I'm a woman and I'm starting to dislike other women too

[jamesbond]

I lost the only female friend I had this year to something stupid...and it's hell trying to find someone over 25 to be friends with. If she gets married, forget about reconnecting with her, she will dump you for her relationship even though you are supposed to keep friends around and not overwhelm your spouse with all mate and friends responsibilities...

Females in america do not like other women as competition and are always trying to outdo each other. For example my ex best friend always tried to outdo me every time I did something remotely interesting. If I went somewhere, she had to make sure she was going somewhere even better next week and was rubbing her relationship on my face all the time. She abandoned me when I was going through a rough patch but I had to support her all this time.

After finishing college I have not found a single woman that actually likes being friends. They see you as a potential boyfriend/husband snatcher or someone to distrust and be suspicious about.....all without even talking to you...

Many are living a very crazy life that I cannot identify with, drunk or drugs, sleeping around, full of tattoos and a bad personality...

Ever since I moved to jacksonville and went job hunting the female managers treated me like crap and even denied the job posting. This makes me angry as deep inside of me I know women are supposed to stick out for each other but they are colder than men. Some cashier woman even stared down at me the whole time I was speaking to the male manager as if to intimidate me. This can be summed up to fear of losing her job, ect yet it's quite f***ed up to be this in your face about it.

Maybe capitalism is the root of all evil here..driving both genders to compete, consume endlesly and be paranoid of everyone else...

I miss having a little group of friends to share and wonder if moving abroad (to spain my favorite country) would change a thing or is this an universal problem now? Are women in your travels friends with other women in their late twenties and thirties?

It's interesting to hear a woman's perspective on this subject matter. I have heard other women here in America say the same thing that it is hard to make friends with other women because women see other women as competition. They are afraid a woman might try and steal her boyfriend or husband away from her.

It's interesting to hear that you say that Spain is your favorite country. I woman I know told me she just got back from Spain and can't believe how friendly and happy the people in Spain are.

[WanderingProtagonist]

I've never really traveled to other parts of the world, but what I do know is that people in foreign countries are just as distant. This is really a first world issue. You can look at Japan and the people there are lonely as hell. Of course America is competitive but I have a lot of experience talking to foreign people and most of them are just better at faking than people are in the U.S. like how every Filipino/filipina person I met, they have this bullcrap "just be positive, I am always happy" attitude and it always struck me as phony and fake when they come off as people that pretend to never get upset or frustrated about anything. I can never trust anyone like this. My mother have always had great women friends, so I'm not going to sit here and claim that all women in the U.S. are garbage to each other when my own mom has had plenty of good women friends in her life, most of them treated her better than her own damn sister did and some of them felt a lot like aunts to me as well. It really depends on where you go in this country to meet people for friendship. If they are from the city, then yeah it's going to be tougher. In the country depending on who you are they might be a bit more friendlier toward you. Although I cannot confirm this entirely.

The thing is my mom always had religions women in her life as friends so she never had trouble with other women aside from some of the bad seeds at a few jobs she worked in the past, and most of those women were immigrant women mainly Spanish speaking. All of her friends however were hardcore Christians ever since they were kids to teenagers up until adulthood and didn't just start becoming religious because they got too old and scared of death. These women have it engraved into their hearts that GOD is above all. You want some decent friends in the U.S. those are the type of women you have to connect with. I'm not talking about the ones who go to Church on Sunday, play around with Christ for a few hours and then every other day it's back to sinning and being a slut that don't care. No you have to find someone who is severely serious about their faith. And even if they aren't religious you just have to meet people in general with their hearts in the right place.

That's hard to find anywhere in the world really, I remember this one traveler in Philippines said "you can't trust anybody in this country." So don't believe everything people on here say about these other countries. Because every nation have faults, America is one of the most immigrant heavy nations in the world and they come from all those 'perfect' little countries where they are supposingly more "nicer" and "friendly" yet when they get here, I see different. I see a bunch of assholes that act entitled to a country that don't belong to them and that;s both legal and illegal ones. Spanish women also treat non-Spanish women like garbage. I see how a lot of them behave in places of employment. They'll get together in a group and talk trash about other people in their own language and they do it all the time.

[jamesbond]

I lost the only female friend I had this year to something stupid...and it's hell trying to find someone over 25 to be friends with. If she gets married, forget about reconnecting with her, she will dump you for her relationship even though you are supposed to keep friends around and not overwhelm your spouse with all mate and friends responsibilities...

Females in america do not like other women as competition and are always trying to outdo each other. For example my ex best friend always tried to outdo me every time I did something remotely interesting. If I went somewhere, she had to make sure she was going somewhere even better next week and was rubbing her relationship on my face all the time. She abandoned me when I was going through a rough patch but I had to support her all this time.

After finishing college I have not found a single woman that actually likes being friends. They see you as a potential boyfriend/husband snatcher or someone to distrust and be suspicious about.....all without even talking to you...

Many are living a very crazy life that I cannot identify with, drunk or drugs, sleeping around, full of tattoos and a bad personality...

I miss having a little group of friends to share and wonder if moving abroad (to spain my favorite country) would change a thing or is this an universal problem now? Are women in your travels friends with other women in their late twenties and thirties?

It's the same way with men, once your out of school trying to find a group of guys to hang out with is tough. If your friends get married, you can forget getting together with them on a regular basis.

It's not just a thing in the US, this occurs in all western countries, where people see each other as competition.

[jamesbond]

I agree with you completely. Getting ahead and financial wealth is all people are focused on and that's something drilled into people at school. In western society a guy is valued based on his income, job, what car he drives etc doesn't matter if a guy is nice or not in a lot of cases. Society is just a toxic cesspool designed to cause division about everything including relationships between men and women.

Western societies are so competitive, basically your continually competing with other people for jobs, houses, girls, friends, etc. It's ridiculous how competitive things are in western countries. No wonder why the relationships between men and women f***ed up!

[jamesbond]

Maybe capitalism is the root of all evil here..driving both genders to compete, consume endlesly and be paranoid of everyone else...

You have a good point there. In the US, people are continuously competing with each other and everyone is paranoid of everyone else (women in the US are especially paranoid of men).

[jamesbond]

After finishing college I have not found a single woman that actually likes being friends. They see you as a potential boyfriend/husband snatcher or someone to distrust and be suspicious about.....all without even talking to you...

Many are living a very crazy life that I cannot identify with, drunk or drugs, sleeping around, full of tattoos and a bad personality...

I miss having a little group of friends to share and wonder if moving abroad (to spain my favorite country) would change a thing or is this an universal problem now? Are women in your travels friends with other women in their late twenties and thirties?

I have heard other women say the same thing, that women see other women as competition to possibly snatch their husband or boyfriend away from them. The competitiveness in America cuts through in all areas of a persons life (personal, career, family). No wonder why so many Americans are taking medication for depression and anxiety.