globetrotter wrote:
They are very approachable and make eye contact and smile. It is trivially easy to approach and chat them up.
Gots to know the Mandarin, tho.
Are you sure? Do all people agree on that?
The thing is, in most places the approachability thing is not agreed upon by everyone. There are many white guys who think Taiwanese women are friendly and easy to chat up. But I'm in Taiwan and I'm thinking WHAT THE f***ing HELL ARE THOSE GUYS SMOKING?! I would swear to God that that is not the case at all. The only time a Taiwanese girl makes eye contact with me, is when she is thinking, "Why is that creep looking at me for?!" Not only do they not make eye contact, but when I want to talk to them, I get the feeling that I'm committing some kind of crime. It's VERY uncomfortable and I am sure it is not my imagination. Even in clothing stores, hot girls who work there will not talk to me.
Yet there are many guys who argue that Taiwanese girls are friendly and easy to meet. It's like the Twilight Zone. Seeing a friendly Taiwanese girl with an open exterior that is not inhibited would to me be like seeing a UFO or Bigfoot. A huge anomaly.
Even some Asian Americans argue that Taiwanese girls are friendly and that they met some and were approached by them even. So it's not always a matter of whether you are white or asian.
Oddly, one local Taiwanese guy I met in a hostel told me that when he was in China, he did not notice that the girls were more friendly than they were in Taiwan.
Go figure.
I'll tell you. It's VERY frustrating and infuriating to your balls and hormones when you see hot girls everywhere yet you can't do anything about it cause they are not approachable at all, not even for eye contact or smiles. That is very very damn frustrating and painful.
Some claim that Japanese girls are friendly and approachable too. Yet if you are there, you will think "What the f**k were they smoking?!"
Even in Germany, some people say the women are friendly and feminine there, and that they score easily there. Yet others find them to be cold and independent. When I was in the airport in Frankfurt, Germany a few times, the women there seemed very cold and grim, even if they were working in customer service. None were cheerful.
Heck, some even consider LA and NY to be friendly and say that it's easy to get girls there.
Now I consider the town I lived in Washington, Bellingham, to be colder than Jupiter in terms of the social vibe. But most people who go there or live there claim it's warm and friendly and they met a lot of great people! WTF?! Only a minority complain about it like me.
This letter I got recently is also from one who thinks it's weird that everyone loves Bellingham except him:
Dear Winston,
I read what you wrote about Bellingham, and I can say that it made me genuinely smile which doesn't happen much since I moved to this parallel dimension of the chaos realm,
God's purgatory beta gone wrong and forgotten. I hate this place so much it makes me feel sick with rage just thinking about it. I agree with everything you say and more. I feel
alone most of the time in my hatred for this town because everyone FROM here has the most raging f***ing hard-on for this God forsaken shithole; and no one seems to agree with
me.
I have a personal story about this place that I think you might be interested in. A story about me trying to leave here and the ridiculous things that have kept me here, like almost
dying a couple times, catastrophic car failures, losing jobs, getting screwed out of thousands of dollars from employers, etc.
Anyway, if you are still here, as am I, maybe we could help eachother leave, or at least be an anti-B'ham alliance and work together to kick this place in the f***ing balls and tear it's "curse" a new asshole.
Owen
For more haters of Bellingham, see my reader responses here:
http://www.happierabroad.com/Bellingham ... ponses.htm
Yet they are still a minority. Most people love Bellingham and claim it is very friendly.
I hate it when a place is obviously non-social yet you aren't allowed to talk about it or else you will be seen as a freak. It's like not being allowed to say that the sky is blue on a clear day. Very weird.
Like I said, people are not unanimous about the friendliness of most places. The Philippines is one of the few places where everyone is unanimous about the girls being so approachable and friendly.