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Header says it all. The sweet and sincere exterior can fool you with some. I have been grateful to talk with and know several Filipinas I'm interested in, who seem all right, except one of them. Gentlemen, take this to heart so you can avoid the mistake I made. That is: do not lend a listening ear when she starts talking about other guys that are interested in her. We all know to nip it in the bud with AW when she starts blabbing on about other men. In some respects, this particular one was like an AW in this regard. She went on about how he had a great body on cam, but complained about how rude and temperamental he was. (Can anyone else see where this is going? LOL) He made her put makeup and lipstick on camera, and do flirty and sexual expressions and poses, while he MASTURBATED. (f***ing pervert! He's just as bad as Bill O'Reilly) Then he turns around and makes a YouTube video poem for her, and comments on it "Wow that was so sweet".

Here is the last part of the very last cam + text conversation we had:

[1:00:10 AM] Lynn Samson: hi
[1:00:12 AM] jcris7785: hi baby
[1:00:21 AM] jcris7785: how are you feeling?
[1:00:27 AM] Lynn Samson: good now
[1:00:38 AM] Lynn Samson: better
[1:00:41 AM] jcris7785: thats good.
[1:00:43 AM] Lynn Samson: than earlier
[1:00:48 AM] Lynn Samson: hey
[1:00:51 AM] jcris7785: yeah i can imagine
[1:00:56 AM] Lynn Samson: remember the guy
[1:01:01 AM] Lynn Samson: i was talking about
[1:01:04 AM] jcris7785: what about him lol
[1:01:14 AM] Lynn Samson: he made the video
[1:01:20 AM] Lynn Samson: i will send the link
[1:01:26 AM] jcris7785: okay
[1:01:30 AM] jcris7785: im curious to see it
[1:01:53 AM] Lynn Samson: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cLh_rgVvh1g
[1:02:03 AM] Lynn Samson: watch watch watch
[1:02:06 AM] Lynn Samson: hehehe
[1:02:19 AM] jcris7785: watching
[1:02:26 AM] Lynn Samson:
[1:02:58 AM] jcris7785: hmmmm
[1:03:12 AM] Lynn Samson: yeah
[1:03:16 AM] Lynn Samson: he is that guy
[1:03:20 AM] Lynn Samson: cute actually
[1:03:26 AM] jcris7785: but im cuter
[1:03:42 AM] Lynn Samson: no one has ever than done that to me
[1:03:45 AM] Lynn Samson: a poem
[1:03:53 AM] jcris7785: understandable. first for everything right
[1:04:19 AM] *** Call ended, duration 04:48 ***
[1:07:05 AM] jcris7785: welcome back
[1:07:17 AM] Lynn Samson: sorry i froze
[1:07:46 AM] jcris7785: no prob
[1:08:14 AM] Lynn Samson: so what do u think about it
[1:08:18 AM] jcris7785: well
[1:08:20 AM] Lynn Samson: hehehe
[1:08:24 AM] jcris7785: obviously he took the time to make it for you
[1:08:28 AM] Lynn Samson: actually a little cute
[1:08:32 AM] Lynn Samson: hahaha
[1:08:34 AM] jcris7785: but you have to be the judge of someones character
[1:08:37 AM] Lynn Samson: yeah
[1:08:43 AM] jcris7785: to be honest lyn...this is my feeling
[1:09:28 AM] Lynn Samson: hey
[1:09:31 AM] jcris7785: i think you like him, and i dont really want to be in competition with someone else. if he's determined to go down and see you, and he may be able to, before me, because i have work and career obligations for the immediate future to take care of
[1:09:32 AM] Lynn Samson: u see me now
[1:09:34 AM] Lynn Samson: im ugly
[1:09:51 AM] Lynn Samson: ow...
[1:09:55 AM] Lynn Samson: hmmmm
[1:10:10 AM] jcris7785: i feel like i might end up being second choice, even though you know that I am just as in shape physically as he is -- its very clear to me that looks for you are more important than character.
[1:10:11 AM] Lynn Samson: i like his physical look
[1:10:12 AM] Lynn Samson: yes
[1:10:18 AM] jcris7785: and that has happened to me before with other girls
[1:10:23 AM] jcris7785: and they broke my heart
[1:11:06 AM] jcris7785: in fact, i feel you havent really been giving me the respect and regard like you have him. you just keep talking about him with me -- you havent asked about me, and who I am as a person.
[1:11:07 AM] Lynn Samson: hmmm
[1:11:12 AM] Lynn Samson: im sad
[1:11:17 AM] jcris7785: why's that?
[1:11:29 AM] Lynn Samson: i feel like i can tell u everything
[1:11:37 AM] Lynn Samson: and this is how it is to u
[1:11:54 AM] jcris7785: yeah, but i do not wish to be told about other potential boyfriends, when i want to fill that role
[1:11:58 AM] jcris7785: it hurts me
[1:12:09 AM] jcris7785: i wish i hadnt let you tell me about him
[1:12:18 AM] jcris7785: its disrespectful to me in a way
[1:12:20 AM] Lynn Samson:
[1:12:29 AM] jcris7785: and i am about HONESTY, TRUST and RESPECT
[1:12:31 AM] Lynn Samson: you want to fill that role?
[1:12:34 AM] Lynn Samson: sorry.......
[1:12:40 AM] Lynn Samson: i didnt mean to hurt u <----- At this point she is wiping tears away from her eyes on cam
[1:12:57 AM] Lynn Samson: i felt like i can tell everything
[1:13:02 AM] Lynn Samson: and we can talk about anything
[1:13:17 AM] jcris7785: yeah, i felt the same way you do with me, like i did with some girls from my past
[1:13:21 AM] jcris7785: but in the end, they got jealous
[1:13:28 AM] jcris7785: and it hurt htem
[1:13:30 AM] jcris7785: *them
[1:13:34 AM] jcris7785: and i can see why
[1:13:34 AM] Lynn Samson: and u jealous?
[1:13:57 AM] *** Call from Lynn Samson ***
[1:14:19 AM] Lynn Samson: so u jealous
[1:14:21 AM] jcris7785: no. i just believe that you should give me some respect, because it can be hurtful for someone to feel like they may end up getting the short end of the stick
[1:14:32 AM] Lynn Samson: so u really hurt
[1:15:02 AM] jcris7785: in a way i am. and besides, i should have been honest with you from the beginning. i cant have children. i had an injury i sustained playing sports 4 years ago
[1:15:09 AM] jcris7785: and i had to have a vasectomy
[1:15:23 AM] jcris7785: so if you want to have kids with me, its not going to happen, since I know you want them
[1:15:32 AM] Lynn Samson:
[1:15:40 AM] jcris7785: yeah. i wanted to have kids
[1:15:47 AM] jcris7785: but thats not possible for me now
[1:16:05 AM] jcris7785: and i have my career now...so i don't know if i see kids in my future
[1:16:32 AM] jcris7785: i know having children is important to some people
[1:16:40 AM] Lynn Samson: well ok
[1:16:46 AM] jcris7785: and I know you are one of those, i am sorry. we will not be a good fit for each other
[1:17:07 AM] Lynn Samson: just disappointed
[1:17:14 AM] Lynn Samson: bye
[1:17:17 AM] jcris7785: yeah im disappointed too.
[1:17:21 AM] jcris7785: take care of yourself
[1:17:22 AM] Lynn Samson: i will need to end this

