Is being alone the only way to true peace and freedom without interference?

[Moretorque]

Great quote. So true.

"A wise man can always be found alone. A weak man can always be found in a crowd." - Bruce Lee

"Care about what other people think, and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu

Tesla said he was able to do what he did by being alone to think.

[Winston]

Sadhguru Talks About Importance of Being Alone and Being Silent | Mystics of India

"In a talk with Matthew Hayden, Sadhguru says he is at his best when he is alone and says that one of the processes of advancing spiritually is to be silent and being alone. Listen to the whole talk to know why that is so."

[Winston]

Have any of you noticed that in groups the vibes from the group affects you and stay with you afterward for a few hours at least? So hanging with a group is not consequence-free.

The Priceless Benefits of Not Belonging



"Solitude is dangerous. It's very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how peaceful and calm it is. It's like you don't want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy." - Jim Carrey

It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinions than our own." - Marcus Aurelius

“Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDGOZWp5iGk

Jeffrey Blagg
1 year ago
Does anyone else feel that those of us that love and accept others as they are without judgment are usually the ones that are ostracized because of the judgments of others? Keep on existing sigmas! Maybe one day we can have a meal together? (Portland, Oregon)

Happier Abroad - Expat Living and Dating Overseas
7 minutes ago (edited)
Yes because most people are very judgmental so they do not vibe with people who are nonjudgmental and authentic. Judgmental people never like me either even if I am super nice to them. People and groups have an animal instinct and can sense if you are different than them, even if you try to act normal.

[Winston]

Why does this Euro guy claim that in Asia, everyone wants to hang out with him and no one will leave him alone, as if everyone is open and social and wants to make friends with others? Is he living in a different universe or dimension? How can this be when people are cold and closed and don't talk to strangers unless it's business related? I don't get it. Am I cursed by the gods or does the oversoul (collective consciousness) of people dislike me or am I not connected to the oversoul that everyone else is so I'm not part of their species? How else can you explain this? Am I missing something? What do normal people have or see that I don't have or see? Nothing makes any sense in this world. Am I in a dream or simulation that's trying to f**k with my mind? Is this a cosmic joke?

The Dilemma of Loneliness

Solitude has its dark sides. But so has socializing.

[Winston]

Can we be Happy without Friends? | The Social Minimalist

A minimalist lifestyle concerns itself with minimizing the number of material resources we need to be satisfied. A tremendous benefit of this approach is the reduced cost of living. The less we need, the more time, money, and energy we save. So, can we also apply minimalism to our social connections to gain the same benefits? Can we be happy with a minimal amount of friends, or even without friends? This video explores the benefits and downsides of friendship, the current state of friendships, and if we actually need friends.

[Moretorque]

Not you Winston, you are to attractive and the gals will never leave you alone..

[Winston]

Interesting video on the benefits and value of being alone and living in solitude.



This video is too generalized. So I added these caveats below in the comments section. These new agers are so naive and cultish, as if they are all reading from the same script.

Happier Abroad: Escape USA & Date Foreign Women!
31 seconds ago (edited)
But Erekteus, if you are in America you have no choice but to be isolated because the people there are antisocial and closed off and don't like talking to people unless it's for business only. They are very misanthropic. I swear. You can feel how everyone wants to get away from others and shut themselves in their houses. So you have no choice, especially in Las Vegas where talking to strangers is a sin and crime. No joke! You have no choice but to move abroad as I did. Yet no one dares to talk about this for some reason. It's taboo, though true.

Happier Abroad: Escape USA & Date Foreign Women!
3 minutes ago (edited)
The problem with this is that most people cannot think outside the box, especially in Asia where everyone is conformist with a hive mind. So for most people this will not apply. Moreover, you have to a have a rich inner self to enjoy being alone, which again most people don't have.

Happier Abroad: Escape USA & Date Foreign Women!
0 seconds ago
Question: How come when I leave America I experience no social isolation or anxiety and am free to date as many women as I like? I swear location makes all the difference, NOT thoughts or attitudes or beliefs like the new agers claim. I was stunned to discover this in 2022 when I went to Russia. How do you all explain this? I have many videos to prove my claims.

[Winston]

Why you have to be alone and isolated to spiritually evolve.

[Winston]

Interesting motivation talk by motivational coach Dr. Joe Dispenza about why being alone is better for your soul and mind and consciousness than being with others. He makes some interesting points that are profound and mind blowing.



Comment I posted under the video:

"If you're lonely and seek human connection, America is the worst place you can be. It's isolating and alienating and people don't talk to strangers unless it's business related. In other countries social life flows more smoothly and naturally and openly. But in America it feels against the grain to try to make friends or meet people."

"I don't agree with this. Humans are meant for connection by nature. We aren't meant to be hermits. Only Americans and New Agers see loneliness as a defect. Loneliness is natural, not programmed. If you are lonely in America, the best solution is to go abroad. That's what I discovered in 2002. In the Philippines you can always find love and female companionship and never be lonely. You don't have to stay in America. LOCATION is the key to changing your life, NOT thoughts. This is the biggest secret that the self help industry isn't telling you. I challenge Dr. Joe Dispenza to debate me on this publicly. I'm the top expert in the world on why leaving America will solve your problems. Hence my message is unique. But Dr. Dispenza's message is a dime a dozen."

[yick]

Yes, some people are perfectly happy to be alone. You can get human interaction in many ways, it doesn't have to be deep friendship.

I live in China and am on my own and I am perfectly happy, I get human interaction with my students and when I go out and do my things, it's enough for me. I find company when it is too intense or too full on tiring. The things I like to do are things you can do on your own, weights, running, writing and I am perfectly happy.

