Very smart move. A bit late, but better late then never. It's unwise to postpone this process any longer at her age. An eye on the future and swift action could save you a lot of tears later on.Falcon wrote:Great points. We're thinking about this and are planning to go to a fertility clinic this month to see what the doctors say.
Just take the necessary steps that enable you to have a family with her, somewhere down the road, even if it is a few years from now. Eggs can be frozen. Treatments nowadays give you a lot of leeway. But "lets just see how things go" is never a wise way of doing things. You may find that, by the time you are "ready", her body isn't anymore.Falcon wrote:But it's not an absolute must for now. Life abroad can be quite uncertain, and having kids can complicate things more. We will be weighing all the pro's and con's and thinking about this carefully.
It may be that its more of a burden then a must to you right now. But trust me... the pain of not having the choice any longer because you waited too long to take steps, is far worse. I know you love your daughter dearly, and I know blood is not the most important thing for you. But take it from someone who knows: holding a child of your own, one day, is the single most powerful life experience you could ever experience. And if you really love this woman more then any woman you ever loved... you should want this experience with her, rather then with anyone else. But forgo of this now, and I can already predict your relationship will one day fall apart. You will still be her friend, you will still have a father-daughter-relationship with her daughter no doubt, but there will be something missing in your life my friend.
This is my only issue with age gaps in relationships, where the man is far younger then his lady; she gave her best years to another man, but worse: she gave her fertility to another man. That, in the end, is the biggest hurdle for your relationship. You may not feel it right now, but I am glad you take my advice and give it some serious thought. Because if this lady truly is "the one", I would hate for you to lose her.