A Complete Dating Guide To Mainland Chinese Women
Posted: May 18th, 2013, 1:39 pm
A Complete Dating Guide To Mainland Chinese Women
by Kai
Introduction:
This Guide is designed to help Westerners, find a Chinese wife in mainland China. (中国) (Means Central Country). I am an American, so much of what I write will come from that viewpoint. This guide will be very politically incorrect. This guide is NOT useful for WHOREMONGERING or P4P (Paying for p***y). If that is what you want, you can find that information on other threads on this website, I do not whore around anyway, so I am the worst person for that kind of advice. You have been warned.
Instead of people having to go search for my posts about China all over the various forums, you can get that information here in one place. This guide will be long, but if you are interested, it will be worth reading it. I will break this down into various chapters or sections.
My Story
Why Date Chinese Women?
Chinese History, Culture, Language and why it is Important? Do your Homework First!
Understanding Chinese Women
Dating Site Methods, Strategies, and Approaches to Dating Chinese Women
Travel in/Traveling to China
Manners (Do's and Dont's)
Avoiding Challenges/Potential Dangers/You Gotta Understand How China Works
How to Bring your New Wife/Potential Wife back to the US
My Story:
I am a black American male in my late 20's. I was married to an American woman for 2 years and lived with her for about 3 years before that. That marriage and relationship was terrible for reasons not worth writing about because everyone here knows why and can use their imagination. I tried dating Chinese women here in the US even, only to fail miserably. I currently have a Chinese fiance that will be moving to the US very soon within a month of this writing. So I know many sides of the equation.
I have a bachelors degree in political science and history with a minor in Chinese language. I work in IT but those skills have taken me far in IT, like managing all IT for a Shanghai office once. I have studied, worked with, and dated Chinese people for many years and I saw a big need for real information on this website for China dating, so I stick my neck out to do this, but I will try to keep most of my identity from being noticed on this, because the stuff I write on this guide could piss off some people easily, including my own personal friends.
My basic disclaimer is that I cannot guarantee success from my guide, but you can get very damned close. Don't look at my personal success as just being lucky. That is just not true. Many others have done the same thing. Remember there are 1.3 billion Chinese people. There are roughly 650 million Chinese women. America has roughly 350 million people of all ages! Always remember that.
Why Date Chinese Women
I can say sappy shit like, "They are the best Women in the whole world!", but I will spare you that tired cliche. I will provide a short list of their best qualities many of them have:
Chinese Women:
1. Are EXTREMELY Loyal!
2. Are Very Practical.
3. Are very dedicated and express love with actions, not words. Talk is CHEAP to them.
4. Most are very traditional!
5. Are very beautiful, and age very well too!
I could go on and list things like their hair is awesome, they look amazing in qipao dresses, eyes, etc.. but those things are just cherries on top for the most part, and not the main focus of this guide.
Q: What is an example of the loyalty Kai?
A: Ever saw that evil old man Rubert Murdoch about to be hit in the face with a cream pie by some UK journalist? His Chinese wife Wendy, quickly dashed pass Rupert's fat ass bodyguard, and smacked the SHIT out of that guy preventing him from landing that pie on anyone. The "Chinese Tiger Wife" can serve MANY functions.... NUFF SAID!
Q: What is an example of the practicality Kai?
A: They tend to be very frugal and do not make unnecessary expenditures. They may even ride you for "wasting money", like for staying in 5 and 4 star hotels, when there are cheaper ones around. Far from the stupid and inaccurate stereotype of "Gold-digger Asian women" you see thrown around. In fact, while traveling around in China with your girlfriend, you may have to insist upon nicer stuff to suit your own levels of comfort!! Do not be surprised if you have to do that! There is a reason why Chinese people have many many times more money in savings than their American counterparts do!
Q: What is an example of this dedication and love expression?
