[3:50PM, 7/23/2015] Monkro: I would guess in most cases, it's not possible to remove emotional callouses. However, if when you are back in mainland China you tell her how you made a mistake by leaving and being away for too long, and how you learned from that mistake and therefore will never repeat it, she might let her guard down again and deepen her love for you.
Emotional callouses are a defense mechanism. When someone you love is so far away from you, you have to form those callouses in order to protect yourself from the pain.
[3:59PM, 7/23/2015] Winston Wu: Then we all have emotional callouses and defense mechanisms. Suffering creates that. Older people have more of them.
[4:01PM, 7/23/2015] Monkro: Yes, but we have emotional callouses in regards to differing things. Some people may have an emotional callous towards one thing while not having any towards other things.
Older people do have more of them. That's why it's usually best to go after younger women for serious relationships."
So you see, with less emotional callouses, younger women will be able to love more deeply.
