cdnFA wrote:How widespread is that attitude. I am sure it is pretty widespread but there is still lots of wiggle room. I am sure most 20 something females are not exactly keen to marry a 400 pound 75 year old either but it seems it happens.
It happens, and then they get babies by the 75 year old 400 pound man because 'a pretty tall-nosed mestizo baby is a pretty tall-nosed mestizo baby'.
cdnFA wrote:Are you suggesting that a girl is likely in that situation to just get knocked up by someone else. If so it makes my question a bit more urgent.
I'd never try to get married to someone by lying about my child free desires but if it is likely that a girl would just get herself knocked up then the women of that culture are horrid "human" beings on the level of the MGTOW view of AWs IMHO
They would not cheat on you soon and give birth to a Filipino man's child while married to you... it has happened before, no doubt, but they're clever enough to know you could tell. The genes of foreigners and Filipinas seem to mix well, but Filipino genes are not awfully strong; almost always, the child comes out looking far lighter then the Filipino parent, and therefore if the child is as brown as her she'll be found out immediately.
She has no legal right to being supported by you as a husband, when she cheats and has another man's child. You are free to kick her out of your house, free to abandon her and never look back. Hell, you could even sue her for adultery and she may go to jail for it. Especially when a simple DNA test will prove her deceit.
That said... a man's refusal to have children will be enough of a dealbreaker for most Filipina women, especially the poorer, uneducated and less well-to-do ones, to not consider him as a partner. After all, they could easily get another foreign sucker who
does want to give them children.
I've met only one woman in the Philippines who adamently wanted no children, and she's a girl who went to university in Manila and is an avid feminist who refuses to let any man "colonize her womb". Her widowed mother is not too pleased and, needless to say, neither is her strictly Catholic family. Had she stated the desire to become a nun, regardless of a similar outcome, it would have been a whole different story.
This is the culture, and it is what it is. I would say most are upfront about what they want in life, and are capable of finding a man who will get it to her. If you find a woman who does not desire children, chances are she is more ambitious, more career-oriented and inherently more selfish. Rather then clean your house, she would suggest you get a maid as is custom among more affluent Filipinos. This type of woman would, in may ways, be just as demanding as most Western women. She may be a great match but she would not be the simple "yes sir, no sir" type that stays indoors and does the dishes.