A: I will give you a personal one. My first trip to meet my fiance, we were getting ready to go eat food somewhere, she checked me out first to see if my clothes were too wrinkled, lint, etc. Then she picked a nasty booger out of my nose, finished checking my face, then gave me the OK. Need I say more? There was no hesitation in her movements, she was smiling, and thought nothing of it. I said nothing to her about it either. I double dog dare anyone on HA to ask a AW to do this for you!
Q: Kai what is an example of Chinese girls being very traditional?
A: There are too many examples to choose from, but they are raised to follow their husbands. There is a Chinese parable about wherever the male monkey goes, the female must follow behind. I may have butched the translation a little bit, but you get the idea. They already come with these "built in" qualities. DO NOT be shocked while chatting with Chinese ladies, in person or online, if they ask you if it is time for you to go to bed or have you eaten lunch yet, or many other things. It's like they are wired to tend to a man's needs! Don't be a sandy vag metrosexual sensitive man, whining about "she is trying to control me" bullshit either. Do you want a wife or a new-world-order f**k buddy? Can't have both.
Q: What is an example of this beauty Kai?
A: Dude.......look around. Shit Winston even has a few threads with mind blowing 30 and 40+ year old Chinese women. Some of those are probably airbrushed to some degree, but many of those 40+ women are smoking hot! I struggled at times, wanting to send emails to some of them when I was still single... Ok moving along...
Chinese History, Culture, Language and why it is Important? Do your Homework First!
Chinese history spans at least 5000 years! Compare that to America's less than 300 or so, and it helps to paint a picture. Nah it can be tough to comprehend that. It really can be. Chinese mentality has changed alot, but in many ways, it has changed very little. Much of their value system comes from Confucian Ideals. The stuff we should pay focus on are on Husband wife stuff and Filial piety stuff. Those are your two main areas of concern.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confucianism Wikipedia keeps it very short, sweet, and to the point. Those are the basic 7 themes the women will be looking for consciously, or sub-consciously!
At this point it is time to introduce you to Crystal Tao's website called https://www.lovelovechina.com/archives/
Go here and read through those archives. Crystal is a Chinese lady from Chongqing, she married a laowai (foreigner/you), and her website contains a wealth of knowledge on how to date Chinese Women and how to understand them. After she got married she quit the site, but left the articles for other to learn and use.
Expand out the various months, and check out the articles of interest. The comments sections sometimes has interesting nuggets in there too. If you read that entire website, you probably would not need this guide much. Seriously. The value of this guide is to give you quicker 10,000 foot views, mixed with some granular details, from an American MAN's perspective!
That said lets go over some various highlights in the next section:
Understanding Chinese Women
Chinese women are very simple to learn and even though it may seem complex, they are not. That is because Chinese history and culture is more complex. The women really are not that complex themselves. Here are a few key reasons why:
1. They are blunt. Very direct and straight to the point most of the time. If there was a type of woman a real logic driven man can get along nicely with it would be the blunt nature of a prudent straight forward type. Chinese women and UK women are definitely these types. Another way to look at it is to look at Chinese language itself. (Wo yao chi fan) That literally means in English, I want to eat rice/food. Chinese language is not as overflowing with unnecessary words like English is. It is very simple and to the point.
Don't expect SNL style humor to come out of the mouth of a Chinese woman either. They can be snide or sarcastic but that is only after you have made several snide remarks first! You may find yourself picking at them for a little while with humor or jokes, and they never bite. Then hours or days later, they bring one of those jokes up again and it busts you over the head nicely with it! You have been warned. Seriously they are very witty they just don't like to use it the same way Western Women do. If they tell you that you are getting too fat, they are not talking shit to you. They just want you to do better. Don't take it personal. If a Chinese woman says something "f***ed-up" to you, see where they were going with that first, because you really do not know really know what they mean by that or if they meant harm to you. Ask for clarity or re-read what they say multiple times. It doesn't mean what you probably think it means.
