DarthXedonias wrote: ↑July 3rd, 2018, 2:11 am
I pretty much agree with what Red feather said. I will add that I also started out on Pina love and found my girlfriend on there. I had heard and seen the site for Christian filipina but haven't used it personally. Heard its a very good site from what other guys have told me though.
Haha, I didn't know you were addressing this to me, darthxedonias.
In terms of online international dating websites and dating resources, I am skeptical of using those resources. However,....however, it is something that I will look into. But more into the future, like in two years, if I don't find a girlfriend and don't get married in one year.
In terms of Grace, I did NOT meet her via online dating. Ironically, although my mom is preventing us from seeing each other, I have met Grace through one of my mom's business clients. The client, a Filipina lady, introduced me to Grace's aunty living in Hawaii, who the aunt then gave me Grace's contact information and told me to contact Grace via Facebook. that is how we started to communicate with one another, and then that led me to want to see Grace, so I bought a plane ticket to fly out to the Philippines to visit her.
I rely solely on people introducing me to other girls.
The only time I have tried online dating was here in the US. I have used match.com, E-harmony, Coffee Meets Bagel dating app. Surprisingly, I got a lot of responses from other girls, but that was it. Just responses, chatting and exchanging messages. However,.... I also got a good handful of face-to-face date meet ups. However, NONE of these dates or activities (like going to the zoo together, hiking together) led to a romantic relationship. I was either friend-zoned or the girl ghosted out on me by not responding to my text messages.
Hence, I do not want to use any of these dating services, ever again.
Oh the dating in the US I would say don't even worry about it. Think about it, those white or black guys (of which I am one) who have those type of personalities that make it so much easier to get girlfriends in the US aren't really getting anything in the long term. You should be glad that you have the foresight to begin looking in another country for a girlfriend and future wife.
Yes, I hate to play the race card, but me being an Asian male here in the US, puts me at a HUGE DISADVANTAGE in the dating field.
I am beginning to get frustrated and upset with being single. While there are guys who enjoy being single and living that kind of lifestyle, I am not. I want to come home from work, have a wife to chat with, and also have kids to play with.
Of course, the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence. So with kids, yeah, they look fun to play with. But there is also the $$$$ that goes into raising a kid and also the time spent for the kids.
I can pretty much guarantee you that if you were able to get financially independent and move to the Philippines for example to get married or mover her over here (which I wouldn't do personally) you would be in the long term a lot happier then people you know who will just keep dating/marrying AWs.
I don't think I will be moving any time soon. I just bought myself a condo and now have mortgages to pay. I will also be starting a new job this coming week.
So angry because this condo that I had bought, with assistance from my parents, was to be for me and Grace to live in.
I hope to get financially independent. But I will have to save up even more. I don't know....I now have mortgage and monthly association fees to pay, so it will be hard to save up on each paycheck.
Frankly, the status quo in the Philippines is the guy is going to pay since they run on that system but also because of the situation in the Philippines.
Oh dang. I now know. I did pay for a lot. The hotel room, the breakfast fee, the bus fare, taxi fare.
Grace now knows that she also has to pitch in.
However, I would have paid for everything had her older sister not tagged along with us to Manila. But it was my fault because I was the one who asked the older sister to come along with us, because when I had to depart to the airport, I did not want Grace to ride the bus alone back to her town.
I do feel like a cheapskin though, after looking back. But at the same time, I am glad to have voiced my opinions of feeling "used" by Grace and her sister.
Talking about subjects such as "me feeling used" and "money" tends to tick off Grace.
For example, for non degree holders (which is the majority of the Philippines) the unemployment rate fluctuates between 60-80% from what I hear and even for people with degrees your average wage is going to be 200 USD per month. Now that combined with the social system they have is going to make it even more likely that you, as a foreign male, is going to pay. Now of course this shouldn't be one sided. Usually, either from a religious or evolutionary point, the deal is the man provides resources and security and the woman brings regular access to sexual relations and children. Always make sure that the girl you are with brings something to the table.
Oh well, I learned some Filipino culture from you, Darthxednias.
Lastly, for your Korean idea I would say its "possible" but I would have reservations. There are still some good Korean women, attitude and beauty wise, and most of them still have good manners/demeanors but they have one thing that they are starting to share with AWs is unrealistic expectations for a marriage partner. Basically, they are falling into something that many first countries that allow women to get highly educated and pursue careers fall into. Since they have good careers and money they start not to just settle for other men on their level (which would just be fine) they start overvaluing their worth and think they should be getting the top 20-30% of men. This is similar to that mentality of women who are 4s,5s who think they deserve men who are 8s, 9s, and 10s (I mean this overall all, which includes looks, career, etc). Matter of fact I'm not sure if you heard but there is now a large minority of South Korean guys who get their marriage partners from Vietnam.
Yes, it is possible to get a Korean girl in Korea, by having me move over to Korea. The problem is I am half Japanese, and I have a Japanese last name. If you didn't know, a lot of Korean, esp the old-school Koreans, dislike/hate the Japaense people for murder/rape and all kinds of war crimes.
I told my mom that I am skeptical of Korean girl, because if they move to the US, what kind of job can she do? If she does not speak much English, she is only limited to socializing with the Korean community.
The big issue is that the Korean girl might get homesick, miss her parents and/or friends back in Korea and run away back to Korea. I have heard of stories like that before.
However, yes, due to S. Korea and even Japan being westernized and being a first-world country, the women are focused more on their careers, work, education, and are focusing less on bearing family and even wanting to marry.
This is why there is a slow decline in birth rates for both S. Korea and even for Japan.
It is because women are more focused on their work, don't want to marry, and mainly care about materialistic things.
However, being single will bite the girls (or the guys) in the ass in the long run.
When they get old, they will not have children to take care of them. Yeah, some old single people have friends or nieces/nephews who can take good care of them. However, most of these older single people feel lonesome and depressed. There was also a study that showed that single people die earlier due to depression, feeling lonely, doing less activity because they are by themselves.
Speaking of Korean men getting married to Vietnamese women, that is somewhat true. It is mainly the poor, countryside, farmer type of Korean guys in S. Korea who are having difficulty finding a wife. Hence, these Korean guys resort to a dating or international marriage broker, where the Korean guy or his parents, give money to the marriage broker to help him find a wife in another country. And the majority of these countries are SE Asian countries such as Vietnam, Cambodia, the Philippines or Thailand.
Sadly, some of these marriages break up because of cultural differences. some of the Vietnamese wife claim that their Korean husbands are abusive and then run off on the Korean husband. There are plenty of cases where the foreign wife does this, and then ends up working illegally in bars or massage parlors somewhere in Seoul.
Right now, I will sign up with a Korean Christian match-making company here in my area. One of my Korean female friends recommended this dating service to me.
The couples who run the business are Koreans who attend church. I have met up with them yesterday.
The only problem is that my Korean is not too fluent, and the Korean couples do not know much English, especially the guy.
The fee is $1K, but covers service up until I find a marriage partner. We'll see what happens.