Social hell for me would be part of a rugby team - that would be hell having to drink with a bunch of blokes and play sport with them - no thanks and though I was in the army and had (have, still in touch with some of them) good friends, I was also young - but even then, I didn't like it - I have always been comfortable alone.

As for going out eating alone etc - I don't care about other people and what they think of me, they're not important, I don't feel jealous of groups of people eating either - good for them! I don't care - I eat out somewhere because I want a meal and to sit down and eat it, once I am done, I leave.

[yick]

Why does this Euro guy claim that in Asia, everyone wants to hang out with him and no one will leave him alone, as if everyone is open and social and wants to make friends with others? Is he living in a different universe or dimension? How can this be when people are cold and closed and don't talk to strangers unless it's business related? I don't get it. Am I cursed by the gods or does the oversoul (collective consciousness) of people dislike me or am I not connected to the oversoul that everyone else is so I'm not part of their species? How else can you explain this? Am I missing something? What do normal people have or see that I don't have or see? Nothing makes any sense in this world. Am I in a dream or simulation that's trying to f**k with my mind? Is this a cosmic joke?

The Dilemma of Loneliness

Solitude has its dark sides. But so has socializing.

Some people can make connections by keeping it light and interesting, there is a fellow workmate who wanted to hang out with me and the first time I did - he wanted to talk flat earth and all kinds of bullshit and about an hour in I couldn't take it anymore - I just told him 'if you don't stop talking about this boring crap then I will leave and find something more interesting to do' I am not going to sit there and listen to someone talk crap because I am bored and need company which he does - I don't.

You are obviously interested in things many people are not, that doesn't make you more real or profound or them fake - it is just you are interested in niche subjects and you finding people to talk about these things is going to take some real effort, most people won't be interested, they will nod politely and then leave and you will never hear off them again - Euro guy probably keeps it light and superficial, probably listens well too and asks questions, there are many ways to 'win friends and influence people' and of course, it is probably easier when they're in countries where they speak English - I find making connections easier in Penang, Malaysia than I do in China.

[Winston]

Why does this Euro guy claim that in Asia, everyone wants to hang out with him and no one will leave him alone, as if everyone is open and social and wants to make friends with others? Is he living in a different universe or dimension? How can this be when people are cold and closed and don't talk to strangers unless it's business related? I don't get it. Am I cursed by the gods or does the oversoul (collective consciousness) of people dislike me or am I not connected to the oversoul that everyone else is so I'm not part of their species? How else can you explain this? Am I missing something? What do normal people have or see that I don't have or see? Nothing makes any sense in this world. Am I in a dream or simulation that's trying to f**k with my mind? Is this a cosmic joke?

The Dilemma of Loneliness

Solitude has its dark sides. But so has socializing.

Some people can make connections by keeping it light and interesting, there is a fellow workmate who wanted to hang out with me and the first time I did - he wanted to talk flat earth and all kinds of bullshit and about an hour in I couldn't take it anymore - I just told him 'if you don't stop talking about this boring crap then I will leave and find something more interesting to do' I am not going to sit there and listen to someone talk crap because I am bored and need company which he does - I don't.

You are obviously interested in things many people are not, that doesn't make you more real or profound or them fake - it is just you are interested in niche subjects and you finding people to talk about these things is going to take some real effort, most people won't be interested, they will nod politely and then leave and you will never hear off them again - Euro guy probably keeps it light and superficial, probably listens well too and asks questions, there are many ways to 'win friends and influence people' and of course, it is probably easier when they're in countries where they speak English - I find making connections easier in Penang, Malaysia than I do in China.

I doubt it. The guy in the video sounds depressed and cynical and jaded. Philosophers tend to be like that. People who philosophize too much become too gloomy and depressing to be around. I don't talk about niche topics with everyone, only close friends. If I'm with someone new I just wing it and go with the flow and see what they want to talk about it and keep it light. I know how to make polite small talk too and go with the flow. The thing is, if people aren't interested in you then they aren't. It doesn't matter what you say or do. They just don't vibe with you, even if you say things that are polite and non-controversial.

It's kind of like cats and dogs. It doesn't matter what they say or do, they aren't meant to resonate or connect so they don't. It has nothing to do with social skills or conversation skills. You can have the greatest social skills in the world but if no one is interested in you then that's that. Your social skills isn't gonna change that. There is something deeper and more intangible and metaphysical going on too. It's not all linear logic and physical. Reality is multi-dimensional and multi-layered. Logic cannot explain many things. Look at the Encyclopedia of the Paranormal A-Z and you will see that material science or linear logic cannot explain a long list of hundreds of things.

Some people like you for no reason and some people dislike you for no reason. It's not about what you say or do. It's just who you are and the energetic connections you have that are beyond the physical. If people in Taiwan or the USA give me this negative vibe like they don't want to hang out, it's not due to anything I say or do. There's just no resonance or our vibes conflict. It has nothing to do with social skills. You can be shy and have no social skills and be boring yet have lots of friends and be in a large social clique, if you fit in and resonate with the group. Or you can be super outgoing and talkative and have no friends if no one wants to be around you and gives you the cold shoulder.

Psychology websites make it black and white like everyone is either an extrovert or introvert. But reality is much more nuanced than that. Most people are not social butterflies. That's a myth. I don't get why psychology websites say that.

[NPCslammer]

https://youtu.be/PFLh-FKAIDQ?si=mBqb73Ceh7mHlXL7

Better than the happier abroad solution. Just avoid people. Peace and quiet is bliss.