Marriage Reality Shows
Posted: January 26th, 2022, 11:11 pm
We've gotten ads from 90-Day Fiancee. I've seen bits and pieces of this, where an American dates someone online and they get married.
Many years ago, I saw much of the first season of Married and First Sight. I've seen parts of it sense. I was watching some episodes of it. You can also watch the wedding, the first couple of episodes, skipping the boring parts, and skip to the end to see who made it.
But I wonder who is unwise enough to actually get matched up on this TV show. Their divorce rates are probably a little higher than the average population, especially if you measure 7 or 10 years after being matched up. They've matched people who weren't physically attracted to each other. And the people doing the matching are a psychologist in some seasons, a sociologist, a sexologist, and a pastor.
The pastor, the way the show is edited, keeps talking about whether people are going to stay married or get divorced, asking people if they are going to stay married or get a divorce. He's a pastor, and Jesus taught against divorce. So why would he prompt people to consider divorce an option? They call the marriage an 'experiment' as if it can go either way. If I were them, I would not appreciate that, and if they asked me if I wanted to stay married or get a divorce, I'd ask the experts if they wanted to get a divorce and ask how they'd like it if I suggested to their husbands and wives to divorce them. It's like they are giving people permission to get divorced. It doesn't make sense to me, especially when the pastor is doing it.
So I was watching some episodes of seasons 12. They matched a woman up with a divorced man. That should be a disqualifier. Some people don't want to marry someone else who is divorced. The woman he married didn't care, but if they have a long line of people, why not pick some never-married people. This took them by surprised, but another guy had gotten his ex-fiancee pregnant and he has a horrible problem with his temper. But you'd think they could dig a bit and figure out the guy was very recently engaged and that he had a problem with his temper.
The 'experts' act like they want to match people up and have them be successful, and maybe they do. But I wonder if the producers think having messed up situations, like someone who is angry, got
a woman pregnant, etc. makes the show more interesting to watch. I hope that isn't the case.
The first season, a couple of the women had model good looks as far as their faces go. If they have lots of people willing to sign up, why don't they just pick 95 percentile people for looks. That way it is unlikely anyone won't experience not being attracted to their spouse. That might make for less drama, but good-looking people would probably also increase ratings, too. As it is now, some of the 'contestants' are good-looking and some are just kind of average, and the pastor tries to convince people that attraction can grow if they don't like their partner's looks. Who would sign up for that? Maybe it can work for people who do not care at all about looks, but the contestants on the show usually talk about looks.
But I don't get why people would trust 'experts' to match them up when the experts don't do any better than people do themselves using divorce rates as a metric. If they wanted to improve their match-making, they could bring the parents in and have them help the experts find a good match, interviewing prospects. Parents might spill the beans, which would ruin the secret, but they could keep this out of the editing and not let the audience know if it happens. An advantage would be the parents would be on board to offer extra support since they had a role in the matchmaking. They would also have someone who hopefully loves the person being matched up and actually knows something about their personality.
90-Day-Fiancee makes a bit more sense. It's mainly people who did online dating, but with people overseas. And they picked their fiancees out and built up a relationship online before letting the audience in. I've seen a bit of this show. That is a more normal thing in this day and age.
Many years ago, I saw much of the first season of Married and First Sight. I've seen parts of it sense. I was watching some episodes of it. You can also watch the wedding, the first couple of episodes, skipping the boring parts, and skip to the end to see who made it.
But I wonder who is unwise enough to actually get matched up on this TV show. Their divorce rates are probably a little higher than the average population, especially if you measure 7 or 10 years after being matched up. They've matched people who weren't physically attracted to each other. And the people doing the matching are a psychologist in some seasons, a sociologist, a sexologist, and a pastor.
The pastor, the way the show is edited, keeps talking about whether people are going to stay married or get divorced, asking people if they are going to stay married or get a divorce. He's a pastor, and Jesus taught against divorce. So why would he prompt people to consider divorce an option? They call the marriage an 'experiment' as if it can go either way. If I were them, I would not appreciate that, and if they asked me if I wanted to stay married or get a divorce, I'd ask the experts if they wanted to get a divorce and ask how they'd like it if I suggested to their husbands and wives to divorce them. It's like they are giving people permission to get divorced. It doesn't make sense to me, especially when the pastor is doing it.
So I was watching some episodes of seasons 12. They matched a woman up with a divorced man. That should be a disqualifier. Some people don't want to marry someone else who is divorced. The woman he married didn't care, but if they have a long line of people, why not pick some never-married people. This took them by surprised, but another guy had gotten his ex-fiancee pregnant and he has a horrible problem with his temper. But you'd think they could dig a bit and figure out the guy was very recently engaged and that he had a problem with his temper.
The 'experts' act like they want to match people up and have them be successful, and maybe they do. But I wonder if the producers think having messed up situations, like someone who is angry, got
a woman pregnant, etc. makes the show more interesting to watch. I hope that isn't the case.
The first season, a couple of the women had model good looks as far as their faces go. If they have lots of people willing to sign up, why don't they just pick 95 percentile people for looks. That way it is unlikely anyone won't experience not being attracted to their spouse. That might make for less drama, but good-looking people would probably also increase ratings, too. As it is now, some of the 'contestants' are good-looking and some are just kind of average, and the pastor tries to convince people that attraction can grow if they don't like their partner's looks. Who would sign up for that? Maybe it can work for people who do not care at all about looks, but the contestants on the show usually talk about looks.
But I don't get why people would trust 'experts' to match them up when the experts don't do any better than people do themselves using divorce rates as a metric. If they wanted to improve their match-making, they could bring the parents in and have them help the experts find a good match, interviewing prospects. Parents might spill the beans, which would ruin the secret, but they could keep this out of the editing and not let the audience know if it happens. An advantage would be the parents would be on board to offer extra support since they had a role in the matchmaking. They would also have someone who hopefully loves the person being matched up and actually knows something about their personality.
90-Day-Fiancee makes a bit more sense. It's mainly people who did online dating, but with people overseas. And they picked their fiancees out and built up a relationship online before letting the audience in. I've seen a bit of this show. That is a more normal thing in this day and age.