Winston wrote:MarcosZeitola wrote:Winston, women may very well like you. But do they like you romantically, sexually, or just as a friend? You may have the type of vibe a "gay best friend" would have. My wife has several such friends, several of them confirmed gays, others simply suspected. They are the type of guy that are sexually harmless, not a threat to me. So the type of men a husband allows his wife to befriend and hang out with, without having to fear competition.
I'm not calling you gay here, mind you! - but I am suggesting that maybe this is the vibe you are giving off. That you are not the tallest, strongest and handsomest of men and not very masculine. You are not one of those men who ooze sex appeal. As a result it's not hard for you to get contact with girls, talk to them, laugh with them and befriend them. You probably are more then a bit charismatic and likable, and a solid conversationalist. But from being liked (platonic) and being wanted (sexually) is quite a big step. And that step is probably what you are having difficulties with.
You had some sexual issues with Dianne, didn't you? I wonder if similar issues have come up with other girls you've been with\had relationships with. That may be a part of the reason. Some things, a woman can tell instinctively.
Yes that seems what it is. Even in Russia, some women told me that I lacked sexuality, in that I do not trigger sexual desire in women. Why is that? Is it due to my lack of testosterone? Me being not animalistic enough? Maybe I'm too evolved, like a grey alien, and so my animalistic traits have been transcended? lol
What can I do about this though? Work out and build more muscles? Act more cocky and insensitive? Brag more and act more arrogant? Or what?
However, as Rock said, most Chinese guys in China and Taiwan are not very masculine, but feminine and gay-like. Yet they get girls. How do you explain that? Also, Filipinas do not treat me as an asexual. Remember that Asian women and White women are different. White women need more masculinity than Asian women do.
Women have also complained that I seem like a "wayward boy" and not mature. What does that mean exactly? What does mature mean? Does it mean a man who is very serious, narrow minded and simple? No man is really mature. Maturity is just how you act in public. Maybe it means I'm not firm like a rock of gibraltar. But most men aren't right?
From your previous comments, you are appalled that dating is considered a game but make no mistake, it IS a game especially the first few times you get together with her. Each of us will have shortcomings in dealing with women. But not showing enough animal magnetism IMHO, is an easy one to overcome. Look back a few pages of the vid I posted by the dating expert with the huge knockers. She brings up some good strategy.
Let's say you are sitting down with a girl for the first time. Half the way thru the date, I would say something along the lines of "I just wanted to tell you that you look really nice tonight. If you look this good every night, it's going to be very hard for me to behave when I'm around you." Then just give her a devilish smile.
Trust me, she'll take note of this and in the back of her mind, she'll think, "oh he's a bit crazy and dangerous." Women LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE this. Don't think for second that they don't. But you've broken new ground with this "innocent" line without sounding too pervy. It's a balancing act but you need to throw out a few of these "hooks" to let her know you ARE sexual being.
Without asking too many personal questions Winston, do you consider yourself selfish in the bedroom? I know you like all the romantic kissing and stuff. But that may convey being soft too. Really focus on her needs and what she wants and let her know VERBALLY that you are an animal (when the time is right) and then show her.
Like I said before, there is PLENTLY of time for her to get to know the real Winston later. The first few dates you need to find a way to establish that you are a sexual animal and you'll rock her world but this needs to be conveyed in a subtle manner until you actually do bed her. Is this manipulation? SURE it is but who cares? I sell insurance to folks. Do I manipulate my clients in order to sell my product? Duh!
Last but not least, continue to work on your image. There are a few threads on Winston and clothing. Get a good look. Please tell me you are not wearing that damned camera bag that drapes over one shoulder when you are out. Trust me, Winston if I ever have the pleasure of meeting you in real life, I'm going to bring lighter fluid and matches and I WILL BURN YOUR CAMERA BAG. Teasing....well kinda
No really. That damned thing makes you look like "Uncle Winston". It's a big no no.
Good luck man. Glad you are getting some dates in China tho...
