner) they later cite it as a "major character flaw" on your part, while holding themselves blameless. I've experienced this a number of times. They also seem to take every little thing personally, even if there was nothing personal in it. Any of you experience that?

Also, rather than making themselves clear with articulate communication, they prefer to claim that there is something wrong with you if you can't read their mind! WTF? Instead of explaining themselves more clearly, they prefer to just tell you that "You just don't understand women" as though the fault were with you, rather than their terrible communication skills. Their statements don't even add up and aren't consistent. Why do they do that? It's weird and illogical. And it's unreasonable to demand that another person be able to read your mind, yet they seem to do just that. Why? Why can't they just use better and clearer communication skills to avoid misunderstandings? What is the problem?

Everyone hit the nail on the head in their responses. I would also like to add that I have noticed this in women as "young" as 25 (the new expiration date when it comes to most of today's women, IMO), single or married. I, too, have been a victim of everything you are talking about, Winston, especially the part about women overreacting to little things that aren't meant to be taken personally. My theory is that these women have spent their youth whoring around, and thus have been treated like whores by the males they chose. Now, they hate all men and they expect "Mr. Poindexter" to just spend all his money on her, compliment her, tell her she's attractive, and eat from her hand. Any behavior that doesn't fall into this "simp" behavior offends her greatly. Being a bitch is her way of exacting "revenge" against all males because she chose to be a used up whore in her prime who let "badboys" take advantage of her. She is indirectly saying, "Haha! I caught you saying something I didn't like! Well guess what? I won't give you any p***y!" She is of course now past her prime, and her p***y has no real value, but in her mind she wants to believe that she denied a man of something valuable. In short, she wants to see fault in everything/everyone so that she can self-justify herself resorting to her man-hating, sex-witholding inner-cunt.

[Blue Murder]

Wow Blue Murder finally made 1 decent post!

It's true though, women handle age differently. If a woman is still attractive and in a happy marriage they tend to be very positive. However if they're single and average then they become much more negative. Youth is everything to a woman.

Most men don't age like fine wine either but men's social status tends to scale upward with time and peak in their 30's and 40's. Women's social status is high in their 20's and early 30's then plummets after that. It's a diverging graph.

I've made PLENTY of "decent posts", you insipid ingrate. You're just too f***ing blind to see them! How many "decent" posts do YOU have? I'll tell you -- NONE!

Bugger off you miserable sod. Get a life.

[Winston]

Furthermore, I've also noticed that when there is a misunderstanding with them, they later cite it as a "major character flaw" on my part, while holding themselves blameless. They also seem to take every little thing personally, even if there was nothing personal in it. Any of you experience that?

Yes women like this are bitter, vindicative, and venal. The way to combat this is to kill them with niceness and always play the hurt victim. If you confront them or try to get logical they will just get nastier because it justifies their world view. They thrive on being argumentative bitches. They already have a grudge against men so do nothing to encourage their behavior.

However, if you turn it around on them and act super nice and downplay their negativity it shames them without shaming them with words.

Try it, I promise you it works.

Have you met any of them? So how do you turn it around exactly? How do you downplay their negativity? Can you give some examples of what to say to them to do that?

Have you met these types who start pointing out faults in you all of a sudden, citing character flaws in you after misunderstandings, and if you argue with them or refute their allegations, they use it against you by telling you how clueless you are about your own behavior, etc.?

Not all older single women do this, but many do.

One misunderstanding and it can become a big issue.

Or if you give a compliment to them, sometimes they will twist it into an insult. For example, one time I said to her, "Wow you look younger with your hair tied up. It looks cute.", she will usually say, "What? You mean I look older before when my hair was down?". lol

[All_That_Is_Man]

The most formidable solution would be to stop dating older women to begin with.

[Winston]

Well the thing is, even though young women may be flaky, at least they don't see faults in people so easily. They are more laid back and less confrontational, and always trying to act positive in order to be cool and popular. So I guess that's the advantage with young women, as well as their looks.

Check out these interesting responses I received to this issue by email:

Winston,

lol, welcome to the oft unpleasant world of the "older woman." As the late, great haiku translator R. H. Blyth once said: "Death is the problem for a man, aging the problem for a woman. Few there be that solve it--it solves them!"