2. Typical Chinese women have simple aspirations. They are looking for a handful of things (in no order):
A) A man that is nice to them and treats them well. (get along well)
B) A man that treats his family and her's well with respect, etc.
C) A man that is financially and socially responsible. Has a plan, etc (you do not have to be rich!)
D) A random fetish of some kind. (White skin/blue eyes/blond hair/ six pack abs/tall/sexy eyebrows/big arms/not very hairy body/etc....)
3. Chinese women are not picky about looks. They are picky about what they want though! Take my lady for example, she cannot stand skinny men. She never cared for what race of the man she was looking for, but any skinny guy Chinese or otherwise, would have bothered her, or got no attention from her. Then when she meets me, a black guy with muscles, she goes
-Time for some more realism. Most Chinese women, if they had a choice, always want what they want, but in a Chinese man FIRST! Anyone that really knows Chinese people period, knows this. If there is a Chinese equivalent for you, they would jump on that, if it were possible. What do I mean by possible? Let's break it down shall we.
How Chinese men Disqualify Themselves With Their Own Women (in no order):
1. Too picky
2. Rude as f**k, no f***ing manners at all.
3. Er nai (Second wives/mistresses) and cheating
4. Always chasing really young ones
5. Takes them too long to mature or grow up in some cases
6. Financially not acceptable
7. Treats in-laws like shit
8. Hits women
9. Low EQ towards the woman/ No romance at all/Never say anything nice
10. Arraigned marriages
11. 28+ year old women are old maid leftover girls. (sheng nu) and there are plenty of younger ones around.
Many Chinese women, especially the divorced ones, are not putting up with that shit anymore. Talk to some of those older ones especially the ones with kids and you will see what I mean. These women are still good women, would you tolerate anything I just listed above? Sometimes they tolerate quite a few things on that list before quitting them. You see in China, men are the kings. Their divorce laws and REGULAR laws strongly favor the men to a point to where it is ridiculous. Like they can hit their wives and get away with it. Women are basically treated 2nd class. If you are a Western man with none of those problems with what I just listed, keep on reading.
So now we know why they are willing to look abroad for laowai to marry instead. Not all Chinese men are like this, but f**k... the ones that are good, can chose between MILLIONS of ultra hot early 20 somethings... The women want a peaceful life with a man that loves them, and they can be happy without, drama "China Style"....
4. Many Chinese girls are trusting and easy to talk to depending upon their ages and backgrounds. In many ways toooo trusting, tooo easy......This is good though if you are not a monger. You can have a sweet, pure, innocence young woman, that you can grow with or mold rather... That said, they live in a country that they call "Hard Mode", so they are stupid, don't play games with them, especially if you are physically in China. (I will cover more of that later)
5. Many Chinese women also do not shave their pussies and some don't shave armpits, and may not shave if you ask them to. Many Chinese women naturally do not have leg hair. They may think a shaved p***y is bad luck. Don't be a dick and shave their pussies, etc. and make them cry either like one douchebag claimed he did on Chinasmack. Find one that is "down" with that sort of thing, if that is what you want... I actually would not recommend a Chinese woman if body hair is a major deal breaker for you. Or Japanese either. At least ask about their hair situation up front, like WillNdowd (a fellow HA member) does that, and I do that too, except we are the opposite because we hate that shaved p***y stuff and that would be a major deal breaker for us. So if hair is a deal breaker for you, ask about it up front (within a few weeks meeting them/use your best judgement), then ask if they would be willing to trim or shave that for you. Also if they shave their whole body for you as you ask, they may feel inadequate about your appreciation of their natural body, even though she may never tell you that, it is something to think about!
6. Chinese women may not know world history much. They may not know much about your country, or just the shit they see on CCTV. (Communist Controlled TV if you are funny) Don't expect them to always know what the f**k you are talking about. They will tell you if they know about that already.
