Why Winston was an asshole to AnAmericaninBangkok

[Banano]

"I've met approachable women both overseas and in the US. Guess what? It means nothing unless and until you actually get intimate with her. You see, Winston, approachability is only the FIRST step. Most guys want and expect more than just a friendly, polite gesture from women. Because a woman can be flirtatious and friendly, and still jerk your chain."


Common Slapper, everyone knows that Western/Anglo women are the least approachable in the world, in most cases they make up their mind quick without giving you chance to spit out your game unlike Russians, SEA or LA women. Approachability is THE KEY to getting date or laid, everyone who traveled can see correlation between these two variables.
Not saying that if women is approachable that you will automatically get in her pants but your odds of scoring with her look much better compared to women who don't even acknowledge your presence.

AiB has many good point but his delivery needs some polishing and he needs to accept that other people might have different views about Thailand and its women.
Furthermore, AiB needs to control his temper, he comes accross as aggressive short fused kind of guy with big ego, both are not desirable traits. I wonder how would he go with US women.

I came to conclusion that all expats have some (mental)issues

[Bitch_Slapper]

"I've met approachable women both overseas and in the US. Guess what? It means nothing unless and until you actually get intimate with her. You see, Winston, approachability is only the FIRST step. Most guys want and expect more than just a friendly, polite gesture from women. Because a woman can be flirtatious and friendly, and still jerk your chain."


Common Slapper, everyone knows that Western/Anglo women are the least approachable in the world, in most cases they make up their mind quick without giving you chance to spit out your game unlike Russians, SEA or LA women. Approachability is THE KEY to getting date or laid, everyone who traveled can see correlation between these two variables.
Not saying that if women is approachable that you will automatically get in her pants but your odds of scoring with her look much better compared to women who don't even acknowledge your presence.

AiB has many good point but his delivery needs some polishing and he needs to accept that other people might have different views about Thailand and its women.
Furthermore, AiB needs to control his temper, he comes accross as aggressive short fused kind of guy with big ego, both are not desirable traits. I wonder how would he go with US women.

I came to conclusion that all expats have some (mental)issues

There were approachable western/anglo women when I was meeting them years ago. Not many, but some. They were usually brainy or nerdy, very uncommon compared to the general female population. Plus, many were very young, so they were still curious and not yet jaded. My hangouts were usually in rather insular, or rarefied environments like college towns or universities.

And yeah, approachability matters. Like I said, it's only the 1st step: "necessary but not sufficient." Good looks help, as well as having some game. For a lot of guys, approachability is not the problem, it's closing the deal. Which is why I said a woman can be approachable, even flirtatious, and still leave you holding your dick.

As for AiB: go back to the threads, and you will see that Winston provoked him, especially with the comments about his wife, his kids, his credibility, and his looks. It was Winston's fault.

[Bitch_Slapper]

Dear Winston:

My username is different, but I'm actually swincor. Yes, it's really me. I registered under a new username, and wrote those posts.

I want to apologize for the posts I wrote to you. I lacked civility and kindness, and that was wrong.

In fact, I apologize for all the posts I wrote to you in the past. Even though I don't think you are exempt from criticism, much of what I wrote stemmed from ill will and lack of good faith. If I had a disagreement, I could have and should been more civil. Or I should have avoided your forum altogether.

You have provided a valuable service for so many people, and you give your members a lot of freedom to say whatever's on their mind. It's wrong of me or anyone else to exploit that freedom to bully or trash you.

Again, I am very sorry for all that I've done. I hope you forgive me.

Sincerely,

swincor

[Winston]

Hey all, guess what? I contacted anamericaninbangkok, who used to post here before we had a falling out, to see if he can meet us since he lives here in bangkok. He agreed, with the condition that i apologize to him for my insults in the past. I accepted.

This is good news for those of you who are his fans. It means that if we can make amends and get on good terms again, then he may come back here and start posting again. We can also cross promote each other and develop a positive collaborative relationship.

Btw i checked out his website and he now has a new podcast and book hes published. Check them out on his site at:

http://www.anamericaninbangkok.com

[Winston]

Thanks for your apology swincor, aka bitch_slapper. I appreciate it. Hope you learn to appreciate my good traits. I may have faults, but at least im honest and genuine. All my friends will vouch for that.

[Devon]

American in Bangkok has superb insights on Thailand. I enjoy his Youtube Channel.

I felt sad when he left this site ;(

[Winston]

Hi all,
Rock and i met anamericaninbangkok today. We got along and are on fine terms now. We even recorded a podcast discussion, but we arent sure if we will post it or not. Unfortunately however, he does not plan on returning to the forum again because firstly, he doesnt have the time anymore, and secondly, he doesnt like to revisit forums once hes announced that hes leaving. Its an honor thing for him i think. But who knows, maybe he will change his mind if enough of you convince him. Kind of like how when the original star trek series was cancelled, many fans wrote letters to try to get it back on the air. Lol.

[WorldTraveler]

Are you going to post the podcast with American in Bangkok? How is Bangkok? How long you staying and where else you going? Are you going to give us a trip report?

[Winston]

Maybe i can create a thread for americaninbangkok called "Ask americaninbangkok" or "Q&A with americaninbangkok" and ask him to respond there so he doesnt have to keep up with multiple threads.

[Winston]

Are you going to post the podcast with American in Bangkok? How is Bangkok? How long you staying and where else you going? Are you going to give us a trip report?

Maybe. We will see. Bangkok is great for food and infrastructure. But the girls are not sweet and warm and appreciative like in the Philippines. Thats it in a nutshell. Its also overrun with western tourists. Never seen so many in Asia.

[Winston]

Hi all,
We finally met AnAmericaninBangkok. Here are pics that Rock took of me and him when we all met up in Bangkok. We also recorded a podcast together of a roundtable discussion between the three of us, which ill post soon after its been reviewed and edited. You can see his blog and videos about Thailand at: http://www.anamericaninbangkok.com

[droid]

Hey that's great Winston!
I look forward to that podcast

[Moretorque]

He's a little bigger than Mr. Wu but I think Mr. Wu could take him, what do you think Droid ?

[Ghost]

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[droid]

He's a little bigger than Mr. Wu but I think Mr. Wu could take him, what do you think Droid ?

Great Leader can take on anyone, and don't you forget it Mr. Torque.

Yeah remember he has all those TaeKwonDo moves. One time he put Norris in orbit with a swing of that anaconda.

Now AAIB does look stocky, i wouldn't want to get in trouble with that guy either