Pinay Teacher wrote:Filipinas who are fortunate enough to be college educated and even those in the middle class are not "racist" or a discriminating lot, the truth here is when it comes to international dating, they are a bit wary because of the stigma attached to it, moreover...The Philippine women in regard to views and talk of sex are still a little close mouthed and this topic is taboo for most. conservatism and being traditional is what society dictates (The only Christian country in SE asia). One thing though, most young professionals are stepping out of this norms and for guys here whose looking for casual sex and great conversations try these places you might get lucky (the Fort in Taguig and Eastwood city in Libis)
Do keep in mind that other non Christian countries in SE Asia - your neighbours- are just as conservative about sex and it is a taboo to talk about it as well in daily situations. Places like Laos and Cambodia and Myanmar as well as Indonesia and even Thailand, except when talking among people of the same sex about it. Their cultures dictate exactly same things and are just as conservative.
Trust me, the Philippines has its racists too, especially among those who have a bit of money or education. Such people fly into rage when someone in Hong Kong generalizes all Filipinos as servants and bemoan how some of their compatriots are treated overseas and are called maids even if they are teachers there. But then these same people turn around and generalize all white guys are whore mongers and unable to speak Tagalog and then look down on mixed couples and gossip about them. That needs to stop. If you want to be treated fairly by others, then start treating others fairly.
In all fairness, though, there are just way too many white/black guys in RP who parade around with hookers and who give other white/black guys who want to date regular girls a bad name. Luckily there are now huge numbers of such foreign guys who are there with regular girlfriends so people are now getting used to that. It is especially true in smaller towns where most white guys are just with a regular girl, not a hooker. But here in Angeles, just about 80 percent of them are sex tourists with some pretty jaded looking bar girls by their side.
Also, for example, while in Hong Kong Filipinas are generalized as maids, you have to keep in mind that the majority are maids. As the economy in RP gets better, there will be fewer such maids and more professional business people. In the US a Filipina is generalized as a nurse or a teacher because that is what many of them are. Filipinos are generally not looked down upon in the US. With a better economy in RP and more people getting degrees and hookers becoming more expensive, the majority of white guys you will see with Pinays will only be those who live and work in RP, who love the country and who want to integrate and date good girls there. Also, some 10 years from now, the Philippines will start shaking off its colonial heritage and will stand proud with its very unique and beautuful culture and will demand that foreigners integrate as they must do in Indonesia, Malaysia and your other neighbors. So, I think things will be getting better in the future, not worse.
But then again, people should just mind their own business and not be judgemental and in a country like the Philippines, there are still way too many people who like to gossip. But one day they will stop and just no longer pay attention to that.
Myself and other white/black guys here have come up against some negative reactions a couple of times. It is just a fact of life. The good thing is that they are a very small minority, the majority of the people are extremely nice and very multicultural ( in a true sense not in the BS American sense) and very welcoming. The country does not have a dogmatic nationalist mythology or a scientific institutionalized racism/nationalism as say, Thailand or Malaysia. In the Anglo countries and in Japan, the majority of the people are racist with the minority being open minded,and that is the difference.
Stigma against international dating is still racism either way you twist it. If you do not treat all people equally and because someone is of a different skin color you treat him differently and deny him the right to socialize with you or are ashamed to walk by his side, you practice racism. However, racism in the Philippines is weak, nationalism is also weak. Most white guys who are in RP are not going to stop dating Pinays because some people gossip. They just don't give a damn. Welcome to globalization. With millions of Filipinos living and working in our countries, you will also get white people now moving to your country. It is just exchange and no one can stop it. So, soon people will just have to get used to it. If they don't like it, tough!
An example is one of my female friends here who is from a fairly rich family on Mindanao. She always cusses foreigners whom she perceives to be slighting the Filipinos or criticising the Philippines, even if they don't and tells them to gtfo and is very vocal about it. But her BF is now a Spaniard and she is like a sister to me and treats me as her brother. When I was in Hong Kong she asked me "kailan ka babalik sa
ating bansa, (not
aming bansa) Meaning when will you come back to (your with mine) country. A very pleasant thing to hear.
