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Some people think I have narcissistic personality traits. What do you all think? Is this true? Please don't just say "yes" because you enjoy putting negative labels on people and get off on it. I don't see how this can be though because:

1. I do not talk about myself for hours like some men do, who talk your ear off without stopping or letting you get a word in. Jester does this on the phone for example (though he can't do this online of course). I usually ask people many questions to get to know them, as you all can see, so I am not always focused on myself only. I do this in person too.

2. I am not long winded. When I talk about something, I get to the bottom line point quickly. I don't beat around the bush. I prefer to get to the bottom line point and be concise. I don't rant about nothing for hours.

3. I am willing to apologize when wrong and have done so. For example I apologized to Davewe for saying rude things about his appearance and wife. And if I am late I will say "Sorry I'm late". Unlike many guys, I have no problem with apologizing. I don't have a pride issue against that, unlike most men I know.

4. I usually act humble, modest, and down to earth most of the time. Sure I may sometimes brag and boast. But it's mild and tame compared to most guys, who sometimes will resort to lying about their accomplishments and inflate numbers by adding extra zeros to their income and expenses, to make it appear that every number in their life is huge. I've even seen down to earth guys like my friend Rock, do this too. It seems to be a guy thing. For some reason, white American men love to add extra zeros to everything in their life, whether it's their income, their expenses, their sexual conquests, etc. So 100 will become 1000 or 10,000 easily just like that. However, I never do this. If I exaggerate it's only mild. And I never boast about something I can't back up. And I never lie either.

5. Also, most Americans are self-centered anyway since American culture is very narcissistic and individualistic, with the motto "do what's best for yourself". Most Americans follow this motto of course and is considered the aim of life for many. Plus the consumerist and isolating culture urges you to indulge in your own materialistic pleasures at the exclusion of others.

So I don't see how I am narcissistic or why some people get that impression. Sure I may claim to be "the most freethinking Asian", but this is an easy claim because in reality 99.99 percent of Asians are super conformist and have no independent mind at all and are mere copycats and clones of other Asians. That's obvious and they are proud to be homogenous and uniform. Asians do not deny this and are proud of their uniformity and conformity, which are not considered negative attributes in Asian culture. We all know this. Hence my claim of being "unique and freethinking for an Asian" is logically justified. So I don't see this as a narcissistic claim. Plus I only mention this to new people to impress them. I don't mention it to my friends who already know me.

What do you all think? I'll add a poll here about it, but please vote with sincerity, not because you get off on selecting the most negative choice. I don't get why a lot of you do that for fun. It's weird.

Also of course, narcissism is a broad term. There are many types of narcissism and varying degrees from mild to severe. So even if I have some narcissistic traits, they may just be mild.

Some videos about narcissism and how to change if you are.







https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yslqpRTI4iU

Narcissism:

There are two types of narcissism: With grandiose narcissism we see characteristics like being extroverted, socially bold, self-confident, having a superficial charm, being resistant to criticism, and being callous and unemotional. Vulnerable narcissism is characterized by shame, anger, aggression, hypersensitivity, a tendency to be introverted, defensive, avoidant, anxious, depressed, socially awkward, and shy.

Narcissistic personality disorder:

This is a disorder listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM). The definition for this disorder contains nine symptom criteria, five of which are required for diagnosis.

1. A grandiose sense of self-importance
2. preoccupation with exaggerated fantasies of success, power, and beauty
3. believing oneself to be special or unique
4. requiring excessive admiration
5. having a sense of entitlement
6. manipulating others interpersonally
7. lacking empathy
8. being envious of others
9. being arrogant, pretentious, or supercilious

MarcosZeitola wrote: ↑

June 26th, 2021, 11:55 pm

Yes, @Winston I think you are probably a bit of a narcissist. Which isn't the worst thing in the world, mind you. I'm a bit of a raging narcissist myself. I feel you have a pretty big ego but not too extreme. You love calling yourself the most free-thinking Asian ever and all sorts of bombastic stuff, you are quite overly confident when it comes to your intellect and you absolutely hate it when people point out your age, which is nearing fifty, or your looks, which are a little below average.

