Loss of Sexual Desire

[ladislav]

At around 46-47 I started noticing that my sexual prowess and desire began going downhill. Now, at 53, I can go for many months without sex and for days without thinking about it. Before, my penis always needed feeding, but now it has mostly left me alone.

Having lived in countries where going for sex was like going to a Seven-11 has played a role, but also, age has played a big role in it, too.

I once took testosterone supplements, and it went up, but I am back in OH now, and I don't want it to return.

I feel strangely empty, but also very much at peace. I look at porn with no excitement, sometimes asking myself- 'Why would anyone want to do such a thing?'

I look at pictures of pretty girls and models, and they no longer make my heart flutter.

I have a foster daughter in the Philippines who is 4 years old and who is my ex maid's kid. She called me Daddy since the 1st month she saw me. Instead of wanting to have a proper wife with a kid, I derive big satisfaction from being a dad to the foster kid, taking her and her mom to amusement parks and buying her toys when I am in PH. My life somehow presented me with a child, and I feel content. The little girl always tells her mom that she wants to Skype " Daddy". This makes me happy. I feel that I don't need anything else.

When I was in Jamaica just now, I met some girls who were flirting with me, and I knew I could take it further. I did not.

I went to a go go bar and left after one hour.

Sex and love used to be the driving engine behind everything I did in life, and now I've run out of steam and I am not unhappy about it.

I just realized that reading all your concerns about dating and all the enthusiasm and emotions here is already leaving me puzzled- 'Why is it such a big part of your lives?'

Loss of sexual desire is in store for all of us. Everyone of you, too. We need to plan on it.

I also think that I am now the oldest guy on this forum. I can share my experience, but I look at some of the photos of your conquests now and I am afraid I can't equally share in your enthusiasm.

[polya]

This is true - guys often go through this in their 50s. Guys should seriously consider freezing sperm when they are young in case they find a mother to have children later in life.

It sounds like you're very happy, so you can concentrate on other things instead of the "pussay" e.g. making money.

[Banano]

Polya he said he is NOT happy about it

"Sex and love used to be the driving engine behind everything I did in life, and now I've run out of steam and I am not unhappy about it. "


You think making money will make him happy ? The truth of the matter is that the older you get the less you need(sex, food,drinks),
things get even harder now as the driving engine is gone for good.

Lad,
You are in your early 50s, you can still go back to PH and get someone half your age to have family with? its still better than taking care of someone else's kid.

[Taco]

If you stay in shape, take Niacin, Arginine and lay off the beer you can definitely extend your sex life. I see 60 yr old guys married to 20 yr old Filipinas and they have kids so they must be doing something right. Also, I remember meeting a 75 yr old guy with a pregnant wife once and that was before the days of Viagra.

[Hero]

If you stay in shape, take Niacin, Arginine and lay off the beer you can definitely extend your sex life. I see 60 yr old guys married to 20 yr old Filipinas and they have kids so they must be doing something right. Also, I remember meeting a 75 yr old guy with a pregnant wife once and that was before the days of Viagra.

Just looked up Arginine. It looks like you're supposed to take that with some other stuff?

[C.J.]

A wise man has just gotten wiser!

It really sucks that it only took what? An extra 20 years?

A life without love and sex being the foundation isn't a bad thing, and I'm glad you embraced it. A very wise man indeed.

[gsjackson]

Polya he said he is NOT happy about it

"Sex and love used to be the driving engine behind everything I did in life, and now I've run out of steam and I am not unhappy about it. "

Reading comprehension can be your friend. Try again.

[Moretorque]

This is why our children's world looks the way it does " young men thinking with their peters". It sounds like a man who grew up and finally realized the end result from the encounter of sex is the real joy of sex, the camaraderie of our children and also the means of our genetic immortality through them.

They told us not to eat freely of the mist in the center of the garden, young men are to immature for that on most accounts.

[ladislav]

Oh, I can still revive the desire thru intake of testosterone and all those things. That is not the point, though.

The point is I am not unhappy-- I'm starting to feel the way I did in my pre-puberty days- I was looking at people kissing and loving and saying WTF!- what's so fun about it? Exchanging saliva, smiling lusciviously at what? Stupid adults.

And when they told me about sex, I thought it was disgusting- why would anyone want to stick his little peter into someone's hairy smelly pee-hole and keep pumping it?

There are so many more enjoyable things such as exploring nature, boating and friendship. Science, travel, technology, etc.

