So I've been going out in Thailand..

[tamdrin12]

With this other American guy to the bar frequented by foreigners in town here (really the main bar where foreigners go to dance etc). I am 5'7" and this guy is shorter than me by a little. But he seems to be expert at picking up the backpacker chicks for one night stands. I guess this guy really does have game because he doesn't really have looks or money at all. He is living on a shoestring budget. I watched him in action last night. He can dance and is confident to go up and dance with any girl (these are all white girls not Thai girls usually). He says that he has gotten over 100 one night stands in the year he has been here. Pretty much all at the same bar.

What this goes to show? Putting off a vibe that the women feel comfortable with. Which for white chicks is always a very confident vibe (while still being yourself) is more important than the other factors.

I kind of feel like someone who can just get one night stands kind of has it made. They don't have enter into unfulfilling relationships or use hoes. It is a primal kind of cave man feeling that women are vibing on in this kind of situation. You have to be like a peacock flaunting its beautiful feathers. Again.. this is not really my thing or my type of behavior. They are just some observations I made last night.

[newlifeinphilippines]

you didnt mention if he was handsome or not? Is he charistmatic personality?

let me guess he doesn't go for thai women cause they aren't up for sex only money?

[tamdrin12]

I don't think he is very handsome but he is charismatic and outgoing and that actually gets you very far in this type of environment. and engaging in conversation. Yes he hates Thai women because they aren't up for one night stands, generally are dead fishes in bed, and sees them as a waste of time.

[newlifeinphilippines]

Yes he hates Thai women because they aren't up for one night stands, generally are dead fishes in bed, and sees them as a waste of time.

LOL i remember my bargirl used to say the foreigner before me complained she was a dead fish. She was certainly not like that when i met her (She was better than a porn star) but i think she learned in the bar or something. cause mr bluelight confirms what he said. Man asian women really suck. If i ahve to go to all this trouble and marry and put everything on the line financially and emotionally for a lousy lay then i should just stay home and be single forever.

[tamdrin12]

Exactly.

I'm going to be brutally honest about myself here. I have lost any sort of game I used to have with white girls having dealt with Asians solely for many years now. This was not the case when I was in high school and college... But yeah.. with Asian girls unless they are a hoe or the exception I wouldn't expect too much in terms of wild sex.. It could be very boring and a very big let down very fast..... I think if you are thinking about it so much and going to invest all this time, effort, and money into it it is going to be a big let down..

Asian girls are sort of easy going and non judgemental.. But because they don't speak English very well things can get pretty boring pretty quick... I guess some men have it so bad they are just happy that some girls will still talk to them! Its pretty obvious your girl was so good at it because she was a bar girl with a lot of practice.

[newlifeinphilippines]

Exactly.

I'm going to be brutally honest about myself here. I have lost any sort of game I used to have with white girls having dealt with Asians solely for many years now. This was not the case when I was in high school and college... But yeah.. with Asian girls unless they are a hoe or the exception I wouldn't expect too much in terms of wild sex.. It could be very boring and a very big let down very fast..... I think if you are thinking about it so much and going to invest all this time, effort, and money into it it is going to be a big let down..

Asian girls are sort of easy going and non judgemental.. But because they don't speak English very well things can get pretty boring pretty quick... I guess some men have it so bad they are just happy that some girls will still talk to them! Its pretty obvious your girl was so good at it because she was a bar girl with a lot of practice.

she didn't have that much practice she was in the bar for only like a month before me. Before that she had an american boyfriend who was 58 and didn't sex her that much she worked in the bar at the time also then but only for like a month or 2 as a waitress (they didn't barfine at that time) and she quickly met that foreigner guy. Im not sure where she learned she watched a lot of porn and i think she probably watched other bargirls. She is a people pleaser type so she probably caught on quick from just watching porn and then also seeing what the other bargirls do. She was a hell of an actress. I was a bit dissapointed with my current filipina gf who got into it when we first met but i knew immediately within hours that i was gonna be dissapointed and the sex was not gonna be like what i experienced before. I dont know what to do cause i dont want kids so i dont need marriage but its immoral for me to sleep with prostitutes and id like to settle down with a woman. Maybe ill just have to get a girl who is like 20 years younger than me who is so pretty i wont even care if she is wild in bed just be glad that a pretty woman like her is sleeping with me everynight. I might have to sacrifice wild sex for extreme youth and good looks but a bit bland in bed. The milf girl i had was pretty but i had to dump her cause she was so boring in personality and she wasn't into sex much she was worse than my gf but prettier. so a pretty girl is nice but she has to be soemwhat alive too LOL

[tamdrin12]

Ok. Newlife... enough about the bargirl you are so in love with. You post about her on every thread.

[Banano]

Certain guys have game.

