rehman wrote: ↑February 17th, 2025, 7:30 pm
drealm wrote: ↑June 29th, 2012, 6:41 pm
Where do you guys draw the lines on standards?
It's funny how a universal truth like lookism/genetic determinism is so easily ignored in attempts to cope with ones lack of genetic quality.
This post which is 13 fuckn years old hits the nail on the head. This forum irom what I can tell is full of average/below average looking men who delude themselves and others into believing that women outside their country are somehow immune to judging men as the women in the western world do. All women are the same.
The more egalitarian/feminist a society becomes, the more transparent a woman becomes with her choice in men. Women in the west don't need a man to depend on financially, this means less leverage for men. If not resources, what do women look for? LOOKS. It has always been about looks. Your looks show other people your genetic quality. This is how we judge people, we are all guilty of this.
Travelling to East Asia, Eastern Europe, South America etc will not rid you of your ugly face or your short stature, Being white may help you if you are in some Asian or South American countries but you will have to adjust to a whole new culture. Don't become a walking ATM. No woman will truly love you if you have lost the game of genetics, a game none of us wanted to play. At best, an ugly man's fate will be being a beta bux, a financial provider to his wife who would leave him in a heartbeat. This is the fate of men.
Let me guess. You get your pessimistic outlook on looks and relationships from reading or listening to online material either from Incel or MGTOW perspectives, right?
It's not true, either. The US and some other countries have high divorce rates, but some of us have known good-looking women who stayed with husbands who were old, fat, short, or whatever. Women can also respect men who have accomplished a lot-- the accomplished author, salesman, scholar, athlete, even if he isn't good-looking. There is also masculinity. A muscular man with resolve, who is a leader of men, may not be very good-looking in the face might attract women due his masculinity. If a man put son a uniform, some women like that. I overheard a girl in high school saying a man who was sweaty and dirty in a white t-shirt and a pair of genes could look hot. There might have to be some baseline level of looking attractive.
Us men are attracted to different looks on women, too. I think Jennifer Lawrence is a 7+, better than average, but she has a pair-shaped face. I remember saying she's not that good-looking and guys on here said she was hot. Cindy Crawford, back in the 1980s and 90s was considered the top supermodel. But something about her wasn't attractive to me-- that masculine brow. The same thing with Christie Allie from Cheers. I think some guys thought Drew Berrymore was pretty. My brother-in-law (an Indonesian) saw her in a movie we were watching and he said she was so pretty. I didn't care for the Roman nose. I mentioned her looks to an American friend of mine. He said she's a 6. Yeah, probably, when she was young. I remember riding with an Indonesian driver through a toll. The girl on the other side of the toll was a bit stout and kind of plain from my perspective. The driver said to the other guy in the car how cute the girl was. She looked like a 5 to me.
I can remember this really dark cashier who was really beautiful in Indonesia before I could speak the language. I'd think she was an 8.5 or 9 for looks, but since she was dark, locals probably thought she was a 5. And there are Asian woman I think are beautiful, and another poster on this forum who doesn't like Asian girls would say she's a two. I am not generally attracted to subsaharan African features. I might be attracted to an Ethiopian or Sudanese model, but I remember from the time I was a child hearing two black men on TV talking about how some girl was good-looking, and I just didn't see it. But some guys on here like African women's looks. But I probably find a lot more bi-racial women pretty than I did when I was younger. I think my perception changed over time.
For Hollywood actresses, I think a young Audrey Hepburn was one of the prettiest Hollywood actresses. I think most men, or most white men would agree, but some men would consider her too boney.
A friend of mine was telling me about an article from Psychology Today that said people tend to be attracted to women like their mothers. He was talking about a colleague who he perceived was probably attractive to a kind of pudgy plain (IMO) medium-dark skinned employee of his. He figured the guys mom was fat. You could show him pictures and he might say the model-looking woman is prettier, but then a guy like this might go marry a fat woman like his mamma.
It probably works for women, too.
So cheer up. Go find the daughter of an ugly fat man and an ugly fat women, whose genes mixed just right to make a pretty daughter. Then she can see you, and maybe she will be attracted to you.