7. Materialistic Chinese women that people try to scare you about come from mostly one or two places in China. Just like Manilla women are different from the other ones, the same thing applies to China too. Shanghai women are NOTORIOUS for being the valley bitches of China. They tend to be more intelligent, independent, demanding, gold-digging, etc. than all others. The reality is that they are more likely to be educated, smarter, and a little less traditional. Perhaps a better version of an AW. They are not as bad as they seem. Shanghai has the highest number of "sheng nu" anywhere else in China. Most of you probably want to avoid them to be honest. There is also a difference between "native Shanghai women" and "I just work here, but I am from XXXX" Catch my drift?
8. Chinese women can be competitive and jealous. If you are talking to other ones, they wont like it, but they may not tell you, they just might become more competitive. Some of them always want what they cannot have. If another Chinese woman likes you, then all of them like you, but if not one likes you, none of them like you, is my motto. Share some photos of you hanging out with other Chinese girl "friends", if you love strategy. >:D
9. Chinese girls love to teach their man Chinese language. Not all, but many. Interest in learning Chinese language and culture, makes them MUCH more comfortable with you. It shatters the ice, if you know what I mean. More on this later.
10. When it comes to racism many Chinese women are generally racist. Just like most Chinese people. I hate to say it but its the f***ing truth. Well over probably 70% want nothing to do with black people period. Africans can catch the most heat, while black Americans can sometimes get away from that some. Does this mean give up if you are a black man? Hell no. Keep searching. Hell once I had 3 women message me because they wanted a handsome black man BADLY! 1 was super hot, 1 was slutty-hot with huge tits, and 1 was kind of a butterface with a killer body. 2 of them listened to black singers like RnB alot, and were very genuine.
11. Many Chinese women can cook. Food is EXTREMELY important in Chinese culture. If you can eat real Chinese food, they will love that, because that means they will be able to do something valuable for you! Also she can take you to visit her parents without worrying about if you can eat the food or not. Learn how to use chopsticks correctly!!!!! Her parents will get a kick outta that!
Most Chinese women willing to look for a laowai, want the older blonde or brown hair, tall successful white guy, and will wait for that right guy because they know that foreign women suck compared to them and they are just very patient in nature. When I say tall, I mean as tall as they are at least or more, which may not be very tall at all. My baby told me she likes tall men when I first met her, and suddenly I felt discouraged, then I asked her how tall of a man would you like, and that was 2 inches shorter than me . Some really don't give a shit about any of that stuff. One thing that most seem not to like is super hairy men, and huge pot bellied men. Again, some don't give a shit about those and treat that as minor things. The older they are, the less they give a shit about all that stuff except skin color! The younger ones are the most open-minded ones on race. The 23-28 year old ones. They are the ones that see more of the rest of the world, unlike their older counterparts.
Dating Site Methods, Strategies, and Approaches to Dating Chinese Women
Let me address "Mainland Chinese Women" that are already inside America. 90+% of them are rich. Period. Maybe richer than you or some of your American buddies. They are usually the sons and daughters of Chinese that got rich in China and either took off to the US first chance they got, illegal and legal means, or they sent their rich kid off to a US university. It costs at least 90,000 dollars as a deposit to do that! They do not need your green card but if they wanted that, they only want a tall white guy probably. Watch out though because many of those girls are like Shanghai girls. Also they tend to hang out with only other Chinese people and hang out in the local Chinatown. You need a Chinese male or female friend to bring you in the group, and you better speak some Mandarin too. They are also usually college students too. They are also much closer to an ABC (American Born Chinese) than you might like. I do not recommend chasing any of them unless you are Chinese ethnically or Taiwanese, tall, young, white, and handsome, or white and rich. Also the 9's and 10's already here, are usually only interested in the top of the top of what I listed (Rich Chinese young man in the US or rich ABC). A desperate 3-5 might take anyone, but you can get a 7-10 easy directly from the source. Not to mention those already here, can't cook for shit. Real talk.
(keep this shit to yourselves too. Don't run around repeating this shit either)
Now let's cover Dating strategies.
