Funny sidebar coincidence, Larry's voice sort of sounds like a cross of Wu & Ladislav. The tone, the delivery.
Maybe it's something in the water there.
I liked how Larry mentioned that some of these issues that bother us are not just an American thing, but more like venturing into a Western thing. I have found some of the same social falls in parts of Europe as well.
As many know here, we could list several third world spots where you can much more easily go up to strangers and talk to them. I think most would agree that doing so in France, Germany, Spain, etc. can be more difficult. Definitely not as tense as the U.S. but still not as easy as third world spots.
Put me in Paraguay for a week then put me in France for a week. Guarantee I will make way more friends and girlfriends in Paraguay.
A good deal of Western lands are infamous for tighter cliques, and they are taking life at times way too seriously, as well as judging and analyzing too much.
The irony is that people in third world lands tend to have tougher times, tougher conditions, yet seem warmer in ways and more open.
I would add, as an aside, I myself know of a large amount of various Europeans who were also fed up in their native lands and moved on to southeast asia and latin america, so this has to say something of sorts, the same as the fleeing from the U.S.
Some at this forum have done ok in western & northern Europe, but I think they would also agree, third world lands can be much easier with less of the barriers for meeting others, and relationships seem less complicated.
Something I would like Larry (or someone else) to discuss in the next interview, is the actual freedom they experience in the non-Western lands.
I've experienced it, but I'm not the one being interviewed.
To let listeners know that there is much less judgement in third world lands.
Humans judge, it's natural and part of a survival skill, but we see people in Western lands going too far. Maybe it has helped their societies to weed out the "losers". Who only knows.
Certainly though there is high judgement. We've all heard others around us making fun of someone else. I've heard and noticed all sorts of terrible, unnecessary things, from all ages and all classes. Whether it's the U.S., Canada, western/northern Europe, etc.
Someone is made fun of because they sit at their table "oddly". I saw them - they were only resting their chin on the back of their hands. Who cares!
Or someone was made fun of because they had swirls on their collar of their shirt. My word! Who cares! I thought overall they looked fine.
The list could go on and on.
Now, what this can tend to do to individuals who are not badboy, jerks & bold not caring what anyone thinks, it can make your average joe (or even sally) feel that if everything is not perfectly in place, or if they are not sitting or walking just right, they will be judged and of course in ways outcasted.
Whether or not they are actually being judged, they will still feel as if so simply because we've learned over and over that people actually do this!
Transport yourself to a third world land and the change is amazing! Sure, you're being judged, but it's an overall general action of you being simply an outsider. They either pay no mind, or simply don't care if you sit at the table a little differently or have swirls in your collar, etc.
THIS is freedom!
I think aside from the other perks such as more easily meeting people, and females of course, many expats are lured by other things, some they are not aware of, and I would bet, this feeling of more freedom I just described, is one of them.
As a human. As a social being, this is very important!
Even when in relations with women from third world lands, it seems to flow better, more free, because you know you are not being analyzed as heavily, and if they do find something out of place, it's not a big deal. As well, there are way less hoops to jump through.
Let's say you kiss your lady. I've heard too many times from Western girls talking to others, or to myself, of how their man was too sloppy, came in at an odd angle, kissed too long, and on and on. Even if you are a secure guy, knowing all this judgement is out there when no one is perfect, still can make a person feel on edge as if always being judged.
Kiss a lady from a third world area and you really know they are not thinking like this so heavily! Yes they may notice some things, but they just let it go and it doesn't get in the way of the flow. Or they simply do not even notice.
Here again are more feelings of freedom, less to no inhibitions.
Please, one your guys being interviewed, touch on this. It is part of the lure of others going abroad and part of what keeps them there. I don't think all realize it. They're just enjoying themselves and the large weight lifted, but don't know specifically why.
If you agree, then please discuss some of these differences between Western and non-Western lands.
This is not just an American or anglo-land issue.
It is definitely a step up going from the U.S. or Canada to western/northern Europe for example, but once you go to several of these third world lands, it's easy to get hooked to the feeling of higher freedom, easier flow (not referring to infrastructure), simplicity, humble natures, etc. and therefore desire less to return to even Europe and most definitely not to the U.S. Lower cost of living also is a lure as well.
Appreciate the interviews. Keep them up!