And with all this stuff Ross is not married and doesn't have a girlfriend so if you end up alone- what's the point of all this?[/quote]
Ross Jeffries shagging hookers

What about Sean Stephenson, 3 foot tall dude
in my view you have not seduced a woman unless you had sex with her. So if you approach 1000 women with NLP patterns or whatever else - and you only managed to have sex with a few girls from all those approached then it's not really 'seducing'....MrPeabody wrote:I think some of these guys get addicted. Seducing a woman gives you a dopamine high, and you have to do it with a new woman each time to get the next fix, just like heroin. A man can get addicted to anything that creates pleasure.
fox wrote:in my view you have not seduced a woman unless you had sex with her. So if you approach 1000 women with NLP patterns or whatever else - and you only managed to have sex with a few girls from all those approached then it's not really 'seducing'....MrPeabody wrote:I think some of these guys get addicted. Seducing a woman gives you a dopamine high, and you have to do it with a new woman each time to get the next fix, just like heroin. A man can get addicted to anything that creates pleasure.
The success ratio of PUAs is usually getting one or a few girls after approaching 1000 girls.
That's why guys don't ultimately get sex. They focus on the outcome and not the process. If you can influence a woman's mind and create positive feelings, then, in fact, you have done something real. I have come to find sex boring and place much more value on a woman's feelings and intentions. I doubt there are many guys getting rejected a thousand times, because they would give up long before then. However, a salesman gets rejection every day but ends up making a good living. A man oversees getting sex because of his money really has nothing and will eventually end up in a state of intense suffering.fox wrote:in my view you have not seduced a woman unless you had sex with her. So if you approach 1000 women with NLP patterns or whatever else - and you only managed to have sex with a few girls from all those approached then it's not really 'seducing'....MrPeabody wrote:I think some of these guys get addicted. Seducing a woman gives you a dopamine high, and you have to do it with a new woman each time to get the next fix, just like heroin. A man can get addicted to anything that creates pleasure.
The success ratio of PUAs is usually getting one or a few girls after approaching 1000 girls.
.That's why guys don't ultimately get sex. They focus on the outcome and not the process. If you can influence a woman's mind and create positive feelings, then, in fact, you have done something real
I doubt there are many guys getting rejected a thousand times, because they would give up long before then.
not all salesmans are good salesman and not everyone can be a salesman (just like not everyone can be a PUA)However, a salesman gets rejection every day but ends up making a good living.
Yes pretty muchA man oversees getting sex because of his money really has nothing and will eventually end up in a state of intense suffering.
I would agree with this statement. Most guys would rather have lousy sex than great intimacy and invariably define sex only as intercourse ending with a big squirt. OTOH, the next statement...MrPeabody wrote: That's why guys don't ultimately get sex. They focus on the outcome and not the process.
Is not a place in life that I have yet hit, and I am 58. And your final statement...MrPeabody wrote:I have come to find sex boring and place much more value on a woman's feelings and intentions.
I'm not sure whether you are referring to prostitution, p4p, or just the general notion that many foreign women are attracted to the size of a Western guy's wallet. Personally if a girl slept with me because she mistakenly believes that I have a fat wallet - well, I can live with the "intense suffering"MrPeabody wrote: A man oversees getting sex because of his money really has nothing and will eventually end up in a state of intense suffering.
Totally agree. This happened to me for awhile. I got to the point where I would be on a date with one girl, see another that I liked walk by, excuse myself to use restroom or make a call, and then catch-up with the target and try to get her number to work her later. This type of addiction makes it very hard to maintain a quality LT relationship with any one girl.MrPeabody wrote:fox wrote:Yea I recently saw one of Jeffries's seminars which was recorded in Germany (I think). His stuff is intresting but If and in order for it to really work with closed off western women, it will take a lot of practice and work- I said "If" it would really work- cause nothing can work for everyone....MrPeabody wrote:I went to one of Ross Jeffries first seminars. At that time, he was entertaining and had an angry edge to him, like this is how we are going to trick women. He seemed to work hard to deliver an informative seminar and guys spent a lot of time laughing which loosened up some guys who could then approach women. Later in years, he seemed to let success go to his head and became more touchy feely, i.e. we are co-creators in the seduction with the women. Then he went over the edge with his psychic nonsense. At that time, I had no idea what a huge industry it would become. They are all rip-offs of Ross Jeffries and in my opinion a huge waste of money. Change is very difficult, requiring years of dedicated practice, and most guys aren't up to it. By the way, Jeffries business associate Dr. Knipes was in a long term marriage, was an expert hypnotist and I learned more from him then Jeffries. Knipes demonstrated cold approaches in malls for a group of us and he was very good at it.
And with all this stuff Ross is not married and doesn't have a girlfriend so if you end up alone- what's the point of all this?
I think some of these guys get addicted. Seducing a woman gives you a dopamine high, and you have to do it with a new woman each time to get the next fix, just like heroin. A man can get addicted to anything that creates pleasure.
