MarcosZeitola wrote:The problem is the me, myself and I mentality that young Western or Westernized people have these days. A by-pdroduct of wealth and decadence is the death of the family unit. Families are smaller, less personal. More people grow up without siblings or with a huge age gap with their one sibling, causing them to never learn how to share. Parents dump their children with caregivers while working, as both the man and the woman often have jobs. Not having children also becomes accepted, if not cheered on; people take home cats and dogs, call them "my baby" and forsake their traditional roles... not only women do (feminism), even men (MGTOW).
It is a deep, intense sense of selfishness permeating every layer of society. Where the future is of no consequence, the past boring, and only showing off and being comfortable in the here and now matter. Even in the Western world, in Europe, in America, I still see healthy, kind and friendly people. They all have one thing in common: they tend to come from a warm and loving family. They have siblings they are close with. Parents who care for them. Grandparents who they respected and to whose council and sage advice they listened.
Then there are all the only children, who act like they are princes and princesses. China has a whole generation of those, and these are intensely selfish individuals. In the West, we can add the children of single mothers to the mix. Mothers with daddy issues, so not only is the father gone but the grandfather is also not in the picture. She may be a feminist and have a general distrust for men, so out go the uncles and there are no male friends. Many young men, therefore, grow up without (positive?) male role models. Then they go to school with the selfish offspring of highly materialistic and career-driven couples.
Decadence breeds self-centeredness, which in turn breeds loneliness. Some of the warmest people I met, had traditional values, traditional families, and lived in close proximity of one another. These people are a dying breed in the Western world of today, but in China, Korea, Japan and other industrialized nations you will also see them less and less. The change happens in the houses, in the schools. And the only way to do anything about it is to go to nations with high birth rates and traditional family values, because this is where you can still escape the sense of meaningless materialism.
Thanks for the input. Now, I have went internally, as that should be the automatic response when talking about social things (i.e. "women don't find me attractive"). I asked myself "why dont i fit in with my generation?". I thought maybe I was an asshole, or perhaps I was offending people without noticing. Were there some things I needed to work on? Yes. But after I began working on these things, everything (everyone) around me stayed the same. Still selfish. Still two-faced. Still lacking in honour. What generation other than my own glorifies sleeping with someone else's girlfriend? It's in all our songs ("I got a missed call from your bitch!"), and I even had a former Christian classmate say to another classmate, "I don't care if she's dating someone, if a naked girl is in front of me i'm doing things". Every time after that when I brought it up as a reason as to why he and I can never be friends, he would come up with one hundred and one excuses. "That's not what I meant", "Well, wouldn't I be doing them a favour by showing my friend she's a whore?", "I never said that", and when those failed, he even went so far as to lie and try to convince me I wasn't there for that conversation. I don't care if this makes me look gay, soft or "bitch made". I'm not going to touch a taken girl. Period. It's non-negotiable and I don't want you around me if you do it. But this is par the course for Generation Y.
Then we have people who don't know how to raise children. They grow up lacking in certain areas, and now it seems like everyone has anxiety, bipolar, BPD or some other kind of mental issue. The worst part is they don't think it's a problem, and now there is this belief that women are supposed to be crazy? On what planet is that healthy? All day, every day, my generation keeps on having kids in high school, dropping out, not even getting a GED and somehow thinking they've made the right choice. When I was held back from graduating, I made damn sure my ass was in school all year until I got my degree. Not GED, not 'ticket of release'. A high school diploma.
I'm not sure it's the lack of traditional families though. Sure, they help, but there is no way a lack of traditional families can cause all of THIS. This
mess. Perhaps there is just negative energy permeating the west and the only solution for those with the will to change that is to simply leave. I'm a problem-solver though, as anyone who knows me here or in real life is aware of. I can't help thinking this decadence has a critical mass, like most things not used in moderation.
Snuff sites get more traffic than anything positive. Seeing people die in sick and twisted ways gets you views, but being a positive, kind person earns you a struggle. That's my problem with the west. Not because I can't show up with my cock out and go home with a female, but because it's full of selfish, decadent, narcissistic, mentally-ill, two-faced, untrustworthy cretins who spend their days watching videos of people being lit on fire or celebrity nude pictures instead of things that will make them develop and grow as a person. At this point, I'm going full-fledged happier abroad. It's clear I can't stay here and shouldn't, as the few of you I get along with have escaped. I want to make it work. I want to fix problems. I really do. But I can't force change. Sometimes, the only winning move is to simply not play.
Self-improvement addict. Always striving for perfection.