Winston wrote:Rock,
I just realized another example of when you've underestimated me. Remember when you came to Angeles and had that phone with you, and couldn't figure out how to allocate your SMS memory to the phone rather than the SIM card? I told you that I could figure it out, but rather than giving me more time, you went upstairs to ask the cell phone saleslady in the mall to figure it out cause you thought she was more qualified than me. lol. When she couldn't figure out how to, I did what I promised and found out the menu feature in your phone that would do what you wanted. I delivered on my promise. Remember?
A few days later (and I told you about this too) a guy in Clarkton Hotel came up to me to ask me how to change his cell phone menu from Chinese to English. Even though I couldn't read Chinese, after using the process of deduction, I found the menu function that changed the language to English.
I'm obviously a very resourceful person in figuring out stuff like that. In fact, I've helped a TON of people solve their electronic problems that they couldn't figure out. You can ask my dad, he will confirm it. But you never give me credit where credit is due. All you do is play devil's advocate and invoke fear and caution in me, which is very Chinese-like. You don't like to compliment me on anything for some reason, even if I deserve it. I don't think that's fair.
You should learn to be more balanced in evaluating people. If I'm good at something, there's nothing wrong with saying that I'm good at it, right? Why the mental block?
When I showed you the list of quotes that demonstrate how unique I am, you didn't acknowledge it either. For some reason, you have a mental block against complimenting me on anything. Why?
Also, sometimes you aren't considerate. When I lent you my SIM card to use, for example, you never said thank you, and before you left the Philippines, you never even asked if I wanted it back. A considerate person would have done those things. Even I would have. It's just common courtesy. You are from a middle class family with middle class manners right?
I told you before, a lot of things slip your mind. I see them more easily as a third party person.
Like Ladislav, you get lost in the moment and forget the time when you're talking. When you and the Aussie guy left the mall with me after it was closed, you stood on the corner for 10 or 15 minutes talking instead of crossing the street, like you forgot where you were or where you were going. I had to remind you to continue walking while you talked. lol. But lots of guys I've met are like that - they talk and get deeply involved in the conversation that they forget everything else like the time and their own schedule. Ladislav does that too sometimes.
Also, when you, me and Ladislav were at the Mexican restaurant, you and Ladislav went outside, then you beckoned me with the "wait a minute" hand signal as if you were going to step out for a while and come back. So I waited for you to come back but you never did cause you and Ladislav went to his hotel room without even telling me, UNAWARE that you ditched me back there waiting for you. That was not only inconsiderate, but clueless as well. A lot of erratic expats and artists are like that, in their own world, and unaware of what they are doing or irresponsible.
And you deny that your mind ever lets things slip?! ROTFL!
So how come I never do that? If I am with someone, I make sure they are following me and if they are behind me, I will look back to make sure they are there and not lost. I don't just walk off and forget that my friend was waiting for me. Dang. That's inconsiderate and clumsy and clueless.
Rock, you can't deny that you space out a lot. I just gave you three clear cut examples above. You should learn to be honest and admit your faults too.
1. I remember you figuring out the memory allocation process on my new phone. Good job. You are a very resourceful person at figuring out stuff like that.
2. I have complimented you before for developing a great forum and website, having the balls to expose yourself the way you do, and being a fast and prolific writer.
3. I sometimes play devil’s advocate on the forum because it can aid in the truth seeking process. If someone claims something I strongly disagree with, I often speak-up.
4. When you or anyone else engages in overt bragging, I generally don’t encourage it. If the claims made seem exaggerated or untrue to me, I may say so too.
5. I apologize about the SIM card. Thank you for lending it to me. My gf caught me off guard by deciding to show-up suddenly. I still have it and can mail it to you via registered post. Just PM me your address.
6. Perhaps things do slip my mind at times. Its not like a make it a point to brag about my memory or claim otherwise.
7. When I was in Angeles, I had no schedule. It was a pleasure and learning trip so I just went with the flow. If I got into an interesting conversation with someone, I was happy to stop on the spot and engage them. And I got a similar vibe from both you and Lad. There were a few times when you would set a time to meet me the next day and then not come or end up being several hours late. I didn’t complain. I just took it as the way things work with you expats in PI, everything spontaneous and subject to change. When we went to Manila, our plans changed too. First we were to planning to meet Mr. S, then Lad, then hit LA Café. Later that morphed into just meet Lad, give Mr. S and LA Café a pass, and help Lad move his stuff back to Angeles that evening.
8. You and Lad know each other pretty well. You meet a lot, both live in Angeles, and are familiar with the local turf. So I assumed you had set habits, mutual understandings about rules of engagement. As a visitor, I was just going along with that. Lad’s hotel was just 2 doors down from that restaurant. I got a strong sense from him that you would just come over in a couple minutes if we didn’t go right back and indeed you did. Lad moves to his own spontaneous beat and I figured you were cool with that style. Next time, I will keep in mind that you are different from him in that regard and behave accordingly. Apologies.
9. The 3 examples you site – me forgetting to return your SIM card, engaging in a spontaneous convo w/Aussie guy and stopping in my tracks, and leaving you behind in restaurant – hardly seem like cases of spacing out to me. I’ve provided a bit of context from my POV to help you understand why. And I've complimented you and apologized for any inconsideration to on my part. It was not intentional.
