Lots of well-educated American women bail on their marriages.Devil Dog wrote:I have been married for 29 years. 5 kids. Well educated American Woman.
So your wife was a virgin before you met her? How typical is that for American women? I'd say the odds of finding an AW who's a virgin are extremely poor.1. A sense of honesty and personal integrity on the part of both partners. Big bonus points if the woman is a virgin. If she was a virgin at the time of marriage and does not screw around, then how much of an asshole is the husband who screws around?
Yup. American women have a tendency to do that to you. And once you're locked into a marriage with an AW, she can really get away with shit.2. Commitment to always make it work. There will be rough times, but if you put affection and love into it then that will be reflected back to you. You will get back what you put into it. This sounds like hackneyed advice and I suppose that it is, but there will be times when you are pissed off at each other. I mean REALLY f***ing PISSED OFF.
This is lame. I mean, REALLY lame. What husband hasn't hoped his wife would come to her senses and not walk out?If in the back of your mind you believe that after all is said and done that she is going to make it work and not walk out, then it is easier to have that attitude for yourself.
Very general, too general. Husband and wife each have different ideas of "compromise." And a husband never compromises his status as head of the household, which means he doesn't tolerate disobedience from his wife.3. Willingness to compromise in all areas.
This is interesting. And what exactly would you do if your wife did withhold?4. For the most part, sex is mandatory. Withholding sex as a method of manipulation has no place in a marriage. I would not put up with that.
The fact that your wife may not be typical is not in itself an adequate explanation for why your marriage succeeded, nor does it adequately explain why she is deserving of more credit than you for the success of your marriage. How is she not a typical AW?At the end of the day I attribute the success of my marriage more to my wife than to myself. If I had married a different, more typical type of woman, I would probably be divorced by now.
One could define "fair play" as two spouses both fooling around. So fair play in itself doesn't prevent spouses from violating their marriage vows. What prevents spouses from cheating is whether they have the morals to commit to a sacred vow. So if you're married and take your vows seriously, then fooling around is out.Would some strange p***y be fun now and then? Of course it would. But my sense of fair play does not allow that.
I have to admit, it's puzzling why you would be on this site if you have it so good with your American woman wife.