"The Truth Hurts"

[kangarunner]

For truth seekers like us, we tend to be alone or have a very selective group of friends.

The average, normal person associates with many different people who are also average and normal by society's standards.

I just realized why the average person doesn't consider at all the harsh truths of life. Or why the average, normal person would not want to read or try to understand any of the articles written by @Winston here: https://www.happierabroad.com/articles.php

It's real simple....And it's this: The Truth Hurts. It hurts to understand the harsh truths of life.

It makes sense and is normal to not want to face the harsh truths of life. Why face the harsh truths when you can ignore and look away and live in a fairy tale life.

Makes perfect sense why Happier Abroad is not mainstream.

[kangarunner]

Your average NPC literally wants the truth to be illegal. The whole internet is so badly censored now that if you write anything truthful you will be banned instantly.

Clones. Robots. Zombies. Follow the other sheep like idiots......

https://www.happierabroad.com/Awakening.htm

Have you ever realized how enslaving and oppressive the world is, when you look at it from a higher perspective? It seems like a prison matrix full of sheep, zombies, robotic slaves, bums, criminals, and oppressors, rather than happy free conscious aware beings full of love and wisdom. That?s because the inherent nature of our societal system produces three types of people:



1. Robots/slaves/sheep/zombies/conformists ? Most people are in this category. They are conformist sheep, living only to work and raise a family, harboring a materialistic mindset and judgmental attitude. They do not think for themselves, but only know what they are taught, and believe whatever everyone else believes. They live to work in order to make a living, never realizing that such is an oxymoron because if all you do is make a living, and you have nothing else to live for, then you have no life or real purpose to ?make a living? for in the first place. These slaves live in mind numbing routines that tie them down, simply because that's the way they were taught to live. They are enslaved, and conditioned to want it, seeing no other choice. Many become workaholics to the extreme. The mainstream are like this, particularly in American and Asian cultures. They judge others by materialistic standards. As such, they look down upon nonconformists who dare to be different with disdain and contempt.

[kangarunner]

@Winston You keep bringing up the fact that your messages, videos, and articles are not more popular. And that your message of Happier Abroad is not put on the table alongside other self-improvement ideas.

The reason is that the truth is not pushed to the mainstream. Whoever has the best marketing is pushed to the mainstream. America loves the "feel good" message because America is a "cult of positivity thinking". Your Happier Abroad message is based on realistic observations that are critical of America.

And most people in America don't want to accept the down to earth truths of life. They want to believe in what makes them feel comfortable.

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@kangarunner

It's not just that Happier Abroad is not mainstream. It's also that the entire HA philosophy is what, in financial jargon, could be called an "arbitrage window". Some women found in Easter Europe, Latin America and South East Asia, might be just average, or even below average to the local men, yet represent a significant improvement for the Western man who chooses to pursue them.

As in all markets, the "international dating market" being no exception, arbitrage windows never last forever. Most don't last very long. A mere 7-8 years ago we were talking about Medellin, Colombia, having the hottest women who were also "good" and traditional and family-oriented. Fast forward to now, and those very women have entirely embraced the progressive shebang: they will snub the average man and only look for men with youth and looks, and possibly money. Bar few exceptions (which always exist), they will always prefer local men to foreigners.

Last time I was in Medellin (my ex-wife is from there) in 2013, the situation was already so bad that even good looking, professional Colombian young men had to resort to dating cougars, divorced women in their late 40s, sure, still attractive, but with the signs of age and a botox treatment too many already showing.

The last bastion of dating arbitrage remains, IMHO, the Philippines, a country that, still to this day, doesn't understand the concept of "being proud of their roots" and "improving themselves by their own hard work". Too many girls here, the vast majority unattractive yet still young enough for a semi-desperate 50-yo man, still throwing themselves at the first foreigner who promises them to change their lives.

And even here, that window is closing shut fast...the cute girls who are open to dating Mr Average Foreigner, pot-bellied, balding, once or twice divorced, are fewer and farther between. Cebu and Davao worked until circa 2010/15. Now one needs to go deeper into the countryside, scouting for cuties in the more remote and poorer villages. Manila is already off-limits. And so on...

[Tsar]

@kangarunner

It's not just that Happier Abroad is not mainstream. It's also that the entire HA philosophy is what, in financial jargon, could be called an "arbitrage window". Some women found in Easter Europe, Latin America and South East Asia, might be just average, or even below average to the local men, yet represent a significant improvement for the Western man who chooses to pursue them.