At the same time you are not exceptionally nacissistic, either.

I agree. I think at least 70% of all people living have some level of narcissism.

I know I have a lot of narcissism. But at the same time I am really mellow and easy going too. I think I am like dragon.

MarcosZeitola wrote: ↑

June 26th, 2021, 11:55 pm

Yes, @Winston I think you are probably a bit of a narcissist. Which isn't the worst thing in the world, mind you. I'm a bit of a raging narcissist myself. I feel you have a pretty big ego but not too extreme. You love calling yourself the most free-thinking Asian ever and all sorts of bombastic stuff, you are quite overly confident when it comes to your intellect and you absolutely hate it when people point out your age, which is nearing fifty, or your looks, which are a little below average.

At the same time you are not exceptionally nacissistic, either. You don't, for instance, desire to leave behind an enormous genetic legacy. You have only one child, which is a humble little legacy. I myself endeavour to create as much offspring as humanly possible, which is... well, quite narcissistic of me. If you were a true, full-on narcissist I suppose Angelo Wu wouldn't be your only son, you would have made more.

You are kind of humble-ish at times, you are fair, to a degree. But that's partially just because of what little bit of social savvy you possess; you know it does not reflect good on you if you act too cocky, so you throw some 'reality' and some 'humility' in the mix every now and then to still come across as what you think is a top bloke. You're kind of super full of yourself, however. But that could just be your sort of self-help guru persona which you have adopted for business reasons. You promote yourself well. But you're kind of a snake oil salesman who had one semi-original thought ("greener pastures!") early in life and sort of... rode that until it died, and well beyond.

In a world where millions of men travel abroad for those same greener pastures you always mention, you aren't as much of a true original as you like to think you are. Your narcissism mostly relates to your perceived mental prowess, your IQ, your self-described genius and, above all, your "uniqueness". What you cannot handle is the thought that maybe, just maybe... you aren't as unique as you think you are.

To live in a world where you aren't unique, special, truly one of a kind... sort of scares you. You like to think there is something about you, something about your spirit, your very DNA, that sets you apart from other men. You are especially fond of describing yourself as "not like other Asian men", which may be true, in a way. But there are millions of guys that ARE like you; the socially awkward Westerners working as English teacher abroad. And the socially awkward Westerners who DREAM of living as English teacher abroad but never quite... get out of that basement.

You did get out of your proverbial basement, you DID travel, and you got some girls here and there, some for free, most of them paid for. You lived a pretty interesting life. But I am willing to bet good money that a lot of families have some eccentric uncle, some black sheep cousin, who lived a similar wild and exciting life, who similarly refused to accept his responsibilities, who similarly lived a life of leisure and contemplation he perceives as deep. Who may be admired by a few young cousins, resented by the child or children he abandoned and overall just... another guy who thinks highly of himself, another guy who's sort of well-read, who's seen the world, and who thinks it makes him special.

You're a bit of a hippie, Winston. Like those New Age, spiritual sort of guys. Mixed in with a conspiracy nut. Mixed in with a socially awkward Western incel who managed to get out of his shell and sort of, like the 'little engine that could', kept plodding along through life, endlessly cheerful, working tirelessly towards some sort of end, maybe love, maybe fulfillment. And in the end, Murphy's Law got to him.

So yes, I think you are a bit of a narcissist. But not anymore than many of us. You are just one of the many, many guys on the internet who are full of themselves. I should know, I'm one of them. But so are you. Humble, my ass. You have about as much humility as a teenage Tiktok influencer, it's just that the influencer has somehow gotten stuck in the stocky, dumpy frame of a middle-aged Taiwanese American... who, when having his uniqueness and speciality questioned, will make another thread asking people to confirm just how unique he is because his ego, like that of most narcissists, is actually quite fragile. More fragile than he lets on, in spite of all the tough guy John Wayne comparisons he loves to spout.

Excellent post as usual and saved me a lot of typing

Of course Winston is a narcissist - he thinks he is the most 'freethinking Asian ever' even though Yoko Ono is still alive and there are many Asians that have emigrated and gone against the confucian path and married black women, Indigenous women in the Americas - Bruce Lee was a freethinker... many have gone and more will come.