The age ranges you chase, only change a few basic things.
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by Kai
Introduction:
This Guide is designed to help Westerners, find a Chinese wife in mainland China. (中国) (Means Central Country). I am an American, so much of what I write will come from that viewpoint. This guide will be very politically incorrect. This guide is NOT useful for WHOREMONGERING or P4P (Paying for p***y). If that is what you want, you can find that information on other threads on this website, I do not whore around anyway, so I am the worst person for that kind of advice. You have been warned.
Instead of people having to go search for my posts about China all over the various forums, you can get that information here in one place. This guide will be long, but if you are interested, it will be worth reading it. I will break this down into various chapters or sections.
My Story
Why Date Chinese Women?
Chinese History, Culture, Language and why it is Important? Do your Homework First!
Understanding Chinese Women
Dating Site Methods, Strategies, and Approaches to Dating Chinese Women
Travel in/Traveling to China
Manners (Do's and Dont's)
Avoiding Challenges/Potential Dangers/You Gotta Understand How China Works
How to Bring your New Wife/Potential Wife back to the US
My Story:
I am a black American male in my late 20's. I was married to an American woman for 2 years and lived with her for about 3 years before that. That marriage and relationship was terrible for reasons not worth writing about because everyone here knows why and can use their imagination. I tried dating Chinese women here in the US even, only to fail miserably. I currently have a Chinese fiance that will be moving to the US very soon within a month of this writing. So I know many sides of the equation.
I have a bachelors degree in political science and history with a minor in Chinese language. I work in IT but those skills have taken me far in IT, like managing all IT for a Shanghai office once. I have studied, worked with, and dated Chinese people for many years and I saw a big need for real information on this website for China dating, so I stick my neck out to do this, but I will try to keep most of my identity from being noticed on this, because the stuff I write on this guide could piss off some people easily, including my own personal friends.
My basic disclaimer is that I cannot guarantee success from my guide, but you can get very damned close. Don't look at my personal success as just being lucky. That is just not true. Many others have done the same thing. Remember there are 1.3 billion Chinese people. There are roughly 650 million Chinese women. America has roughly 350 million people of all ages! Always remember that.
Why Date Chinese Women
I can say sappy shit like, "They are the best Women in the whole world!", but I will spare you that tired cliche. I will provide a short list of their best qualities many of them have:
Chinese Women:
1. Are EXTREMELY Loyal!
2. Are Very Practical.
3. Are very dedicated and express love with actions, not words. Talk is CHEAP to them.
4. Most are very traditional!
5. Are very beautiful, and age very well too!
I could go on and list things like their hair is awesome, they look amazing in qipao dresses, eyes, etc.. but those things are just cherries on top for the most part, and not the main focus of this guide.
Q: What is an example of the loyalty Kai?
A: Ever saw that evil old man Rubert Murdoch about to be hit in the face with a cream pie by some UK journalist? His Chinese wife Wendy, quickly dashed pass Rupert's fat ass bodyguard, and smacked the SHIT out of that guy preventing him from landing that pie on anyone. The "Chinese Tiger Wife" can serve MANY functions.... NUFF SAID!
Q: What is an example of the practicality Kai?
A: They tend to be very frugal and do not make unnecessary expenditures. They may even ride you for "wasting money", like for staying in 5 and 4 star hotels, when there are cheaper ones around. Far from the stupid and inaccurate stereotype of "Gold-digger Asian women" you see thrown around. In fact, while traveling around in China with your girlfriend, you may have to insist upon nicer stuff to suit your own levels of comfort!! Do not be surprised if you have to do that! There is a reason why Chinese people have many many times more money in savings than their American counterparts do!
Q: What is an example of this dedication and love expression?