I think I'm the oldest guy here, so I'm just telling you that that day will arrive in your life, and it's nothing to be feared- it is actually something to look forward to, in a way. Like some evil spirit who possessed you and tormented you just let go of you and you can now relax.

[ladislav]

This was a poem I wrote several years back

So long ago I was a child
With mind so pure
And manners mild,
And dreams of treasures, valor and what not,
Of things like sailing 'round the world in my yacht.

At night I'd sit and watch
Bright planets in the sky
When they and then the stars
Would roll on by.
My mind would travel
To a distant cosmic shore,
Exploring corners of the Universe
I hadn't known before.

I could converse with trees
And birds and camels
And fish and insects,
Shrimp and gnawing mammals.

It was my Age of Innocence,
Profundity and tranquil joy.
My soul was crystal clean.
My heart was daring yet coy.

And then damn puberty arrived
Along with pimples, rock-n-roll and teenage jive
And, ruthlessly, to my dismay, my hormones then kicked in,
And then a loathsome fire started burning from within.

Oh, how raging, how wicked was that fire!
A sticky, overwhelming s*xual desire!
My inner organs started churning sperm-
Their tiny bodies would inside my body squirm.

I lost my cosmic understanding then
Becoming slowly just like the rest of men-
Possessed by billions of slick spermatazoa
Who bound my freedom like some giant boa.

All I could think of now was just thighs and breasts,
Girls' hair, buttocks, nipples, calves and all the rest.
I would spend days on end forever contemplating
Just how and when I could be copulating
With all the pretty girls at school and in my neighborhood,
And nothing in my life would be as good.

Since then, I have become a lewd and horny being,
Salacious, randy, raunchy, with my reason fleeing
Forever from my once unclouded mind,
While leaving me, detestable, behind.

A prisoner of s*x, my life had now but one goal:
Of how I could fertilize them all-
Those girls and women, that is what I mean...
And so, I ended up a brainless s*x machine.

I've chased them skirts for three decades and now,
My money's gone, I've been divorced; somehow
Along with many men, I've wasted years of our lives
On seeking out wh*res in seedy dives.
I've had VD and spent amounts unknown
To hear myself emit a lustful groan.
I've spent humongous sums of cold, hard cash
To sow my seed inside some barren gash.

All for the sake of what? Just what IS s*x?
If not an awkward way of fertilizing human eggs.
T'is just a way for Mother Nature to entice
All men to either marriage or a life of vice,
To leave behind the purity and freedom they once knew
To spread around their slimy goo.

So how could I, a former cosmic child
Just turn into a beast so wild
So base and vulgar that I think, I'll never
Be pure again or as pristine or clever
As what I used to be before that puberty
Created all this vile impropriety?

And so I warn you all- do not become a slave
To procreation urges! Let them rave,
But don't you let them rule your precious brain.
If not, your whole life may be in vain.

[C.J.]

Like some evil spirit who possessed you and tormented you just let go of you and you can now relax.

!!!

It took a while, but I'm glad someone is looking upwards.

By the way, I love the poem! The message doesn't get any purer than that.

[Teal Lantern]

At around 46-47 I started noticing that my sexual prowess and desire began going downhill. Now, at 53, I can go for many months without sex and for days without thinking about it. Before, my penis always needed feeding, but now it has mostly left me alone.

Having lived in countries where going for sex was like going to a Seven-11 has played a role, but also, age has played a big role in it, too.

Sounds normal.
I'd guess video games, baseball cards, comic books, beer, fishing, cars, women, and dozens of other things fascinate us at one age, then, at another age, we can't believe all the time & money spent/wasted on those things.
Think of the pack-a-day smoker, who, after a ten year habit, calculates the total $$$ he spent on ciggies.

Even some of the famous PUAs are "putting a ring on it".
Right now, there's a well-known MRA guy who spent years staunchly anti-marriage and the manosphere is giving him crap because he just got engaged.... to a single mom.

So, yeah. Interests change over time.

[Jester]

........The point is I am not unhappy-- I'm starting to feel the way I did in my pre-puberty days.......

......There are so many more enjoyable things such as exploring nature, boating and friendship. Science, travel, technology, etc.

I remember watching my young son play with another boy at around age 11 or 12. They were focused on some boy-project together. Immersed.

An incredibly luscious teen beauty sashayed by. I gaped. Then I looked back at my son and his friend. Still immersed. They had not noticed the girl at all.