Winston is something of an outlier - there is a Korean-American gentleman on here named Gujhi who made an honest and illuminating post about how he followed his betters and did what he was expected to do and is still unhappy and unfulfilled but he has money, a career and everything else people want. I suppose the one thing Winston can say is that he lived his life on his own terms - which is the dream of many, not just Asian people but the majority have failed to do.

Only a narcissist would give themselves such grand titles - the problems start when you try to deny your narcissism - Winston should embrace it like Donald Trump does...

MarcosZeitola,
Thanks for the balanced reply and evaluation. I wanna clear up a few things though in case you misunderstand me.

1. First, I only brag about my uniqueness in self defense when someone is trying to put me down or shame me or belittle me. I don't usually do that in normal conversation. When I meet people for the first time, I just say that I run a travel website and keep it vague. When out with a girl, I don't brag to impress her. I just act romantic and sweet, and when asked what I do I say I'm a webmaster or that I run a travel website. So talking about my uniqueness is something I only do in self-defense when someone is putting me down. It's not part of my everyday habit.

2. Second, I NEVER EVER said that I am unique because I travel abroad or live abroad. That's a straw man and fallacy. Of course traveling abroad and being a hippie is not unique. I explained this to Rock MANY MANY times, but he acts deaf for some reason and pretends not to hear it and just repeats his false straw man again, because men are stubborn and don't want to change their fallacies. It's annoying. I hate guys who never listen or take into account what you say. You can't have a healthy dialogue with men who refuse to listen to reason. It's insulting too and a waste of time.

To clarify for the umpteenth time: What I said is that I'm unique because of the comparisons I make between America and other countries, and my offering HA as a SOLUTION to one's personal or social or romantic problems in America. That's where I'm unique. For example, no one in alt media, self-help industry, New Age movement, Truther movement, etc. says you can solve your problem or escape America's problems, by leaving America and living abroad. NO ONE says that. It's 100 PERCENT TABOO. Even alternative media NEVER says that. EVER! It's outside the box even in alt media. Every self help book you find in the bookstore will talk about changing YOURSELF only, never about changing your location. You won't find even one self-help book in the bookstore that tells you to change location or cultures to fix your problems. Even on Ted Talks on YouTube, they NEVER talk about going abroad to escape social isolation. Even the Ted Talks that mention social isolation in America, NEVER suggest going abroad. All they do is say that everyone needs to talk to their neighbors more, which is useless. EVERYONE says to stay in America and try to change it or "take back America" etc. No one suggests going to a better country. That's simply unheard of. It doesn't exist and isn't even on the table when it comes to any movement. Even the news channel Russia Today NEVER says that in Russia, the women are much more open, approachable, and flirtatious than women in America. Even though that's obvious and easily seen if you go to Russia, NO ONE, not even Russia Today, ever dares to say that. It's a silent taboo that no one touches. Everyone has a blind spot to that in the media and alt media.

Do you understand what I mean? So you see, this isn't about traveling for fun. It's about moving abroad as a SOLUTION to your personal or social problems in America. That's where I'm unique. For example no one makes these comparisons on my Comparison Chart: http://www.happierabroad.com/comparison.htm or the 6 point comparison of why you will be Happier Abroad on the home page. Or this 100 comparisons webpage: http://www.happierabroad.com/ComparisonTreatise.htm . You won't find any other webpage with that many reasons to leave America for a better, freer, friendlier life overseas.

Case in point. Many self help books, like the ones by Dr. Wayne Dyer, for instance, have as a subtitle "Change your thoughts, Change your life". But they NEVER say "Change your location, Change your life." I'm the ONLY ONE. You see what I mean? That's how I'm unique. NO ONE says that. Everyone wants you to stay in America and change yourself and your thoughts. It's assumed that's the ONLY thing you can do. No one wants to touch HA as a solution even if it makes more sense and is more effective and works, still no one dares to touch it. Everyone has a blind side to HA for some reason.