A: I will give you a personal one. My first trip to meet my fiance, we were getting ready to go eat food somewhere, she checked me out first to see if my clothes were too wrinkled, lint, etc. Then she picked a nasty booger out of my nose, finished checking my face, then gave me the OK. Need I say more? There was no hesitation in her movements, she was smiling, and thought nothing of it. I said nothing to her about it either. I double dog dare anyone on HA to ask a AW to do this for you!
Q: Kai what is an example of Chinese girls being very traditional?
A: There are too many examples to choose from, but they are raised to follow their husbands. There is a Chinese parable about wherever the male monkey goes, the female must follow behind. I may have butched the translation a little bit, but you get the idea. They already come with these "built in" qualities. DO NOT be shocked while chatting with Chinese ladies, in person or online, if they ask you if it is time for you to go to bed or have you eaten lunch yet, or many other things. It's like they are wired to tend to a man's needs! Don't be a sandy vag metrosexual sensitive man, whining about "she is trying to control me" bullshit either. Do you want a wife or a new-world-order f**k buddy? Can't have both.
Q: What is an example of this beauty Kai?
A: Dude.......look around. Shit Winston even has a few threads with mind blowing 30 and 40+ year old Chinese women. Some of those are probably airbrushed to some degree, but many of those 40+ women are smoking hot! I struggled at times, wanting to send emails to some of them when I was still single... Ok moving along...
Chinese History, Culture, Language and why it is Important? Do your Homework First!
Chinese history spans at least 5000 years! Compare that to America's less than 300 or so, and it helps to paint a picture. Nah it can be tough to comprehend that. It really can be. Chinese mentality has changed alot, but in many ways, it has changed very little. Much of their value system comes from Confucian Ideals. The stuff we should pay focus on are on Husband wife stuff and Filial piety stuff. Those are your two main areas of concern.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confucianism Wikipedia keeps it very short, sweet, and to the point. Those are the basic 7 themes the women will be looking for consciously, or sub-consciously!
At this point it is time to introduce you to Crystal Tao's website called https://www.lovelovechina.com/archives/
Go here and read through those archives. Crystal is a Chinese lady from Chongqing, she married a laowai (foreigner/you), and her website contains a wealth of knowledge on how to date Chinese Women and how to understand them. After she got married she quit the site, but left the articles for other to learn and use.
Expand out the various months, and check out the articles of interest. The comments sections sometimes has interesting nuggets in there too. If you read that entire website, you probably would not need this guide much. Seriously. The value of this guide is to give you quicker 10,000 foot views, mixed with some granular details, from an American MAN's perspective!
That said lets go over some various highlights in the next section:
Understanding Chinese Women
Chinese women are very simple to learn and even though it may seem complex, they are not. That is because Chinese history and culture is more complex. The women really are not that complex themselves. Here are a few key reasons why:
1. They are blunt. Very direct and straight to the point most of the time. If there was a type of woman a real logic driven man can get along nicely with it would be the blunt nature of a prudent straight forward type. Chinese women and UK women are definitely these types. Another way to look at it is to look at Chinese language itself. (Wo yao chi fan) That literally means in English, I want to eat rice/food. Chinese language is not as overflowing with unnecessary words like English is. It is very simple and to the point.
Don't expect SNL style humor to come out of the mouth of a Chinese woman either. They can be snide or sarcastic but that is only after you have made several snide remarks first! You may find yourself picking at them for a little while with humor or jokes, and they never bite. Then hours or days later, they bring one of those jokes up again and it busts you over the head nicely with it! You have been warned. Seriously they are very witty they just don't like to use it the same way Western Women do. If they tell you that you are getting too fat, they are not talking shit to you. They just want you to do better. Don't take it personal. If a Chinese woman says something "f***ed-up" to you, see where they were going with that first, because you really do not know really know what they mean by that or if they meant harm to you. Ask for clarity or re-read what they say multiple times. It doesn't mean what you probably think it means.
2. Typical Chinese women have simple aspirations. They are looking for a handful of things (in no order):
A) A man that is nice to them and treats them well. (get along well)
B) A man that treats his family and her's well with respect, etc.
