Why a Man Must Make His Woman Jealous

[jamesbond]

Good video by Richard Cooper explaining why men must make their woman jealous.

[Cornfed]

This is another reason for prostitutes to be available to married men.

[Tsar]

This is another reason for prostitutes to be available to married men.

Yes, but maybe for it to be worth it, a whore that's thin, attractive, and 18-25 should be $50 per hour or $250 four a day.

The fact that any escort or whore charges 20-100 times the minimum wage per hour is a terrible deal.

And any escort that's older than 30, overweight, or not as desirable should only be 2 times the minimum wage maximum for her country.

[jamesbond]

Good video explaining why you are seen as more desirable by women if other women want you.

[MrMan]

This is an idea floating around in the manosphere, keep the woman a little uncertain that her man can leave at any time so she is on her best behavior, keeps him serviced sexually, etc.

A better approach is to do to others as you would have them do to you. I don't want to feel like my wife would leave me at any time. In fact, that would be a very undesirable trait in a wife. I love my wife and I don't want her stressed that I am going to leave her. My wife knows I am very committed to our marriage. Divorce isn't an option. Of course, she doesn't cheat on me, either, and I don't cheat on her. If you treat each other with respect, that helps with a lot of problems that could otherwise arise.

But if a woman seems to show interest in me or compliments me, I do let my wife know. My wife does the same. Part of it is just showing you have nothing to hide, communicating that you are faithful even if there are people out there interested in you. I also realize that doing so communicates that you are desirable. Back when I was more in the marrying age range, I used to pick up on more interest from women, especially in Indonesia.

Back in my 30's, I sat down at a kiosk at the mall and a very pretty young woman sat next to me. She sounded kind of like a preman-- gangsta if you will, kind of a raspy voice. She used Betawi slang. I told her she sounded just like my sister-in-law, except she spoke with a Betwai accent. She did. It was funny, same voice different accent. Anyway, she said, "I didn't know you were married." Funny thing to say, almost a Freudian slip. She probably dug white guys, thought I was good-looking, and decided to sit there near me just in case I asked her out. But most Indonesian girls are respectful enough of marriage and/or don't want to be a second wife or side chick, so they don't pursue married women.

I told my wife about this. I suspect there is something to this idea that even after marriage, if other women find her husband desirable, that can make her value how desirable he is more and all that stuff. I don't know if it works on me. She has more stories of men showing interest in her in recent years. Men are supposed to be the pursuers culturally, and spending time in the US, there are a lot of men looking for second-hand women, divorcees, trying to get women to cheat. Being Asian, she gets attention from Asiaphiles, also. Being a pretty lean Asian must add to that. I got more attention from women in Indonesia.

I don't know if stories of other men saying flirty comments to her or seeming to stare at her or whatever that she occasionally relates to me (maybe once or twice a years or so) have any affect on how desirable I see her. I'm not sure how much this works on men. Maybe it works on some men, the type of men who go on 'The Bachelorette' and will fall all over themselves for a 6 or a 7, who is famous who other men are going for, maybe.

[Outcast9428]

This is an idea floating around in the manosphere, keep the woman a little uncertain that her man can leave at any time so she is on her best behavior, keeps him serviced sexually, etc.

A better approach is to do to others as you would have them do to you. I don't want to feel like my wife would leave me at any time. In fact, that would be a very undesirable trait in a wife. I love my wife and I don't want her stressed that I am going to leave her. My wife knows I am very committed to our marriage. Divorce isn't an option. Of course, she doesn't cheat on me, either, and I don't cheat on her. If you treat each other with respect, that helps with a lot of problems that could otherwise arise.

But if a woman seems to show interest in me or compliments me, I do let my wife know. My wife does the same. Part of it is just showing you have nothing to hide, communicating that you are faithful even if there are people out there interested in you. I also realize that doing so communicates that you are desirable. Back when I was more in the marrying age range, I used to pick up on more interest from women, especially in Indonesia.

Back in my 30's, I sat down at a kiosk at the mall and a very pretty young woman sat next to me. She sounded kind of like a preman-- gangsta if you will, kind of a raspy voice. She used Betawi slang. I told her she sounded just like my sister-in-law, except she spoke with a Betwai accent. She did. It was funny, same voice different accent. Anyway, she said, "I didn't know you were married." Funny thing to say, almost a Freudian slip. She probably dug white guys, thought I was good-looking, and decided to sit there near me just in case I asked her out. But most Indonesian girls are respectful enough of marriage and/or don't want to be a second wife or side chick, so they don't pursue married women.

I told my wife about this. I suspect there is something to this idea that even after marriage, if other women find her husband desirable, that can make her value how desirable he is more and all that stuff. I don't know if it works on me. She has more stories of men showing interest in her in recent years. Men are supposed to be the pursuers culturally, and spending time in the US, there are a lot of men looking for second-hand women, divorcees, trying to get women to cheat. Being Asian, she gets attention from Asiaphiles, also. Being a pretty lean Asian must add to that. I got more attention from women in Indonesia.

I don't know if stories of other men saying flirty comments to her or seeming to stare at her or whatever that she occasionally relates to me (maybe once or twice a years or so) have any affect on how desirable I see her. I'm not sure how much this works on men. Maybe it works on some men, the type of men who go on 'The Bachelorette' and will fall all over themselves for a 6 or a 7, who is famous who other men are going for, maybe.

This is why real tradition is better then PUA advice. For all their claims of how great they are with women, none of these PUA types seem to be happily married to a beautiful woman. In my case, I've made a point of showing my girlfriend that I have nothing to hide and will be faithful to her. I'm starting to feel more and more like PUA advice is essentially the same thing applied to girls as "get rich quick" advice can be applied to finances. Get rich quick schemes have a way of making people feel rich in the short term and then ending very badly because they aren't sustainable. PUA advice is the same way. You aren't building a mutually loving, trusting, and respectful bond by jerking girls around the way they recommend guys act. And this kind of advice isn't necessarily limited to shady/scummy types, even a lot of the PUAs who emphasize that they aren't like other PUAs and they're respectful or whatever, may not recommend negging a girl but they do recommend stuff like telling a girl she'll always be #2 and telling guys not to make a girl feel like a priority to you.

I think PUA advice works well on slutty girls whom a guy can have a short term relationship with, but PUA advice is very bad for building a marriage that you hope is gonna last. Nobody wants to be on the edge of their seat their entire marriage. I'd go so far as to say that if you apply standard PUA tactics to a girl and it actually works, that alone is a red flag indicating she's probably not marriage material.

A girl worth marrying is a girl who will let you suffocate her with love, kindness, attention, and affection and loves you for doing it.