The moral of the story is -- DO NOT treat yourself as a $1,000 cashier's check when you know you are worth $20 million. I ended up being chopped liver to this girl -- so I cut my losses.

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Always looking for that NEXT huh.

lionchild wrote:Always looking for that NEXT huh.

ALWAYS. Ever since this incident, I've been contacted by 5 new CherryBlossom ladies, most of them just as pretty as her, and one is smokin' hot (from Mindanao). The tables are turned by going foreign for romantic prospects. Instead of sitting and balking over your f**k up, wondering when your next date will be (like here in America), there's already a handful waiting in line to take her place. The deck is stacked in your favor.

@jcris7,

Via the "no-homo" disclaimer, I think you are a good-looking dude. You look like a member of the pop group O-town all grown up now now doing his first solo album release featuring new music produced by Swizz Beatz, Cornerboys, Bryan Michael-Cox, Jon B., and Ne-Yo writing a few songs for those guys to produce for you.

With all that being said, you need to match your confidence on-par with your looks.

Show these bitches who the alpha male is.

f**k until you cannot f**k anymore, and then when a woman disses you, it would become water off your back going under the bridge, man.

You'll toughen up; it's a rite of passage that even you will have to deal with when dealing with some FW too.

Just keep it moving and sow up those quaker oats in the meanwhile, man.

E_Irizarry wrote:@jcris7,

Via the "no-homo" disclaimer, I think you are a good-looking dude. You look like a member of the pop group O-town all grown up now now doing his first solo album release featuring new music produced by Swizz Beatz, Cornerboys, Bryan Michael-Cox, Jon B., and Ne-Yo writing a few songs for those guys to produce for you.

With all that being said, you need to match your confidence on-par with your looks.

Show these bitches who the alpha male is.

f**k until you cannot f**k anymore, and then when a woman disses you, it would become water off your back going under the bridge, man.

You'll toughen up; it's a rite of passage that even you will have to deal with when dealing with some FW too.

Just keep it moving and sow up those quaker oats in the meanwhile, man.

Appreciate the props brother. And you're right and accurate on everything you said! I chalk all of this up to an experience to learn from. While I'm still here in America I'm sowing wherever possible, and catching up for some lost time because of career. Just because leaving here is off the near future, doesn't mean I can't enjoy myself in the meantime too. Right now getting it from two separate girls. And as for being alpha, I see what you mean. I just read a book a friend loaned to me - Mode One by Alan Roger Currie. Great book -- couldn't put it down. Through reading it, I saw why confidence and not taking shit and dissing from women is the Alpha way.

jcris, thank you for posting this. Lesson learned...That is the ultimate slap in a man's face. Talking about some other dude is so disrespectful. I am glad you dropped her. She seemed like a dunce (no offense). You made the right decision to move on.

Men that go this route have to put on their shields and not let their guards up. You are smart enough to recognize she wasn't the one. Don't tolerate bullshit from foreign women just because they are foreign women. Don't let them get away with things you wouldn't put up with with an American woman.

She was okay looking. You are a good looking guy, so you can do much better than this. Let Jeff Jacksoff take her since she clearly is wet for him.

jcris7 wrote:

lionchild wrote:Always looking for that NEXT huh.

ALWAYS. Ever since this incident, I've been contacted by 5 new CherryBlossom ladies, most of them just as pretty as her, and one is smokin' hot (from Mindanao). The tables are turned by going foreign for romantic prospects. Instead of sitting and balking over your f**k up, wondering when your next date will be (like here in America), there's already a handful waiting in line to take her place. The deck is stacked in your favor.

Thats the way to go... its not like she is the only women left on the planet lol.

-Lionchild