Some guys have charisma and girls are simply attracted to them but i doubt you can learn that, it wud require you to change your personality and be top actor or con artist.
Typical pua student is too awkward

[tamdrin12]

Yup... Too hard to learn and not worth the effort. I'm not into trying to be somebody im not. f**k that... Life is too short for that shit.

Guys that have natural game don't need to look at the PUA sites.... all that shit is contrived and its not the real deal.

But girls know instinctually when a guy has that charisma and sex appeal... And flock to them like flies to shit.

[S_Parc]

But girls know instinctually when a guy has that charisma and sex appeal... And flock to them like flies to shit.

My theory is that women understand when is guy is not needy.

When Mel and I had started getting close (transitioning from old friends into something else), all of the sudden ... women from all around New England, started paying attention to me. It was a phenomena I'd never experienced in my teens and early 20s.

Today, it's like this ... I bump into a woman, we chit-chat about something stupid, she shows a glimmer of interest, I then proceed to tell her that I'd be meeting up with the GF in a few hours, and I can immediately see the deflated look in her face. And this is now a monthly phenomena.

[Jester]

Ok. Newlife... enough about the bargirl you are so in love with. You post about her on every thread.

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THIS!

[droid]

Ok. Newlife... enough about the bargirl you are so in love with. You post about her on every thread.

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THIS!

Ditto for S_Parc's "mel"
(don't take me seriously s_parc)

[NorthAmericanguy]

With this other American guy to the bar frequented by foreigners in town here (really the main bar where foreigners go to dance etc). I am 5'7" and this guy is shorter than me by a little. But he seems to be expert at picking up the backpacker chicks for one night stands. I guess this guy really does have game because he doesn't really have looks or money at all. He is living on a shoestring budget. I watched him in action last night. He can dance and is confident to go up and dance with any girl (these are all white girls not Thai girls usually). He says that he has gotten over 100 one night stands in the year he has been here. Pretty much all at the same bar.What this goes to show? Putting off a vibe that the women feel comfortable with. Which for white chicks is always a very confident vibe (while still being yourself) is more important than the other factors.

I kind of feel like someone who can just get one night stands kind of has it made. They don't have enter into unfulfilling relationships or use hoes. It is a primal kind of cave man feeling that women are vibing on in this kind of situation. You have to be like a peacock flaunting its beautiful feathers. Again.. this is not really my thing or my type of behavior. They are just some observations I made last night.

Not to take away from the man's sexual success, but this guy that you are referring to in Thailand who is having sex with 100's of white women would not have the same success as he would if he were back home. What this guy is doing is taking advantage of the situation where women are vacationing in a foreign country where nobody knows who they are and so they are free to behave like ho's, and free to be wild. People on vacation behave like different people.


As far as what you said about one night stands, I agree, but using P4P, or using a drunk woman who wants a one night stand is the same to me. Only your ego and less of a fun factor to just pay for it makes you think otherwise. Personally, I rather use a P4P, that way I can be pretty sure I don't have to worry about false rape charges or pregnancy coming back to me.

[newlifeinphilippines]

I agree his white friend is a douchebag. And no better than a guy who hits up the red light districts and possibly even worse.

[tamdrin12]

Not to take away from the man's sexual success, but this guy that you are referring to in Thailand who is having sex with 100's of white women would not have the same success as he would if he were back home. What this guy is doing is taking advantage of the situation where women are vacationing in a foreign country where nobody knows who they are and so they are free to behave like ho's, and free to be wild. People on vacation behave like different people.


As far as what you said about one night stands, I agree, but using P4P, or using a drunk woman who wants a one night stand is the same to me. Only your ego and less of a fun factor to just pay for it makes you think otherwise. Personally, I rather use a P4P, that way I can be pretty sure I don't have to worry about false rape charges or pregnancy coming back to me.

Really? You really believe that it is better to pay for sex maybe $100 a pop with a Thai prostitute who is less likely to be clean than a backpacker chick who is open for a one night stand? Also the Prostitute may be a dead fish in bed whereas the backpacker chick could be wild and passionate and much more fun. Plus backpacker chicks are more likely to be honest about their sexual history. Thai ho's are notorious and pathological liars. It's a fault of the culture they are just brought up never telling the truth.

A joke I heard here: How do you know if a Thai girl is lying? Her mouth is open. I would change it to How do you know if a thai Bargirl is lying? her mouth is open. Not all Thai girls are bad. The one I'm sitting with right now at my work place is a traditional Thai girl and not a slut as all. She has morals and standards. Her sister, however, seems to be quite different from her. I went out dancing with them and although her sister was a little drunk she was VERY friendly dancing and rubbing up on me. I felt weird about it because I am friends with and work with her sister but she just didn't think about it. She is married too but she has had an American boyfriend on the side before. They call it a Gig in Thai. It means secret lover and is a common thing in the culture.