I can only agree with your comment.yick wrote: ↑September 14th, 2021, 6:04 pmThat's very true, before I came here - I believed the urban myth that Chinese women would prefer westerners over their own men and then you get here and it's bullshit - why should they if one thinks about it logically? Their fathers, brothers, uncles, male classmates etc are all Chinese guys and they're Chinese themselves - as they look in the mirror at themselves everyday, they will find what they see as attractive on others - none of them give a shit about a man having blue eyes or blond hair ...
If you are a Western foreign man living in Asia, sometimes the Chinese woman will stay with you, but if you relocate back to the States or Europe, such relationship will end often in divorce. I know personally such now divorced couples.
I was living among Chinese within a Chinese family and had a Chinese girlfriend in Malaysia (English educated, Malaysia at that time was still very much British orientated), I could read a lot of Chinese and speak also Malay (now not any more so much, it was more than 40 years ago, and I forgot a lot as no language exercise anymore and my main language is now Japanese) but still, after some years, I had enough of them all and it was I who left.
I still have a friendly relationship since decades with another Chinese family in Malaysia, who are working for Japanese companies, but everyone of them is 100 % Chinese - no way for a foreigner, even not for a Japanese, to be considered for international marriage, not with them and not with other families living nearby as far as I know them. Just not interested at all. Chinese, or overseas Chinese only.