MarcosZeitola wrote: ↑
January 12th, 2020, 6:56 am
I think marriage is something that one can debate. Obviously in today's society its fairly risky. Having children, however, is not something I could have done without...
This is a good comment. I think, most Western men would not be against marriage if the legal situation is better for them. Nowadays a marriage contract is nothing but a sell-out of yourself if you are a man. - You are downgrading yourself.
Not only the legal situation is a serious concern, it remains the fact, that at least 50 percent (or more) of marriages are ending anyway in divorce - interesting to read that in Western statistics divorces which are carried out past10 years of marriage are not even counted as divorce, but considered as 'marriage fulfilled', whatever this should mean. Most divorces are initiated by the wife, not by the husband.
Yes, I am married, but with a foreign woman, living in Asia and not in Europe anymore since more than 40 years.
I have my wife, 2 daughters, and 2 grand-daughters and 1 Filipina fosterdaughter, and everything is fine, I have really no complaints about them.
However when I listen to some men from Europe, Northern America and their horror stories about their ex-wives and their children, I can only say, I was lucky.
For me it's easy to comment about marriage / children in Western countries - absolutely no way.
About marriage /children in Asia, I am not sure, if I would do it again. Maybe - or maybe not? And why not?
At my time of our marriage 1977, the legal situation man/wife and parents/children was totally different, not only in Japan, but also in Europe - and MGTOW was unknown...
But today, should I be young again, and had a choice between MGTOW or marriage/children (even here in Asia) with unclear future/unstable economy, feminism etc... Good question... To enjoy MGTOW vs. family life - but MGTOW means to be risk-averse, to be always on the safe side - compared to be married with children and you are in a risky situation... I don't know, but I am somehow risk-averse - why to do something what might be later on turn out to be against you?
About women, as a Western man you will find some women in Asia, who will stay with you, married or not, just girlfriend, sometimes co-habitation... about children, there are plenty of children around who have nobody and you choose some of them and help them without adoption and you will never find yourself in troubles like fathers after divorce.... What's wrong with that?