I watched the boys with wonder. And I prayed that this year in their lives could last for three years instead of one. None of the anxiety, self-consciousness, peer pressure and distraction of adolescence. Just pure immersion and exultation in boyish things.

This was a poem I wrote several years back

So long ago I was a child
With mind so pure
And manners mild,
And dreams of treasures, valor and what not,
Of things like sailing 'round the world in my yacht.

At night I'd sit and watch
Bright planets in the sky
When they and then the stars
Would roll on by.
My mind would travel
To a distant cosmic shore,
Exploring corners of the Universe
I hadn't known before.

I could converse with trees
And birds and camels
And fish and insects,
Shrimp and gnawing mammals.

It was my Age of Innocence,
Profundity and tranquil joy.
My soul was crystal clean.
My heart was daring yet coy.

And then damn puberty arrived
Along with pimples, rock-n-roll and teenage jive
And, ruthlessly, to my dismay, my hormones then kicked in,
And then a loathsome fire started burning from within.

Oh, how raging, how wicked was that fire!
A sticky, overwhelming s*xual desire!
My inner organs started churning sperm-
Their tiny bodies would inside my body squirm.

I lost my cosmic understanding then
Becoming slowly just like the rest of men-
Possessed by billions of slick spermatazoa
Who bound my freedom like some giant boa.

All I could think of now was just thighs and breasts,
Girls' hair, buttocks, nipples, calves and all the rest.
I would spend days on end forever contemplating
Just how and when I could be copulating
With all the pretty girls at school and in my neighborhood,
And nothing in my life would be as good.

Since then, I have become a lewd and horny being,
Salacious, randy, raunchy, with my reason fleeing
Forever from my once unclouded mind,
While leaving me, detestable, behind.

A prisoner of s*x, my life had now but one goal:
Of how I could fertilize them all-
Those girls and women, that is what I mean...
And so, I ended up a brainless s*x machine.

I've chased them skirts for three decades and now,
My money's gone, I've been divorced; somehow
Along with many men, I've wasted years of our lives
On seeking out wh*res in seedy dives.
I've had VD and spent amounts unknown
To hear myself emit a lustful groan.
I've spent humongous sums of cold, hard cash
To sow my seed inside some barren gash.

All for the sake of what? Just what IS s*x?
If not an awkward way of fertilizing human eggs.
T'is just a way for Mother Nature to entice
All men to either marriage or a life of vice,
To leave behind the purity and freedom they once knew
To spread around their slimy goo.

So how could I, a former cosmic child
Just turn into a beast so wild
So base and vulgar that I think, I'll never
Be pure again or as pristine or clever
As what I used to be before that puberty
Created all this vile impropriety?

And so I warn you all- do not become a slave
To procreation urges! Let them rave,
But don't you let them rule your precious brain.
If not, your whole life may be in vain.

Right on.

[kai1275]

Testosterone needs to be checked. You need 400+ at your age, any less than that, and you wont notice much unless you are less than 200 which is dangerous anyway.

You also need Bilberry (increase blood flow and circulation (helps to regulate blood pressure)), Niacin, Maca, Tribulous, Korean Ginseng (the expensive root, not the American kind), Zinc, Omega Fish Oil DHA etc, Chondroitin MSM, garlic supplements, Flax Seed Oil, and CQ10 as well. Acai is good to help remove oxidized radicals in your system too.

Don't waste time trying to find poetic and ideological solutions to what might be a chemical/physical imbalance issue.....You are what you eat. Food is supposed to be your medicine too. Your diet may be betraying you.

[C.J.]

I remember watching my young son play with another boy at around age 11 or 12. They were focused on some boy-project together. Immersed.

An incredibly luscious teen beauty sashayed by. I gaped. Then I looked back at my son and his friend. Still immersed. They had not noticed the girl at all.

I noticed the opposite in my nephews. Two of them, ages 6 and 10. When girls are on TV or walking by in person, they get that "dayum" look on their faces and the proceed to tell me as much physical info about the sow as possible. This is "I suck in school but not when it comes to women/cars!" kind of knowledge.

They've been exposed and possessed by sexual deviants like their mother(s). It's too late for them. May God have mercy on their depraved souls.

I didn't have this mental disease, until I happened to watch porn for the first time when I was 10 - my parents' fault, as they left a tape laying around, and left us kids alone for a couple hours. We happened to come across it after me and my siblings were running around the house for a bit.

Those "hormones kicking in" may be more than just that. More sinister perhaps.