Do you see my point? I hope I don't have to explain this again. I hate it when guys repeat the same straw mans again after I've explained it away.

Another unique quality I have is that I have many original ideas and theories about God, Life and the Universe too, which I share with Alex and Mr S and closer friends who are into that. I've shared some of them here too, but most posters don't reply to them.

The famous UFO abductee Whitley Strieber also hosted my unique treatise on debunking pseudoskeptics on his Unknown Country website. He acknowledged that it was the first of its kind back in 2000. At that time, no one dared take on the pseudoskeptics like CSICOP, JREF and Shermer. I was the only one intellectual enough to do so. Everyone else ran from them. So even a famous person like Strieber acknowledged my unique accomplishment. He was on Art Bell many times and even had a movie made about him called "Communion" starring Christopher Walken.

So I have little unique stuff like that too. I'm also probably the only Asian that has exposed the Moon Landing Hoax and published articles about it in magazines too. No Asian dares to touch that. You won't even find Asians in the 9/11 Truth movement. So even with little things like that, I'm unique. I listed 10 unique stuff about me here, even though I have a few more to add to it that I haven't yet: https://www.happierabroad.com/Winston-W ... hments.htm

Again I'm not trying to brag. I never make up stuff that isn't true. I don't claim to be a great baseball player or gymnast for instance. So you see, yes I do have some unique stuff that's beyond merely my fingerprints or DNA being unique.

So do you understand now Marcos, that I NEVER said that traveling or exploring abroad or dating abroad, makes me unique? I NEVER said that. So please don't insinuate that anymore. Thanks.

3. Btw, why do you say I'm below average in looks? Come on. I'm at least average or a little above right? You are saying I'm ugly? Why? Isn't my face clean cut and cute? Maybe by European standards, but by Asian standards, I look ok. So why do you say that? At least in person I act confident, much more so than a typical Asian does, and I'm very assertive too. Many women say I'm charming too, in countries where I'm allowed to flirt openly and be myself without becoming a creep, like in Russia or Philippines.

yick wrote: ↑

June 27th, 2021, 12:14 am

Excellent post as usual and saved me a lot of typing

Of course Winston is a narcissist - he thinks he is the most 'freethinking Asian ever' even though Yoko Ono is still alive and there are many Asians that have emigrated and gone against the confucian path and married black women, Indigenous women in the Americas - Bruce Lee was a freethinker... many have gone and more will come.

Winston is something of an outlier - there is a Korean-American gentleman on here named Gujhi who made an honest and illuminating post about how he followed his betters and did what he was expected to do and is still unhappy and unfulfilled but he has money, a career and everything else people want. I suppose the one thing Winston can say is that he lived his life on his own terms - which is the dream of many, not just Asian people but the majority have failed to do.

Only a narcissist would give themselves such grand titles - the problems start when you try to deny your narcissism - Winston should embrace it like Donald Trump does...

How is Yoko Ono a freethinker? Just because she's a hippie and married John Lennon? Anyone can be anti-establishment and counter culture. Many millions of people were hippies in the 1960s and even today there are many. I wouldn't call that unique. It's a fad and movement, and those that join counter culture groups conform to those groups too. Alt movements can involve groupthink too. What has Yoko Ono done that is original and one of a kind? I don't get it. Yes I do have a hippie mindset and attitude. But I never said I'm unique because I'm a hippie or counter culture or oppose the establishment. See my long explanation about that above to Marcos Zeitola.

Yes there are some Asians on this forum like Zboy1, Ethan_sg, Falcon, and others that are very freethinking too. However, the Asians I see in real life are nothing like that. I'm sure you see what I mean in China, where everyone is super conformist too.

Yes Bruce Lee was a freethinker with original accomplishments and one of a kind. However, his philosophical quotes like "empty your cup and be like water" are taken directly from Taoism and Zen. They are not his original quotes. His Kung Fu style "Jeet Kune Do" was just an early version of MMA where you blend multiple styles into one and adapt to the flow and circumstance. Again, that's basic Zen and Taoism. I wouldn't call that unique. His face is not unique either, that's why many actors and look alikes have been able to play Bruce Lee in movies. His acting and kung fu and films were great though and his character in movies was unique. I'll admit that.

