YoucancallmeAl wrote:Hey guys,
I've been away from the forum since January. How's everybody been doing?
here's my update:
I went to PI for 6 weeks from late January til early March and only dated one girl while there. I met her online and apparently hit it off well cuz she slept with me on the first night. I ended up staying at her place most of the whole time in PI.
I brought protection and used it but ran out one night and rode bareback just once. I've been back in the US since March. Now's she's pregnant and the kid is due in 2 or 3 months. (I'm 95% sure she's telling the truth and it is in fact mine)
I would feel like a real dick if I abandoned her and the kid and didn't at least try to be an available dad for this child. And though I don't love her, she is very sweet and a bit hotter than the average filipina. I could accept taking on the husband/father role in this situation. I've always been single but I think I'm ready to be the family man now.
So should I marry her?
Some additional factors:
- Like Winston, I really hated the negatives of life in the PI. The pollution and the mosquitos were making me sick.
- Her family is relatively middle-class. One of her relatives is married to a European and he sends them a decent amount of money. When I was there, she never attempted to use me or leech off of me. I bought most things, but she would sometimes pay for our food or taxi fare herself.
- However, she's now asking me for $700 so she can have the child at a higher-quality private hospital.
- Before she was pregnant, I told her that I wouldn't be able to bring her back to the US, as I make my living off the books and thus can't prove adequate income to allow her in on a fiance or marriage visa.
- To be a good dad to this child, I'm thinking of spending 3 to 4 months a year with them in PI, and the rest in the US trying to make and save money. We won't have many luxeries this way, but we should just get by.
Any suggestions/advice for a situation like this?
You should marry her if:
-You have a superb relationship with her.
-You know ALL of her strengths and weaknesses!
-If you are a monogamous person or a one-woman kind of man (giving credit to djfourmoney).
You shouldn't marry her if:
-You believe in polygamy.
-You or her has more weaknesses than strengths.
I want to ask you a couple of questions. Where do you want to marry her? If you decide to marry her, where do you want to live? If she wants to live in the Philippines and you want to live in the USA, you have to work something out. It is a wonderful idea to think about your child. Children need to know their mother and father. If children know their mother and father, it makes them happy.
I have another question. Do you feel comfortable giving her $700?
My advice: make the decision that is best to you! I did not vote for your question because I do not want to vote for the wrong answer and it messes you up. Good luck!
There aren't many attractive women (inside and outside) in America. A man wants a physically attractive woman with attractive personality traits. American women usually don't have that combination.
Ever since I found Winston's website and read the information on there, my life has been much easier and I've been a MUCH more happier person!
No matter how good she looks, some other guy is sick and tired of putting up with her crap. ~Author Unknown (Quote about women)