kai1275 wrote:Adama wrote:OTB wrote:Most women dont want a man better looking than them, cause it leads to control issues.
You said it Adama. I was just saying the same thing to my cousin.
That's why the argument about how you have to be really good looking to pull American chicks is false. Most of the time when I see couples out in public and the girl is good looking with a nice body her man is average looking. Sometimes I have to say to myself....that's her man? I just shake my head in bewilderment.
But just like you said it's a control issue. I'm gonna have to break some things down about this in a thread. This is something that's been on my mind.
Back in 2005, when I studied abroad in DR there was a white girl there from Buffalo. One day we were hanging out with some other students from the States and she showed us a picture of her boyfriend who was black. And fellas, I'll never forget this comment she made, she said,
"I like the fact that my boyfriend isn't all that good looking because he doesn't get that much attention." There you go! She wasn't all that good looking herself but it's evidence of the mentality that they want to remain in control and keep their fragile egos intact via their looks.
Yes, they want the ability to be able to twist their men around their fingers with very little effort. It is also a sign of intense insecurity and laziness. Women dont want to exert much effort. They also dont want to deal with the risk of getting dumped for another woman.
I've actually heard something similar. One woman told me she doesnt want a good looking boyfriend cause they are too much work.
A better looking guy in the USA will be in some serious trouble, unless he is a hollywood movie star. He is in a similar boat as men who are shorter really. Being tall or evil might have some utility for the AW, but a good looking guy only threatens them, their egos and their need for control, especially regarding sex.
It is often said that the party who wants it the least is the one who wins. American women simply want to make sure the man wants them more than they want their men.
This is the f***ing truth!
Wow. I basically described your relationship with that woman, didnt I? It is amazing how American women basically all follow the same script.
OTB wrote:A better looking guy in the USA will be in some serious trouble, unless he is a hollywood movie star. He is in a similar boat as men who are shorter really. Being tall or evil might have some utility for the AW, but a good looking guy only threatens them, their egos and their need for control, especially regarding sex.
It is often said that the party who wants it the least is the one who wins. American women simply want to make sure the man wants them more than they want their men.
Again, you hit the nail on the head Adama. I was telling E_Irizarry a couple weeks ago that I feel American women are intimidated by me. I can tell by the way women look at me. I see it all the time. It seems like they tense up and they avoid eye contact. If they do make eye contact it's quick and then they look away, the majority of the time. There are some cases where I see women looking at me and they make repeated glances to check me out. That usually happens with some good looking Latinas or unattractive black women. Overall, it's as though I don't exist. How ironic!
However, when I travel I get women staring at me left and right. I don't get that cold vibe that I get from most American chicks. While in Turkey last year there were a few Turkish girls that made it clearly known that they were checking me out. It was truly refreshing to see that.
Hey, you know what, OTB? The more I think about it, the more I conclude that for American women (and probably all Anglophone women), sex isnt even about the physical aspect or making an intimate connection with another person. There is nothing special or sacred about sex in and of itself to these women.
Now I am starting to think that sex for them is simply about power and control. It is a means to control men. That's why if a man doesnt want it, or she thinks he can do better than she offers, she will hate that man intensely.
That's also why they trained themselves in some way to deny men sex. They love the very fact that they can say no and frustrate men. Or at least the men they consider to be beneath them. They can be cruel to the undesirable men like this, by jerking them around for free stuff, dangling a relationshit and sex in front of them, and then declining, while citing an irrelevant reason for rejecting that man.
That's why when a man cheats on a woman, or has seen pros.t.i.tutes or gets looks from attractive women, the women he knows get upset.
That's also why women are upset when a man they consider to be beneath them also considers them to be beneath him. Men arent supposed to have choice, and women are supposed to be in a position to reject a man regardless. It's like all of those American women upset over the fact that American men go for foreign women x, even though American women considered all of those men to be losers from the start. It is just a threat to their sexual power.
It's also why women love to coucktease men. These women want to test the waters of how attractive they are, probably with a man they consider more attractive than themselves (though they'd never say that aloud), but due to their insecurity, they'd never consummate the relationshit. It is just a means to fluff up their sexual egos. (Most men think that since they wouldnt turn down a hottie, women wouldnt either, but that supposes that women think about sex the same way men do. They don't.)
And lastly, I think this is why the unattractive, overweight, and older women are the most bitter. They wield little-to-no sexual power over men.
A good man is above pettiness. He is better than that.