However, Bruce Lee didn't have original ideas about God, Theology, the Universe or the Matrix. He did well with AW so he didn't need to go abroad except to make movies in HK where there was no racism against him. So yeah he was a great actor and entertainer and martial artists. But he didn't have original ideas or theories. He was just ahead of his time and bold because he badly wanted to be a star. I wouldn't call that spiritual, because he injured himself and took drugs and steroids in order to be a star. That's shallow and materialistic. No one that's truly spiritual overworks and damages themselves just to be a movie star and become famous. I wouldn't call that spiritual or wise. He was mostly just a showman. A new autopsy panel concluded that Bruce Lee took steroids and that's the real reason he died young. No one wise and spiritual would do that. Or become obsessed with being a star either. So his uniqueness was very different than mine. You can't compare him and me.

Finally, I never said that I am a leader or role model for anyone. That was never my aim or claim. All I claim is that I am DEEP, HONEST, and TRUTHFUL about my experiences and observations overseas and with life in general. And that I make many observations and statements that are outside the box for sure. That's all I claim. I never claim to be anyone's leader or role model. So please don't insinuate that I do.

Who was insinuating that you have leadership or role model qualities? I didn't insinuate that at all. I just compared you to a narcissist who embraces narcissism - the first one that came to my head.

If you don't like the answers that people give to questions you ask then don't ask the questions in the first place!

yick wrote: ↑

June 27th, 2021, 5:00 am

Who was insinuating that you have leadership or role model qualities? I didn't insinuate that at all. I just compared you to a narcissist who embraces narcissism - the first one that came to my head.

If you don't like the answers that people give to questions you ask then don't ask the questions in the first place!

That's not the point. It doesn't matter if I like a reply or not. Who says I have to like every reply I receive? I just wanted to clear up some misunderstandings, and it seemed that MarcosZeitola had a few misunderstandings about me. Nothing wrong with that. Good communication skills involves clearing up misunderstandings with articulate communication. A lot of people also use straw mans against me. I was hoping to clear those up so straw mans are not used against me in the future.

Are you saying I'm narcissistic? If so in what way? Mild or severe or moderate? What kind? If I am, why am I interested in others and why do I ask questions to get to know people? That's not what narcissists do right? Also I only boast in self defense when someone is trying to put me down. It's not part of my everyday style of communication. Remember? Also I do not act like a know it all like many expats do. I hate that attitude. So how am I a narcissist? I don't get it. Boasting of one's uniqueness isn't the defining trait of a narcissist right?

Btw in a sense aren't we all narcissists? I mean we all see things from our own lens and from our own vantage point. We cannot see things from other people's vantage point of course. And we all have a self preservation instinct too. So naturally everyone does what's best for themselves. Because they are themselves. So isn't it impossible not to be a narcissist? After all, no one can put someone else's needs on equal par with their own, because you are you and not others. So it's impossible to focus on others and be selfless and never focus on yourself right? So in a sense it's impossible not to be a narcissist right? Do you know what I mean? Am I missing something here?

From El_Caudillo in response to my question:

I would say he is very self centered and super defensive. Also he cherry picks information to back up his preconceived ideas. He is looking for a choir to echo his proclamations... Once you stop echoing he gets very frustrated and aggressive with you. That said in person i found him nice, friendly and generous.
Id say your online persona seems like a narcissist. In person may be a different matter.

Doesnt everyone cherry pick? Who doesnt? Lol

However I do try consider all opposing views on all sides. Most people don't do that.

Winston wrote: ↑

June 27th, 2021, 5:14 am

yick wrote: ↑

June 27th, 2021, 5:00 am

Who was insinuating that you have leadership or role model qualities? I didn't insinuate that at all. I just compared you to a narcissist who embraces narcissism - the first one that came to my head.

If you don't like the answers that people give to questions you ask then don't ask the questions in the first place!

