Do you think that most loners stay home every weekend?

Temprano26 · Post by **Temprano26** » July 11th, 2013, 9:52 pm

I have found this to be true much of my life. There was a period I had to go out places alone and when I looked around I felt like I was the only one at a table by myself. It sucked actually but I made the best of it because I knew I didn't want to be one of those people that sat passive in their life staying at home watching TV every Saturday night. I had to take initiative to put myself out there and find social contacts. A woman is not going to walk into my living room.

This is another point I want to dwell on. People are always trying to convince me that I am miserable because I have a bad attitude towards life. Well, I went out and every time I had a good attitude but I cannot say the same about everyone around me. People at night clubs and bars too often have really bad attitudes towards everyone they do not know. Their conversations are shallow, negative and petty. They have these frowns on their faces like they are too good to smile at anyone or even to acknowledge that anyone else exists outside of their small worlds. Other people cannot possibly understand what I see because when people go out they go out with their cliques and they don't have to acknowledge the world around them. Few really know what it means to have to work to meet other human beings. Few people really see how stuck-up the culture is in America because they live in these fantasy lands where America is a social place full of possibilities and that anyone not finding friends is just a loser that is staying at home.

I traveled to Costa Rica because I could no longer tolerate living lonely and dateless all the time. Those people are so happy, genuine and down-to-earth with stronger values and a rich culture. All of those hours working out at the gym had finally paid off because I was in a culture where people didn't ignore each other all the time. Right now, I do spend most of my time alone but I am studying to be a massage therapist and I can name almost all of the facial muscles now plus a few more. Thankfully, people going into a profession of healing are people of a lot more substance than what I see in much of America.

AnonymousAmerican · Post by **AnonymousAmerican** » July 11th, 2013, 10:09 pm

I have some friends but a lot of times, I am a loner, and I stay home a lot in the weekends because I can't stand being around other americans. americans are so f***ing retarded that their presence annoys me.

momopi · Post by **momopi** » July 12th, 2013, 1:54 pm

"Heading for the woods and moors, settling into the spacious wilderness, angling for fish in deserted places. This is simply doing nothing. It is the taste of the gentlemen of rivers and seas, those who shun the age, the untroubled idlers"

http://ctext.org/zhuangzi

Bane · Post by **Bane** » July 12th, 2013, 8:15 pm

Most of my friends are those whom I have met online anyway. Most of them come from other countries or other parts of the US, far away from me.

So really, when I want to socialize, I go home, I get on the net and type. I value my online friends more than most folks I met "in real life."

RedMenace · Post by **RedMenace** » July 12th, 2013, 9:17 pm

Bane wrote:Most of my friends are those whom I have met online anyway. Most of them come from other countries or other parts of the US, far away from me.

So really, when I want to socialize, I go home, I get on the net and type. I value my online friends more than most folks I met "in real life."

Similar to me. I don't socialise with people my age because I find them really immature and frankly annoying because its impossible to have debates concerning world issues, politics, e.t.c with them. They only speak about the nights they got drunk e.t.c which i find really annoying. I actually found someone special through her friend who i found through the internet. Now its like we are best friends separated by distance. That's partially true. I kind of find it weird that i make friends through the internet but hopefully that will change when we meet in person.

fightforlove · Post by **fightforlove** » July 12th, 2013, 9:42 pm

Yeah I'm one of them right now. Some of my old friends have gotten kind of annoying, I think we're on different frequencies now. We still hang once a month or so, but I'd rather just stay in or do something by myself than do the same ole BS with them. I haven't been able to really find new friends since there are very few single 30-year-olds in my town. I am becoming a lone ranger out here.