mentor wrote:It is not necessary to visit ph.
I can get tickets to the chosen filipina to visit me.
I love how you refer to your potential future wife as "the chosen Filipina", as if she somehow won the husband lottery for ending up with you. With all due respect, buddy, you sound like a compulsive tightwad, terrified of "overspending" on your wife & in-laws, terrified of responsibility, and hypocritically masquerading as a traditional Christian. You would not be compatible with the vast majority of Filipinas and, as Davewe already mentioned, you won't get anywhere without at least visiting the country.
Sorry to be harsh but I seriously doubt you'll be able to find what you are looking for. Everything I have read from you so far seems to suggest otherwise; that you set yourself up to fail, with your attitude, your requirements, and your methods.
Go for a woman in your own country, if your country is a Western, modern country. Supporting your in-laws and not having a family will be no issue for such a woman. You won't have to buy tickets, either. This is a forum geared towards spirits adventurous enough to travel abroad themselves. Not neccesarily for a permanent stay as it is not for all, but at the very least to try and see what it's like. The forum's name is specifically "Happier Abroad", and not "Happier with a woman from abroad". Something tells me you would not, in fact, be happier with a woman from abroad, and a woman from abroad would not be happier with you.
If I may give you one last tip, before I stop replying, it is this: stop making a big deal out of money. Loosen up your requirements. Acquaint yourself with the foreign countries you are looking to find a wife, and instead of paying the tickets of a woman you never met, buy tickets for YOURSELF and actually visit these countries, and these women. Even if you don't meet a single woman, just hop on a plane, go on a roadtrip. Explore different environments. Live a little. See the sun rise and go down an the other side of the world. Have some adventure. And meet and get to know the people your wife will be one of. Learn how they think, What foods they eat, what their culture is like...
The foundation of a good marriage in the Philippines is family. Family means EVERYTHING. You will meet with her father and mother. You will drink with her uncles, kiss the hands of her grandparents, sing Karaoke with her cousins, and have a laugh with her neighbors. You will set down with her father one night and give him "your assurance", promising you will take care of his daughter the best you can. You marry her, and you marry her family. And from there on out, you are one of them. You will help them where you can, and they will go to hell and back for you if they have to. This is the Filipino way. If this does not sound like your way, you are better of looking in another country, or close to home. Or perhaps marriage simply isn't for you.
If you truly are the traditional Christian man you claim to be, and want the traditional Christian life with the traditional Christian stay-at-home wife, that you claim you want... you have to think long and hard about what I just said. About what you want, and the implications of your choice. Because to me you sound like a guy who wants to "have his cake and eat it too". You want all the advantages of a traditional wife and marriage, but none of the responsibilities. And your primary focus seems to be on yourself and your own needs, as opposed to being a part of something bigger. As much as you say you are Christian, your posts reveal the true you to be very much the product of modern times. And this does not jive with a "simple" Filipina wife.