I agree. It seems the ones that are dead set in their ways are not successful with women, yet think they have an answer. If a way of thinking is not working, try another.Nomad wrote:Well.. how is that working out for you?Nailer wrote:That's nonsense. It's a sales funnel. You need prospects. You can't just hope and pray the "right" customer will come along some day. You have to put yourself into a position to have maximum numbers of potential sales, because 90% of them will not work out. You don't have to wait around months or years to see if a new location will work out. If you aren't getting bites in the first week, it's no good. By the time you do meet someone you will be so desperate and needy you won't be in a good position to bargain from.
If you aren't going out with one new girl each week you need to make drastic changes to your situation or change your location. You need those numbers even if you are looking for just one steady partner.
The only thing I know in America that actually works is a part-time bartending job. Everything else is snakeoil and pop psychology.
I am not saying your wrong, I am just telling you how I got my wife. I heard what your saying right now a million times from PUA types. Put yourself out there. Get numbers. Go on dating sites. For every 1000 girls you contact, 10 will say yes, from those 10, 9 will say no, and then by the power of numbers, that 1 special girl will say yes.
The problem with that theory, is you get 999 rejects which I don't think is good for anyone's self-esteem.
Well, you can do it that way if you think that is the path to success. I just told you mine. I prayed to the Lord, and the very same day I met my wife. But if you want to go through all that hassle I just described above, good luck bro.
I always had a string of women by never doing what i read here: having a shit job, PUA stuff, being a doos, putting myself 'out there etc. I cant recall the number but it is plenty. But I never got the right type. Either a decent woman who is not compatible, or trash women. Fit for sex but no more. That had become my pattern. sex but no more. So I was only meeting women suited for that. I only got a decent one that clicks when I changed my approach and did the opposite of my norm: move on when no sex after 3 encounters. I stuck it out, and found the main attraction wasn't get my dick wet but the many things we had in common. Also for the first time I prayed for the right reason. Not to get what I want in an entitlement way, but for God to send what is good for me and that i don't bugger it up. After I realised it could be right, I prayed, and next thing I know it went to a whole new level. No sex immediately but much more intimate. Then sex came with a bang. And all the other things men complain the wish they had: lunch packed, shared expenses, back scratches, respect, always asking what i want, meals cooked, help running my house etc. Months later not 1 complaint and certainly my life is even more happy than it was.
So maybe it sounds silly, especially if you are not Christian, but for me it worked. You can figure out the right way for you, or continue on what has been the wrong path. I am not saying what works for me will work for you. We are a different ages and cultures. But maybe it will help you find your way.
The people on here who are not getting women, well what is their opinion worth? certainly they are not doing the right thing for them.