That's not the point. It doesn't matter if I like a reply or not. Who says I have to like every reply I receive? I just wanted to clear up some misunderstandings, and it seemed that MarcosZeitola had a few misunderstandings about me. Nothing wrong with that. Good communication skills involves clearing up misunderstandings with articulate communication. A lot of people also use straw mans against me. I was hoping to clear those up so straw mans are not used against me in the future.

Are you saying I'm narcissistic? If so in what way? Mild or severe or moderate? What kind? If I am, why am I interested in others and why do I ask questions to get to know people? That's not what narcissists do right? Also I only boast in self defense when someone is trying to put me down. It's not part of my everyday style of communication. Remember? Also I do not act like a know it all like many expats do. I hate that attitude. So how am I a narcissist? I don't get it. Boasting of one's uniqueness isn't the defining trait of a narcissist right?

I don't know if you are a full on narcissist but you have narcissist qualities, like Tsar and Marcos said, they do, I do too more than likely. You are asking strangers on the internet their opinion on your personal qualities and we might have got you wrong because we don't know you - the people who know you better - Ethan, Rock, Alex and the people you hang out with will know you better and can give you an accurate assessment.

You asked a question, you got an answer - I am not THAT interested in this particular subject, I am sure you are a mix of good and bad personality traits like most people. I am sure you have some great qualities but you come across as a narcissist which is the question you asked.

Boasting of one's uniqueness isn't the defining trait of a narcissist right?

Well, it is if you don't possess said qualities or others possess those qualities - if you're stating you're unique because you're Winston Wu and there isn't another Winston Wu in the world then that's fair enough. Getting annoyed at people for not recognising your 'unique' qualities (or the unique qualities you think you possess) is a sign of narcissism and an inflated ego.

Winston wrote: ↑

June 27th, 2021, 5:23 am

Btw in a sense aren't we all narcissists? I mean we all see things from our own lens and from our own vantage point. We cannot see things from other people's vantage point of course. And we all have a self preservation instinct too. So naturally everyone does what's best for themselves. Because they are themselves. So isn't it impossible not to be a narcissist? After all, no one can put someone else's needs on equal par with their own, because you are you and not others. So it's impossible to focus on others and be selfless and never focus on yourself right? So in a sense it's impossible not to be a narcissist right? Do you know what I mean? Am I missing something here?

Yes, that's fair enough.

Btw you guys have to admit that compared to PAG, I'm not a narcissist in comparison right? Because PAG is an extreme case of narcissism for sure. lol

So basically Marcos, yes I do have some narcissism tendencies but it's normal and common. I'm not an extreme or severe case right?

Btw, keep in mind that the reason I may boast of being unique is that it's the only trump card I have. I can't claim to be a gold medal winner, or an oscar winner, or a pulitzer prize winner, or a decorated vet, for example. So I gotta work with the trump card that I do have, which is uniqueness. Obviously I'm not gonna lie and say "I'm just a common ordinary everyday guy who goes to work and tries to make a living." Because I'm not like that. If I was, I'd have a stable marriage and family and friends and cliques in high school, and a stable job, like everyone else does. And I'd be able to find a wife easily because it'd come naturally like it does for most people, and I'd be able to get sex easily too like most people claim to be able to. It wouldn't be an issue. I'd never complain of being a misfit or ostracized by social cliques all the time. Normal guys don't do that.

Also, normal guys don't say the stuff I do too, since I say stuff no one dares to ever say, suff that normies would not say in a million years. For example, NOT ONE Taiwanese American person would ever bash and expose Taiwanese as a super dark repressed culture where you cannot be yourself or express yourself. Even though that's true, NO ONE dares to say that, because Taiwanese are trained to be normal and square and to always live in fear and guilt 24/7. Every Taiwanese person who grew up in a Taiwanese family, even in the US, knows this, but would NOT dare say it. Because they are not conditioned to, they are only conditioned to be normal and hard working and to conform and never say anything taboo. So me being the only Taiwanese American to expose the truth about the extreme repression, fear and guilt in the Taiwanese psyche and aura, is VERY unique indeed. You won't find anyone that dares to expose it. Taiwanese are only allowed to criticize mainland China. That's it, and that's all they do. Every Taiwanese person does that and follows suit. Except for me.

