I'm a little confused what you meant here as they are definitely not non-existant. I have witnessed lots of cool girls in KL (check out The Rex) and even Penang (countless hipster cafés). Not so much in Cebu, but now that I've had a week to get around Manila, I've seen TONS in the more design oriented bars, cafes & shops, as there is a very present art, music & fashion scene.Jackfruits wrote: ↑January 7th, 2023, 4:30 pm1; you are better off in NYC or Russia, stylish hipster poor girls are non-existent in asia if not a golddigger insta model. Most just dress for the hot humid weather
To get a little sense of the scene in other cities, you can check Boiler Room events on youtube, for instance, here is Taiwan:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tE03ZxQ ... BoilerRoom
They range from low income to high income, it doesn't really matter if they are poor or not. Many wear second hand vintage clothing which is very cheap at the thrift stores for instance.
Problem I've found in my travels so far, is despite all the 'hype' - such girls are actually not very open to meeting or eager to date foreigners at all. Amongst that crowd, they tend to have the same nearly impenetrable standards, dating their local asian 'chad' or 'e-boy' peers...
Cold approaches are usually met with dirty 'why the hell are you talking to me' kind of looks, or they will tell me flat out that they are not open to meeting 'strangers' and only meet people through their social circle. When they are chill enough to strike up a friendly conversation, I give them a quick background of who I am and what I do, even showing them some videos of my performances to hopefully put them at ease a bit, and then invite them to coffee, to which they reply 99% of the time, "No thanks, I'm good, cool meeting you though" Ironically, I cannot walk out my door here without some security guard or store clerk asking me if I'm an actor or model yet that doesn't seem to strike the cool girls though, I'm really at a loss with it.
In other words, for my tastes, when it comes to this 'happier abroad' dream regarding an openness of the normal women to dating good men from foreign countries, I'm just not really seeing a remarkably positive reaction as 'advertised'. The foreigners that I do see with local girls tend to be with women who I would consider lower than my personal standards,
Yea of course nothing is going to be perfect, just putting feelers out for a place that might be a good balance of some of these important factors. Phuket sounds decent from afar but I really don't know without scoping the dating market first hand.Jackfruits wrote: ↑January 7th, 2023, 4:30 pm2; beach and big city is impossible; have you been in hong kong island, that's beach and big city but $5k monthly rent for a shoebox, you go find that elusive perfect beach clean metropolis, no one here can help you
For clarity, I don't mean motorcycles, I meant regular slow bikes as most big cities these days have a public bike or e-scooter service. In NYC, it's called Citibike. In Manila, it's called Moovr. KL had Beam. You generally ride these on sidewalks, or less busy streets and it's quite safe for getting around your locale, which is why it's a widely used public service project usually funded by a major bank.
A few reasons, I like very feminine women, and find Asian women to be the most attractive. So, it goes without saying that cool, attractive, single, feminine Asian women are going to be the minority of the population in USA and puts me in a difficult finding a 'needle in a haystack' type of situation with a poor chance of success. In Asia, obviously, the tables are turned from a purely statistical standpoint.
To make matters worse in America, women's standards for look are insanely high now, they select for "Chad" level bone structure - even before they select for a decent successful guy. And while I am 6' tall, white and successful there, it is still not enough to put me in a winning position in the dating market. I have pushed that envelope there as far as you possibly can, from the sidewalk, supermarket to the nightclub - certainly I have gotten lucky sometimes, but overall, it is a losing game. Finding a good long term relationship partner is not high on the priority list whatsoever there, at least not enough to loosen their standards for looks even a little bit.
My goal here is simply to live a somewhat better quality of life and put myself in a better position to find partnership with my type of high quality girl.