What's the point of having a big wedding ceremony?

[dffdgf56]

Well I am not in favor of your negative attitude towards marriage. I feel; that is the most important & special time period of someone’s life.

[Bao3niang]

you have not understood me. I am pro-marriage and marriage minded. I am just against the idea and hassles of a ceremonial act signifying marriage. I am against ceremony and ritual im general.

[newlifeinphilippines]

you have not understood me. I am pro-marriage and marriage minded. I am just against the idea and hassles of a ceremonial act signifying marriage. I am against ceremony and ritual im general.

your replying to a spammer

[Rayn]

Its usually the hyper-extroverted, reformed party girl, whalala-look-at-me-tweets types who love big wedding stuffs.

Not to mention those who never earned their own money and simply going to the quick route to riches by snagging herself a husband.

[Jester]

Weddings serve to feed the bride's ego. Men go along with it to please their fiancees.

Women are conditioned to look forward to "their day" from childhood onward. Prom culture feeds into it and family and peer pressure push hesitant women into conformity.

I agree with this and other critiques posted in this thread.

Yet... when a girl you love is dreaming of something, you will want to do what you can.

Prom is maybe a better example of what I am talking about. No you don't want a daughter to be materialistic and spoiled. But you also don't want her to be he only one sitting at home.

No, a man should not be a slave to a woman. But pleasing her can be as gratifying as giving a gift to a child.

Ceremonies, with dresses and decor, generally don't mean much to men, but mean a lot to women. At some level, that seems to be normal, and fairly universal.

But yeah, hold the cost down, sure.

[Ghost]

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[Jonny Law]

Dear Polya,

Stop being Poor,

It is not cool to not have money. Stop being a f***ing loser.

-Newsflash-
You should not get married. You should definitely not have children. You should be ashamed of yourself work harder and get yourself out of poverty. Yet, some people are too stupid and poor.

America still has the most wealth of any nation. If you are poor and stupid you can only blame yourself.

"I've been to weddings where you pay for your own meals/drinks at a restaurant and I still enjoyed myself. I largely agree with you, but I doubt I will ever just have $5,000 sitting around for a wedding anyway so my wedding will be at the registry office...I think some cultures force the bride's family to pay for the wedding - like in India. I hope to marry an Indian!"

[Renata]

My wedding was downright lavish. I had 2 wedding dresses, one for the wedding day and another for the reception night. Only 11 people from my side were present though, becuase I got married in his country. The great thing is that all his family and friends pulled together,to make it all happen, we had one of his colleauges run over 100 lights throughout the garden, it looked spectacular. His parents have a large estate and we had acres of land transformed into a posh galla within days. It was lavish but intimate. Unforgettable'.

I always imagined getting married on the beach or by the sea lol. The point of my big wedding ceremony was all for the family to celebrate with us I felt the love and effort they put in to pull it off. I see that the family I joined their wealth and prosperity is eachother.

Next wedding in the fam I'll have to roll up my sleves and put in the hours

[Renata]

True we don't own any of it though. The both of us, we're pretty much starting from scratch. Nowadays families are breaking up, but when things are good and you're there for eachother it makes a world of a difference. My own family isn't as tight as his and I'm happy to be part of his now. Imagine having hundreds of relatives in your corner.