Also, Americans would never say that people in other countries are more open and friendly and sociable and talk to strangers more. Or that foreign women are more approachable, friendly, flirtatious and open to cold approach. Or that you will have a better dating, social life and mental health outside of America. Even hippies and alternative people in America would NEVER say that. Even travel bloggers and backpackers in America would NEVER say that. Only a small handful of people, including me and Rooshv, would dare to say that. So that makes me UNIQUE too. Since I say stuff even alternative people and hippies would NEVER say.

So you see, my claims of uniqueness does have real basis. Hence it's not bragging or exaggerating. And the reason I mention it is because it is the one trump card I do have, as explained above.

Btw, I guess in a sense most people are not narcissist in the same sense I am, because on TV, almost every guy who is interviewed usually says "I'm just an ordinary guy who works and makes a living, an average Joe." So most guys do claim to be "typical and ordinary". In that sense, I may be wrong when I say that everyone is a narcissist. Because the average guy claims to be ordinary and typical, not unique. You can see this in nearly every video and documentary where men are being interviewed. I guess in that sense, I'm unique too. lol

You're rough on Winnie there, Marcos!

Mind you, he did ask!

Good point there about societies being started up by disillusioned expats - there is a place called Americana in Brazil where it was settled by Confederate citizens after the Civil War and they still celebrate Dixie - in fact, that was all the rage in the 19th Century, Welsh speakers went to Argentina to start a colony there where they could speak their language and keep their traditions - plenty of those places in Latin America... they wanted a better life abroad and went out to find their piece and a lot of them are still going today.

But Marcos, your opinion on my looks is your opinion only. It doesn't fit the facts or data. If I look like a jeepney driver, then how come I always get extra respect from Filipinos and treated like I am high class? People somehow know when you have money there, they can sense it somehow. If you ever have the guts to meet me, you will see what I mean. Everywhere in Philippines I get treated like I am higher class and refined. I strongly disagree with your claim that I look like a lowly jeepney driver. NO ONE treats me like one. Everyone looks at me like I have money, even when I wear plain T-shirt and jeans or slacks. Everyone thinks I have extra money, even if they think I'm Filipino, they still know I'm middle or higher class. How do they know that? And when I'm with Dianne, I get even better treatment by hotel staff and waiters, etc. That's why my confidence in the Philippines is higher than anywhere else, and almost as good as in Russia. If I looked like a poor jeepney driver, why does everyone assume I have extra money to give them? Even in America, people treat me like I am middle class and educated and intelligent and have money to burn. No one treats me like I'm a bum. Why do sales people target me first out of a crowd?

Also if you meet me you will see that in 3D I look much better than you imagine in photos. Also you cherry pick the worst photos of me. Never the good ones. It's like you wanna see the worst in everyone. Lots of guys here are like that, they wanna see the worst in others. I don't know why.

Unlike other Asians that you deem more handsome, I have a personality and confidence and charisma that Asians don't usually have because they are taught to be meek, compliant and non-confrontational. I act like I can kick ass and many Asians have been intimidated and ran away from me. Because they see an inner strength that they lack. No joke.

Also how come women have said that I look handsome before? How do you explain that? Btw, I can tell when a woman is just being polite vs when she really means it. As an indigo child, starseed, and old soul, I can tell when someone is fake or being honest.

Moretorque and Spencer think I'm good looking at least. lol

You may have seen many Asian men look better than me. However, I'm sure you admit that the average typical Asian guy is ugly, nerdy and dorky, not handsome at all. Only a VERY SMALL percentage of Asian men are handsome. Ask any white woman, she will tell you the same.

Btw, why don't you focus on my good photos like these:













Also Marcos, I seen your photos. You look like a jungle man or outdoors lumberjack type. You certainly don't look refined like me. I definitely look better in a suit than you and would fit better in a palace than you would. lol And not to brag, but my aura is refined too. If you meet me and are attuned to vibes, you will see what I mean.