C) A man that is financially and socially responsible. Has a plan, etc (you do not have to be rich!)
D) A random fetish of some kind. (White skin/blue eyes/blond hair/ six pack abs/tall/sexy eyebrows/big arms/not very hairy body/etc....)
3. Chinese women are not picky about looks. They are picky about what they want though! Take my lady for example, she cannot stand skinny men. She never cared for what race of the man she was looking for, but any skinny guy Chinese or otherwise, would have bothered her, or got no attention from her. Then when she meets me, a black guy with muscles, she goes
-Time for some more realism. Most Chinese women, if they had a choice, always want what they want, but in a Chinese man FIRST! Anyone that really knows Chinese people period, knows this. If there is a Chinese equivalent for you, they would jump on that, if it were possible. What do I mean by possible? Let's break it down shall we.
How Chinese men Disqualify Themselves With Their Own Women (in no order):
1. Too picky
2. Rude as f**k, no f***ing manners at all.
3. Er nai (Second wives/mistresses) and cheating
4. Always chasing really young ones
5. Takes them too long to mature or grow up in some cases
6. Financially not acceptable
7. Treats in-laws like shit
8. Hits women
9. Low EQ towards the woman/ No romance at all/Never say anything nice
10. Arraigned marriages
11. 28+ year old women are old maid leftover girls. (sheng nu) and there are plenty of younger ones around.
Many Chinese women, especially the divorced ones, are not putting up with that shit anymore. Talk to some of those older ones especially the ones with kids and you will see what I mean. These women are still good women, would you tolerate anything I just listed above? Sometimes they tolerate quite a few things on that list before quitting them. You see in China, men are the kings. Their divorce laws and REGULAR laws strongly favor the men to a point to where it is ridiculous. Like they can hit their wives and get away with it. Women are basically treated 2nd class. If you are a Western man with none of those problems with what I just listed, keep on reading.
So now we know why they are willing to look abroad for laowai to marry instead. Not all Chinese men are like this, but f**k... the ones that are good, can chose between MILLIONS of ultra hot early 20 somethings... The women want a peaceful life with a man that loves them, and they can be happy without, drama "China Style"....
4. Many Chinese girls are trusting and easy to talk to depending upon their ages and backgrounds. In many ways toooo trusting, tooo easy......This is good though if you are not a monger. You can have a sweet, pure, innocence young woman, that you can grow with or mold rather... That said, they live in a country that they call "Hard Mode", so they are stupid, don't play games with them, especially if you are physically in China. (I will cover more of that later)
5. Many Chinese women also do not shave their pussies and some don't shave armpits, and may not shave if you ask them to. Many Chinese women naturally do not have leg hair. They may think a shaved p***y is bad luck. Don't be a dick and shave their pussies, etc. and make them cry either like one douchebag claimed he did on Chinasmack. Find one that is "down" with that sort of thing, if that is what you want... I actually would not recommend a Chinese woman if body hair is a major deal breaker for you. Or Japanese either. At least ask about their hair situation up front, like WillNdowd (a fellow HA member) does that, and I do that too, except we are the opposite because we hate that shaved p***y stuff and that would be a major deal breaker for us. So if hair is a deal breaker for you, ask about it up front (within a few weeks meeting them/use your best judgement), then ask if they would be willing to trim or shave that for you. Also if they shave their whole body for you as you ask, they may feel inadequate about your appreciation of their natural body, even though she may never tell you that, it is something to think about!
6. Chinese women may not know world history much. They may not know much about your country, or just the shit they see on CCTV. (Communist Controlled TV if you are funny) Don't expect them to always know what the f**k you are talking about. They will tell you if they know about that already.