As in all markets, the "international dating market" being no exception, arbitrage windows never last forever. Most don't last very long. A mere 7-8 years ago we were talking about Medellin, Colombia, having the hottest women who were also "good" and traditional and family-oriented. Fast forward to now, and those very women have entirely embraced the progressive shebang: they will snub the average man and only look for men with youth and looks, and possibly money. Bar few exceptions (which always exist), they will always prefer local men to foreigners.

Last time I was in Medellin (my ex-wife is from there) in 2013, the situation was already so bad that even good looking, professional Colombian young men had to resort to dating cougars, divorced women in their late 40s, sure, still attractive, but with the signs of age and a botox treatment too many already showing.

The last bastion of dating arbitrage remains, IMHO, the Philippines, a country that, still to this day, doesn't understand the concept of "being proud of their roots" and "improving themselves by their own hard work". Too many girls here, the vast majority unattractive yet still young enough for a semi-desperate 50-yo man, still throwing themselves at the first foreigner who promises them to change their lives.

And even here, that window is closing shut fast...the cute girls who are open to dating Mr Average Foreigner, pot-bellied, balding, once or twice divorced, are fewer and farther between. Cebu and Davao worked until circa 2010/15. Now one needs to go deeper into the countryside, scouting for cuties in the more remote and poorer villages. Manila is already off-limits. And so on...

Do you think that OnlyFans and girls becoming more openly slutty by selling nudes online and making homemade porn videos are some reasons why girls in most countries became less likely to want a relationship?

I think that they probably earn more for themselves and don't need a guy, so they can be free and selfish.

@MarcosZeitola @Outcast9428 @Pixel--Dude @Lucas88

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I think that they probably earn more for themselves and don't need a guy, so they can be free and selfish.

@MarcosZeitola @Outcast9428 @Pixel--Dude @Lucas88

Obviously. 99% of the girls who hook up with a mature and/or socially awkward foreigner, they do it for financial reasons and financial reasons alone.

Remove that from the equation, in fact add social media platforms who allow any girl with something decent to show off to make more money than a professional's salary, and that reason has even less...reason to exist.

[publicduende]

You yourself are one of the very few exceptions to this rule, and it took you ages to "get there"... meanwhile you're not even old or ugly so what more for those pot-bellied sexpats? It's game over for them.

Like you, I had the privilege of being "on the field", meaning I have been meeting girls for more than 2.5 years before I found my C. And I still maintain that, if C hadn't lost her Dad in her teenage years and hadn't developed a bit of a daddy fetish, I would have never been on her radar. More than perseverance, it was a matter of luck.

I'm sure you notice on a near-daily basis that even relatively good-looking foreigners, younger than yourself, will invariably be paired up with Filipinas less attractive than your own wife. Sometimes it makes me shake my head in disbelief. The dating market everywhere has become increasingly volatile, difficult, and at times near-impossible to win. It honestly makes me pity my sons and their future. You either tie down a high quality girl early in life or chase after them, success sometimes within reach but somehow always eluding you.

It's a cold, hard and unforgiving world for any man with standards.

Well, as you know, part of the problem is that foreigners who are unfamiliar with this "market" don't know their "fair value". A good case was my good friend and former business partner N, a very decent looking young Frenchman, working as a developer in the City. Younger than me, never married, financially even more stable than me (he is making near $400K a year now). A guy like him would have not been out of place being seen in Mayfair, holding hand with a Filipina artista.

But no, back in 2015 he never had a girlfriend before, so he believes his value is pretty low. He meets, dates, gets engaged and then marries, literally, the first Pinay he meets on FB. Someone who contacted me first and I didn't like, who then asked me if I had an interested friend, and whom I gave N's FB account. The rest is history, as they say

[Lucas88]

Do you think that OnlyFans and girls becoming more openly slutty by selling nudes online and making homemade porn videos are some reasons why girls in most countries became less likely to want a relationship?

I think that they probably earn more for themselves and don't need a guy, so they can be free and selfish.

@MarcosZeitola @Outcast9428 @Pixel--Dude @Lucas88

In modern industrialized societies, women who have no interest in relationships and want to live as bachelorettes have already had that option for a long time due to their financial independence. Things like OnlyFans are just a more recent development which forms part of that same trend.

I think that OnlyFans and sex work in general only appeal to a certain type of woman - the natural hoe. Most women aren't comfortable doing that sort of thing. Of course, there are also women who create their own OnlyFans content out of economic desperation. This happened considerably during the scamdemic which saw significant losses of employment for many.

Most women on the other hand still want relationships. Women seem to be more into monogamy (sometimes in its serial form) and therefore still value relationships as the ideal. Men are naturally more promiscuous than women. Women who have financial independence can afford to have higher standards but many of them still want a man.