Actually, I think there are going to be problems with women of ANY age and the only "secret" I've found in dealing with them is to set your own agenda and follow it--which is a lot easier said than done when a hot 18-year old is sitting on your face. Be willing to walk away, in other words, no matter how good the f***ing is or how good she makes you feel. This is much easier done with an older woman because unless you have a fetish for older chicks, most are simply not going to turn you on like being with a much younger woman can do.

On my recent mongering trip, I actually porked many more older women than younger. Part of this was just chance and part was by design. I had some very good experiences and some very bad ones--all part of the game.

As your other advisors have noted, older women tend to be jaded and bitter, often feeling they have been "f***ed over" by other men and this often causes them to enter a relationship expecting to be mistreated and "done wrong."

I spend a lot of time reading women's personal ads and many older women simply come across as real bitches and many will have paragraphs in their personals that should be taken as warning signs--such as any allusions to a history of past "abuse" and a list of expectations a mile long as to what they want in a man.

One thing that strikes me about women and especially the older ones is the amount of self-delusion they have and the overvaluation they place on their looks and their self-worth. It is fine to have good self-esteem but I have to laugh every time I see yet another 260 pound porker with three children raving on about how she's such a good catch and any man who is with her must love her and her children and realize that she's "big and beautiful,"etc., ad nauseam.

Just reread Schopenhauer's essay "On Women." Women are short-sighted and tend toward craziness and self-delusion. Most men have a MUCH clearer idea of their worth and market value. Unfortunately, part of the reason for the attitudes of these women comes from their "success" in attracting men. There are men out there who will f**k anything and even some of the grossest and fattest women I know have very active sex lives. This self-delusion, aided and abetted by desperate men, has given many women a very inflated sense of themselves to go along with their increasing bitterness towards men as they age.

My advice, for you, is to stay the f**k away from them. You are spot on that many take umbrage at what they perceive as the slightest insult or put-down and so most will seek out a seeming obeisant and complacent (read: accepting) man and then begin to find fault even with the nicest guy because of their incredible capacity for self-delusion. A truth seeker and up front guy like you is going to be frustrated in pursuit of an older woman.

As the late comedian Sam Kinison once said, "Most women are five minutes away from a nervous breakdown and are looking for a man to pin the blame on."

I have gotten too old and ugly and misogynistic to be a pick-up artist here in America but I do occasionally pursue "older" women here in the states and almost 100% of the time the pursuit is short-lived for the very reasons you outline--the woman takes offense at some innocuous statement I have made and goes crazy. She either ceases contact or berates me and I get the f**k away from her.

I don't mind dealing with older women in Asia because most of those encounters are business transactions whether they are with a working lady or a so-called "nice" girl and I can always confabulate an excuse for getting away when signs of emotional craziness begin emerging. But, in your case, Winston, I advise you to stick to pursuing the Chinese ingenue you dream about--I do not see you as a good "fit" with an older woman.

I really enjoyed you essay on older women. I 100% agree with the Sam Kinnison statement.
"Most women are five minutes away from a nervous breakdown and are looking for a man to pin the blame on."
I've dated a crazy on in the Phil for years who is right there and says she's crazy! I went to visit one my guy friends I hadn't seen in 2 years and his live in older GF who is real pretty older woman. She started facebooking me. Then she and he had a big fight and she left, and she condinuted to post on my wall and I'd delete her posts and told her my alligiance was to him. they are back together now, but he hasn't spoken to me. She used me to make him jealous and f***ed us up.

Most women have an exhaulted opinion of themselves and you are right they have a big chip on their sholders. I remember one time I met a good looking older women at a job fare and agreed to meet her that night at 7PM. I was running late and didn't have my cell phone w/ me and arrived 15 mins late and she was leaving. I appologized and said the traffic was bad. She gave me a lecture of how insulting it was that I made her wait for 15 minutes. I could tell she had a tremendous chip on her shoulders so I let her walk. A few other older ones think they are in competition with you. Those are a waste of time.

It is amazing how quickly women spoil. they're rotten at an early age!