MrMan wrote: ↑November 12th, 2023, 9:01 pm
I find a constant supply of lots of sex to be really, really enjoyable. I mean, sure, one encounter after not having it for a while can feel better. But it's incrementally better compared to having it on tap. And having it on tap... I had something close to that as a young man. My wife doesn't have the stamina of her 20's, and she didn't have mine back then. But if we'd been active every night in a week, intercourse four of those times, still night eight was still highly enjoyable.
I don't get the choice of not having sex every night. I get periods, pregnancy, chaffing, sore muscles, UTIs, and other female problems make it not possible. But if you have a choice of buttons-- 'sex every night' and 'sex not every night' are you going to pick the latter?
Christians we fast sex and other stuff from time to time, too. It's not to make it more fun.
Just based on pure hedonism, a 20 something year old is going to be hotter physically, than a woman who lives into her 60's, 70's, or 80's. Women don't get better-looking with age after they get old. That's realism. When you are young, I would say marriage competes for hedonic type pleasure with prostitution and other scenarios.
But there is also the moral aspect of it, and being the kind of man you should be, having the virtues you should have. There is the fact that getting married and having lots of sex with your wife isn't a sin. It's a good thing, makes babies, bonds you close together. Love is a good thing, and this is a particular kind of love.
There is also the virtue side of it, being the kind of man you should be-- a man who cares for his own, his own wife-- staying with her for life, providing her with food, clothing, and sex, loving her. Those are good things. Then there is being a decent human being and caring for your own children, if possible, raising them in your own home, being a role model to them.... not just spreading your seed around and having children like spawn all over the place. If you don't get hit up for child support, you could turn 40 or 50, then young men and women knock on your door and inform you that you are their father and wonder where you were all those years.
Or you could pick up some young hot chick at a bar, instead of staying with a woman until she turns 40 or 50, and the next morning you get to talking to this young chick and you figure out it's your daughter... and then she gets pregnant with your granddaughter who is her own aunt. That would be pretty sick.
The kids raised without fathers in the home have higher chances of all kinds of problems, dropping out of school, drug use, crime, teen pregnancy, etc.