Contrarian Expatriate wrote: Have you gotten your testosterone levels tested?
You might want to do that pronto as it seems you are running dangerously low with all your "Ma Marrije iz guud" rationalizations.
If you want to communicate, use proper English. I'm not that good at Ebonics.
As far as the testosterone goes, everything is working well on my end. It sounds like you may have done some research in this area, since you are in your 50's, and testosterone goes down. Do you have any experience with symptoms of low testosterone? What is your experience with this?
It can be said that you exhibit a mild form of Stockholm Syndrome as you think your current servitude is a positive thing. It would be sad if it were not so pathetic.
If your kids are old enough, FIRE your wife by divorcing her to live as a free and whole man again.
I suspect you are just doing this to pique at me as some sort of rhetorical posturing. Maybe you chuckle to yourself when you write this stuff, and its just entertainment. You seem to write well. I think to myself sometimes, surely he can't be gullible enough to believe this stuff he writes. If you do, you have really been brainwashed by these MGTOW videos, made by 'experts' whose qualifications are the ability to speak and put together a YouTube video, and maybe some experience with a nasty divorce.
I do have small kids, btw. What you are advocating here is one of the reasons western culture is as messed up as it is. You are advocating for disloyalty and betrayal. The danger of getting married is that one marries a disloyal woman-- disloyal like you just advocated me to be. It isn't right for a woman to dump her husband, whose invested his time and life into his marriage, because she gets bored or wants to 'finder herself' or some other nonsense. Men dumping their wives for similar reasons is bad, too. It's covenant-breaking, betrayal, and disloyalty that you advocate. I don't want to be a person like that.
Your advice is bad on so many levels. Men who go through divorce generally go through a lot of emotional suffering. So do the kids, sometimes, even if they are grown. Divorce is a vehicle for financial destruction, since two houses or apartments are required where there was once one. Family is vehicle, potentially, for saving and pooling resources.
You seem to think a man cannot be in a marriage without being a slave. It is strange how you, who apparently have never been married, seem to think you are an expert on the dynamics of every marriage out there? What is your experience with marriage? Were your parents married and your mother was very domineering toward your father? Were you raised by your mother who was very domineering toward you and any other men in the home. I don't have this fear. I grew up watching my mom do what my dad told her to do, so I cannot relate to this idea of yours that marriage puts men in slavery.
Maybe you lack experience having a relationship with a woman for a long time where you have to assert yourself and draw boundaries. Okay, I can understand that. But you shouldn't pretend you know what marriage is like and assume all men in marriage are in female-dominated relationships. My wife knows she must submit to me. I'm not domineering or overbearing, well, at least 99% of the time. I also have to keep up boundaries with her and call her if she steps over them. We need to do that with all kinds of relationships in life.
I think a continued theme here is your pretending to be an expert on marriage when you know little to nothing about what it is like to actually be married.