7. Materialistic Chinese women that people try to scare you about come from mostly one or two places in China. Just like Manilla women are different from the other ones, the same thing applies to China too. Shanghai women are NOTORIOUS for being the valley bitches of China. They tend to be more intelligent, independent, demanding, gold-digging, etc. than all others. The reality is that they are more likely to be educated, smarter, and a little less traditional. Perhaps a better version of an AW. They are not as bad as they seem. Shanghai has the highest number of "sheng nu" anywhere else in China. Most of you probably want to avoid them to be honest. There is also a difference between "native Shanghai women" and "I just work here, but I am from XXXX" Catch my drift?
8. Chinese women can be competitive and jealous. If you are talking to other ones, they wont like it, but they may not tell you, they just might become more competitive. Some of them always want what they cannot have. If another Chinese woman likes you, then all of them like you, but if not one likes you, none of them like you, is my motto. Share some photos of you hanging out with other Chinese girl "friends", if you love strategy. >:D
9. Chinese girls love to teach their man Chinese language. Not all, but many. Interest in learning Chinese language and culture, makes them MUCH more comfortable with you. It shatters the ice, if you know what I mean. More on this later.
10. When it comes to racism many Chinese women are generally racist. Just like most Chinese people. I hate to say it but its the f***ing truth. Well over probably 70% want nothing to do with black people period. Africans can catch the most heat, while black Americans can sometimes get away from that some. Does this mean give up if you are a black man? Hell no. Keep searching. Hell once I had 3 women message me because they wanted a handsome black man BADLY! 1 was super hot, 1 was slutty-hot with huge tits, and 1 was kind of a butterface with a killer body. 2 of them listened to black singers like RnB alot, and were very genuine.
11. Many Chinese women can cook. Food is EXTREMELY important in Chinese culture. If you can eat real Chinese food, they will love that, because that means they will be able to do something valuable for you! Also she can take you to visit her parents without worrying about if you can eat the food or not. Learn how to use chopsticks correctly!!!!! Her parents will get a kick outta that!
Most Chinese women willing to look for a laowai, want the older blonde or brown hair, tall successful white guy, and will wait for that right guy because they know that foreign women suck compared to them and they are just very patient in nature. When I say tall, I mean as tall as they are at least or more, which may not be very tall at all. My baby told me she likes tall men when I first met her, and suddenly I felt discouraged, then I asked her how tall of a man would you like, and that was 2 inches shorter than me . Some really don't give a shit about any of that stuff. One thing that most seem not to like is super hairy men, and huge pot bellied men. Again, some don't give a shit about those and treat that as minor things. The older they are, the less they give a shit about all that stuff except skin color! The younger ones are the most open-minded ones on race. The 23-28 year old ones. They are the ones that see more of the rest of the world, unlike their older counterparts.
Dating Site Methods, Strategies, and Approaches to Dating Chinese Women
Let me address "Mainland Chinese Women" that are already inside America. 90+% of them are rich. Period. Maybe richer than you or some of your American buddies. They are usually the sons and daughters of Chinese that got rich in China and either took off to the US first chance they got, illegal and legal means, or they sent their rich kid off to a US university. It costs at least 90,000 dollars as a deposit to do that! They do not need your green card but if they wanted that, they only want a tall white guy probably. Watch out though because many of those girls are like Shanghai girls. Also they tend to hang out with only other Chinese people and hang out in the local Chinatown. You need a Chinese male or female friend to bring you in the group, and you better speak some Mandarin too. They are also usually college students too. They are also much closer to an ABC (American Born Chinese) than you might like. I do not recommend chasing any of them unless you are Chinese ethnically or Taiwanese, tall, young, white, and handsome, or white and rich. Also the 9's and 10's already here, are usually only interested in the top of the top of what I listed (Rich Chinese young man in the US or rich ABC). A desperate 3-5 might take anyone, but you can get a 7-10 easy directly from the source. Not to mention those already here, can't cook for shit. Real talk.
(keep this shit to yourselves too. Don't run around repeating this shit either)
Now let's cover Dating strategies.
The age ranges you chase, only change a few basic things.
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