If a woman hands you her power meaning she will do whatever you want, you have seduced her even if you opt not to have sex with her. For example, a guy might seduce a virgin and decide against having full-on sex with her because of the karmic responsibility it incurs. But if the girl still wants to be with him all the time on his terms, he won her over. Its a total score.fox wrote:in my view you have not seduced a woman unless you had sex with her. So if you approach 1000 women with NLP patterns or whatever else - and you only managed to have sex with a few girls from all those approached then it's not really 'seducing'....MrPeabody wrote:I think some of these guys get addicted. Seducing a woman gives you a dopamine high, and you have to do it with a new woman each time to get the next fix, just like heroin. A man can get addicted to anything that creates pleasure.
The success ratio of PUAs is usually getting one or a few girls after approaching 1000 girls.
Agree. If you are too goal (sex) focused, it can contaminate the seduction process. Women tend to be sensitive and perceptive. In order to optimize performance, I believe you need to savor every part of the game and be willing to take it as it comes, even if it ends prematurely sometimes. The more you show you want it, the less she will be inclined to give it to you.MrPeabody wrote:That's why guys don't ultimately get sex. They focus on the outcome and not the process. If you can influence a woman's mind and create positive feelings, then, in fact, you have done something real. I have come to find sex boring and place much more value on a woman's feelings and intentions. I doubt there are many guys getting rejected a thousand times, because they would give up long before then. However, a salesman gets rejection every day but ends up making a good living. A man oversees getting sex because of his money really has nothing and will eventually end up in a state of intense suffering.fox wrote:in my view you have not seduced a woman unless you had sex with her. So if you approach 1000 women with NLP patterns or whatever else - and you only managed to have sex with a few girls from all those approached then it's not really 'seducing'....MrPeabody wrote:I think some of these guys get addicted. Seducing a woman gives you a dopamine high, and you have to do it with a new woman each time to get the next fix, just like heroin. A man can get addicted to anything that creates pleasure.
The success ratio of PUAs is usually getting one or a few girls after approaching 1000 girls.
Seduction has nothing to do with a physical act, which is an outcome. It is purely mental. Unknown to you, you may have seduced a woman 5 minutes after meeting her, but because you want quick results, you end up sabotaging the process. A man who thinks like this is unlikely to get anywhere. A man who focuses on the process will be able to ride the ups and down and succeed in an environment of uncertainty. It's actually the same for any type of serious undertaking. A farmer takes a whole season to nurture and grow his crops. A better word would be a process of "persuasion". I think that the word "PUA" is silly and seems to confuse more than it enlightens. It's a marketing word created to sell a defective product to men desperately searching for a solution.fox wrote:.That's why guys don't ultimately get sex. They focus on the outcome and not the process. If you can influence a woman's mind and create positive feelings, then, in fact, you have done something real
Yes but it's not seductionI make people feel good everyday but it doesn't mean I'm seducing them....
Hellow IntoTheWild,IntoTheWild wrote:Hey guys, I'm a new guy here, couldn't help but be intrigued by your discussion as I am one of those 'PUA' guys that guys on happierabroad seem to have so much disdain for. It's really unwarranted because none of the guys on here seem to fully understand it.
I'm not bashing happier abroad! I think it's great. There is a whole wonderful world of women outside of America. It's true. I think a lot of guys on here are very frustrated and that's understandable, but don't bash what you don't understand! If you do, you're missing out on a lot more than you think. I'll probably get a lot of flack for that, and I can see with some of the personalities on here, some guys, might never 'get it'.
Oh, where do I start?!? For one thing, there really is no one 'PUA' industry. I see you guys mentioning Mystery and Ross Jeffries, who are so OLD and OUTDATED it's not even funny, but of course EVERYONE who knows nothing about what most PUA's are into talk about that creepy Ross Jeffries, Mystery, Stye, etc. You THINK you know about it because you read 'The game' or some shit or know a friend who did and now thinks he's a PUA.
Now that's funny. When Ross Jeffries was getting started, he had a major verbal war on the Internet with a guy called "Don Steele". Steele claims that he mentored Jeffries who then turned against him. Jeffries ridiculed Steele claiming that Jeffries was introducing a radical new technology and that Don Steele was OLD and OUTDATED. They actually ended up in court and came up with an agreement to not talk about each other anymore. Karma is a bitch.IntoTheWild wrote:
Oh, where do I start?!? For one thing, there really is no one 'PUA' industry. I see you guys mentioning Mystery and Ross Jeffries, who are so OLD and OUTDATED it's not even funny, but of course EVERYONE who knows nothing about what most PUA's are into talk about that creepy Ross Jeffries, Mystery, Stye, etc. You THINK you know about it because you read 'The game' or some shit or know a friend who did and now thinks he's a PUA.
MrPeabody,MrPeabody wrote:Now that's funny. When Ross Jeffries was getting started, he had a major verbal war on the Internet with a guy called "Don Steele". Steele claims that he mentored Jeffries who then turned against him. Jeffries ridiculed Steele claiming that Jeffries was introducing a radical new technology and that Don Steele was OLD and OUTDATED. They actually ended up in court and came up with an agreement to not talk about each other anymore. Karma is a bitch.