Tsar wrote: ↑May 30th, 2021, 4:45 pm
What if I want to have bareback sex and pay for her to be on birth control?
Tsar, you’re putting the cart way before the horse.
First work out how to initially create interest from a woman, then put it into practice. Because most of us started developing these skills in our teens and early 20’s, you’re behind the 8 ball compared with other men your age and probably be rejected many times. Even us who are reasonable good with women still get rejected (usually graciously so not to have our feeling hurt)
Eventually you’ve landed a date, then you need a new skill set building attraction and rapport. Ever been speed dating?, It will give you an idea where you stand. You’ll be rejected again often after your first date, or you might not be feeling it too.
Things go well and you progress to the second date now you need a new skill yet again. You have to delve deeper into her mind and life and see if her personality traits and beliefs are compatible with yours, as well as dealing with her questions. At any point you can say the wrong thing or monumentally put your foot in your mouth and you want be getting a second date.
If she hasn’t come up with an excuse to leave and you think the dates gone well, you need year another skill set :- how to tell if she’s flirting with you or just being nice. If you don’t get this right she’ll either think you aren’t into her or creep her out with your unwanted flirting.
If she likes you then you want to move things forward at the end of the date and kiss her. You have to be able to read the signs and work out if she wants you to kiss her or if she wants more time before getting physical. I can tell you there are horrible kissers our there, so if you have had limited experience with this, then it could be another point where you don’t make
It to the third date.
So you’ve made it to the third date. You haven’t screw up since your second date and haven’t come across as too clinging or distance, and you’ve nailed the date. There’s lots of physical chemistry between you and you find yourself back in her bed. You use a condom, because that’s what she expects a guy who she doesn’t know well to do.
The next morning you kiss her good bye and then a day later she breaks things off which you didn’t see coming because you rocked her world in bed, but you actually didn’t. She didn’t feel any sexual chemistry and couldn’t see a relationship going anywhere.
During these sequences of events, there is no chat about STD checks, Virginity, contraception etc.... because that’s being presumptive. Until you’re actually physically engaged in the act of sex, any one of 1000 things can go wrong and you won’t achieve your goal. Especially talking about the things above, most women will run a mile (Russian women especially)
I’m not knocking you for being a virgin at 30, but don’t focus on sex. You have so much more important things to work on before that’s an issue, but when you eventually get there always wear a condom, because any change of birth control winter be discussed until several months into a relationship and by that time you’ve picked up skills so you can cope with the extra stimulation you feel without a condom.
Most virgins will blow their load in less than a minute and leave the woman somewhat disappointed. You will be no different to the rest of us. Where I experienced that in my teen years and had honed those mental and physical tricks for marathon sessions by the time I was you age, you will probably have an uncomfortable and slightly embarrassing learning curve, that could cause her to walk away siting sexual chemistry issues.
